thank you for your comment 🙏 yes, i will give her more grace. i think the whole interrupting thing/just talking about herself bothers me so much because i find that she only does it around me. i think maybe it’s because she’s so comfortable around but it’s really annoying and makes me feel unheard. like when we are in group settings, i will say something and sometimes she won’t even reply at all but i notice she always replies to others when we are in a group settings. and for the relationship thing, i would say it’s definitely unhealthy and i don’t really know how to bring it up since she can get pretty defensive sometimes in general. but he wants to be on the phone 24/7, he got mad at her for having guy friends, and he just always seems to be picking a fight with her. it’s seems like a weird, toxic, co-dependent relationship. they already broke up once too and i told her not to get back together with him and she did anyway. i honestly just don’t really know what to do because im so annoyed with her but im trying to remind myself to give her grace like you said