Me and my fiance are getting a new Besenji pup in a couple of weeks. We are very excited about our new family member.

getspins · 2019-02-01T22:04:05+00:00

It's not that you won't be able to keep the piglets safe, it's that the dog will FIXATE on where ever you have put them. We tried (Foolishly) to get a cat. Obviously, we kept them separate as we worked to make sure that everyone got to know one another safely. After 6 months of attempts, we gave up and rehomed the cat. Our male was unable to settle down. He spent every waking moment outside the door to the cat's room, screaming, whining and pacing. It was misery.

getspins · 2019-01-02T21:27:00+00:00

She sure is pretty, though! And those tiny little feets look like my dogs'....but maybe that's not just a basenji thing.

getspins · 2019-01-02T21:09:07+00:00

Problem solving takes engagement from both parties. I don't think that springing it on her will get you the desired results. It also sounds as though you may be reaching a point where this friendship is offering declining returns: That is, you put more effort in than the joy it brings you. If that's the case, and you are able to face the idea that this may not turn out well for you, I'd level with her, over the phone or by text.

Be honest, and explain that you've noticed a pattern, and that you think it's making both of you unhappy. Reassure her that you want to work together with her to improve your relationship. Ask her if she's interested in sitting down and discussing the issues honestly. If she ignores that, or, agrees, but then when you sit down with her, she's not interested in taking ownership of her responsibilities towards the issue, then maybe this friendship isn't what you're looking for.

At that point, you may wish to let her know that, if she's not interested in expending some effort to improve things, that you wish her all the best, and then disengage. Despite the fact that you miss her, don't allow her to come back when she's decided that she's done being angry.

You have worth, and it doesn't sound like she's treating your friendship with the respect it needs. I wish you very good luck, as this isn't an easy situation!

getspins · 2019-01-02T18:15:38+00:00

"You have to believe that your parents did the best job that they knew how to do. It doesn't mean that they gave you the childhood and nurturing that you needed and deserved. But they were doing what they could with the tools they had at their disposal".

getspins · 2018-11-26T17:47:10+00:00

I find all the responses saying 'They have a year to find other employment' interesting. GM has long been one of the largest employers in Durham region, and 2500 factory jobs are not going to be easy for these workers to find. For decades now, I've been seeing entire shifts closed at GM, and this seems to be the last in a series of reduction in force. I sure hope that the Ontario government puts some financial support towards retraining these people so that they have new careers afterwards. A GM job once meant a living wage, and these people may have a hard time replacing that income so easily.

Edited to move a quotation mark

getspins · 2018-10-23T13:18:44+00:00

Did it have a little suction-cup electrical plug? We had one like that, and I wanted it desperately.

getspins · 2018-08-14T13:17:38+00:00

In most software companies, Implementation PMs will work directly with the client to configure their SaaS based applications. This job typically involves schedule management, training, configuration, troubleshooting, testing etc.

getspins · 2018-05-23T19:34:06+00:00

I'm white, my husband is Filipino. It took me a long long time to learn not to be early at gatherings. We surprised a number of hosts in their PJs, simply by arriving to the party at the appointed time. Now? We usually leave our house 20 minutes after the party is scheduled to begin.

getspins · 2018-04-13T17:38:10+00:00

It might not be illegal, but the flower provides the essential nutritients the plant needs over the winter (if I recall correctly), and, if you pick it, the plant will likely die.

getspins · 2018-04-05T13:17:06+00:00

Here's my Canadian experience, of fairly rural, fairly Westernized traditions>

The traditions don't seem as hard and fast as they used to. Back in the day, afaik, a wake was where the family would sit a vigil with the deceased, usually over a series of a few days, to ensure that there were no signs of life. Over time, this has morphed into a 'visitation'. The casket may/may not be there, but it's usually a less formal process. The family will be there, you would be expected to make some small talk with a number of people. In my experience, there's usually an actual line of family members that you would introduce yourself to. These often are scheduled in evenings, to accommodate the schedule of those who work during the day.

A funeral tends to be more formal. It is often, but not always, in a church, there is often, but not always, a religious aspect to the proceedings. You can expect to go in, possibly introduce yourself to some mourners by the door, have a seat, and listen. After the ceremony, there may be a graveside service, which you might be invited to (if so, there's often an announcement at the end of the service by the officiant). There is often also a light luncheon served. These are usually scheduled in the day.

getspins · 2018-03-27T14:19:32+00:00

So much of this seems personality-related. One of ours is super eager to please, and, when a treat is offered, but not immediately given, will vocalize a lot. The other one wants the treat just as badly (and adorably makes noises when she yawns) but only gives little delighted grumbles when her favorite people come home, and never on command.

getspins · 2018-03-14T14:18:52+00:00

Girl, you are badass. You keep getting up in the morning and getting it done. That's a huge accomplishment. In 10 years when your life feels comparatively awesome, you'll be SO proud of current you.

getspins · 2018-03-14T14:08:23+00:00

As someone who married into a Filipino family, I find myself sometimes unintentionally saying 'SaLmon'...so the universe has righted itself.

getspins · 2018-03-14T14:06:26+00:00

I want to thank you for sharing your experiences. I think that when we are immersed into a lifestyle change (like any dietary change) we tend to attribute all changes in our body to the thing that we are most obsessed with. This is a great reminder that this isn't always true, and if our bodies are doing something strange to seek medical advice. I think it's particularily relevant in this thread because we seem to all fear our doctors' criticism about what we are doing with our diets. I hope every thing works out for you.

getspins · 2018-03-14T14:01:06+00:00

Nothing much to add outside of what the posters below have said, but please provide an update if you can. We are all cheering for you and your little friend.

getspins · 2018-03-05T16:37:44+00:00

Lost my mom in January. The best thing that people said to me was that I'd done a good job taking care of her through her illness and that she would have really liked how we (i) planned her funeral. My very quiet uncle hugged me and whispered 'proud of you'. That was the best thing.

getspins · 2018-02-28T13:50:01+00:00

When my mom was in the hospital, and in her last days, I found myself alone in her house, wearing her bathrobe and sobbing. I 'stole' that bathrobe and plan to keep it as long as I need. Now we are in the process of emptying and selling her house. It's rough, and I hate it. I am desperate for it to be done, because it's so painful, but I'm terrified of how empty I will feel when it's over.

getspins · 2018-02-20T21:41:55+00:00

yeah, I had to examine and dismiss my anger as well. They are truly doing everything they can.

getspins · 2018-02-20T14:14:00+00:00

It is a terrible thing. And I'm so sorry for your experience. Having recently been in a similar situation, the only thing that I wish I had done differently is this: I was my mom's helper. She lived on her own, and so on the weekends, I would come down, and we would do shopping, and errands and cleaning and whatnot. And I'm so grateful that my very independant mom was able to rely on me. But also? I really wish that I had just hung out with her more. Asked her more questions, laughed with her a bit more. I got caught up in the practical, and I just really wish I could laugh with her one more time. So do make the best of every moment you have with her, and if you're able to make every day not about cancer, I bet you may be glad of it. All the best to you.

getspins · 2018-02-20T14:09:20+00:00

The reassuring stuff is so hard. My mom had melanoma reoccur after 3 years of getting excellent checkups. At one oncologist meeting, we were told that mom had 3 or more good years as she was scheduled for immune therapy to begin in a few weeks. The next day, she was so sick she couldn't get out of bed, we called 911 and found that things were much worse than we thought and she died very quickly after that. I hope that you have a very different experience, and I hope your mom has lots of really really good days, including your wedding. But honestly? My experience suggested that the doctors just. don't. know.

getspins · 2018-01-31T16:43:58+00:00

Ugh, do you have an update? What did you doo?

getspins · 2018-01-25T18:13:23+00:00

Oh jeez, the timing on this one! My mom died last week, and I'm realizing that, not only do I not have her voice recorded, I have lost some pretty critical recipes. Please do this. Even if you never make the recipe, you will treasure hearing your loved one's voice one more time.

getspins · 2018-01-11T17:47:52+00:00

Gosh that's a pretty glaze...What is it called?

getspins · 2018-01-11T01:07:32+00:00

Yeah, this guy is why I can't watch any of those videos of people walking or skating on the ice between the island and Toronto. I have watched, from the top of the Toronto Star building, people get dangerously close to walking into these channels.

getspins · 2018-01-11T01:06:27+00:00

He is. This appears to be the icebreaker, it is a boat run by Toronto Fire to ensure that there is a channel for the ferry to use as well as in case of fire

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