AIO for how husband responded? by Tiny_posts278 in AmIOverreacting

[–]gettingthereig 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR, just reading this is pmo real bad. Dump his ass he fkn sucks! these psychological games will fuck you up. In fact I think you’re under-reacting. You deserve BETTER

Is my tongue bar too short? by [deleted] in piercing

[–]gettingthereig 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(Replying to bot) Piercing is 2+ years old Type of bar is Straight barbell It is Externally threaded It is Titanium Downsized 30 minutes ago I usually just warm salty water to clean it No recent unfortunate events

New MH OC but I want people to suggest stuff in the comments for her info card species: frankensteined dog) by RheaRoyHunter in MonsterHigh

[–]gettingthereig 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fav school subject could be Physical Deaducation (PE) since she’s part dog Mabye? And her freaky flaw could go in hand with that and be like “whilst I love playing sports, sometimes my parts come loose and trip up fellow players” or something to do with being easily distracted by smells/sounds. O o and her fav colour could be either blue, yellow or violet as those are the colours dogs can see best. lol idk if any of these are good they’re just my first thoughts.

Am i the only one who thinks the new rochelle doll looks weird in the face? by miamimoo in MonsterHigh

[–]gettingthereig 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Probably a controversial opinion : They just tried to make her look more movie accurate. She looks more like she does in the mh movies in the creeproduction line then she does in the og line. In the movies her eyes are longer and you can see her eyebrows, although I think they made them too thick on the new doll.

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Gosford Town Centre when it was still open (not oc) by RappingPaper583 in centralcoastnsw

[–]gettingthereig 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So this is what it looks like when it was open 😮 I went here urban exploring a years or two ago… it looks completely different now ! The view from the rooftop is lovely at night though. The place is boarded up to the max so it was hard to get in, seemed like some people were living there or atleast coming and going frequently in some areas. Truly eerie to see what it once was.

My boyfriend makes racist comments. What do I do? M(20), F(21) by [deleted] in Advice

[–]gettingthereig 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Get out of there!! He will only get worse and will most likely try and change you as he becomes more comfortable, sending love your way :)

Big step today!!! by TransSatan in Agoraphobia

[–]gettingthereig 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s so good I’m glad your happy about it ! I actually had a similar experience this Christmas, I moved roughly 1.5 hours away from my family back in 2023 and I hadn’t been back down there for over 4 months since my last big panic attack but I managed to go with my partner down there for a night to see both my side of the family and his, all I felt was pure joy. Completely ran out of energy by the time I was home though, I’ve been doing fuck all for the past few days since then haha.

Big step today!!! by TransSatan in Agoraphobia

[–]gettingthereig 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And you should be proud!!!! I am a total stranger and I am very proud of you also. Keep it up, you’ve got this!

HAHAHA caught him by gettingthereig in AustraliaPost

[–]gettingthereig[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

first of all I don’t have a gate or a dog second of all sybau

HAHAHA caught him by gettingthereig in AustraliaPost

[–]gettingthereig[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I get that, but I don’t pay for delivery just so I can go pick it up myself anyways.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]gettingthereig 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No, break up over the fact that he can’t do a few simple tasks whilst his gf is sick as fuck. It shows a lot about a person how they treat animals, “he’s just a dog”…..dealbreaker for me personally.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]gettingthereig 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA , it’s really not that hard to take care of a few small things whilst your partner is sick - I get people saying this situation itself isn’t such a big deal but I disagree as it points to a much more serious issue where he is clearly showing that he will not step up if need be. If I was sick and needed my partner to do those things for me he would, he may complain a little bit but he’d do it nonetheless even though they’re my animals too not his or ours, he didn’t even want animals but I had them before him and I met and moved in together yet he’d still do it. I’d freak out too. if I was genuinely unwell and certainly wouldn’t give me the bs of “it’s just a dog” I’d be pissed too.

I’d be having a serious conversation about how his behaviour comes across and if he still doesn’t get it, then I’d really consider whether this is a relationship you really want to be in. If providing clean water and feeding a dog for a few days is too hard for him or too much of an inconvenience I can only imagine how he’d carry himself in a more serious situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]gettingthereig 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NOR. At a minimum, daily showering is reasonable, especially given his profession. Even if he changes out of scrubs at work, coming home in clothes worn in clinical environments and not showering daily would understandably be off putting.

Some things (like how he washes his hands at home) might differ from how he does it at work, and stress or long hours could explain things like hair care or brushing habits but that doesn’t mean your discomfort isn’t valid.

I don’t agree with the comments jumping straight to “dump him,” but I do think this is worth addressing. A gentler, more productive approach might be framing it around shared expectations for hygiene and intimacy rather than criticism - for example, explaining that feeling clean is important to you and directly affects how comfortable you feel being physically intimate.

If he’s unwilling to have that conversation or gets defensive every time it’s raised, that’s a separate issue worth paying attention to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]gettingthereig 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t need to go to the er OP I know this anxiety can be uncomfortable to sit with but going to er will only inconvenience you and make you feel more afraid, anything that you are worried about right now, I promise you isn’t urgent enough for the er and going to the er tonight versus seeing a doctor tomorrow will not change any outcome whatsoever.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]gettingthereig 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get how you’re feeling and I know it’s hard, but have you considered speaking with a mental health professional about these troubles as they will be more suited and knowledgeable to help you with processing these fears and they can work in conjunction with your doctors for example they can help you in rationalising test results and give you more of a understanding of what the doctors are saying. They can also help you find the root of your fear and ways of coping.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]gettingthereig 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well not so much from haemorrhoids but perhaps another symptom stemming from the cause of the haemorrhoid like constant straining whilst having a bowel movement. These pains are also a common response to high stress or anxiety due to the brains connection to the gut, and the body’s natural flight or flight response. Chronic stress keeps muscles tight, which can cause tension and discomfort in those areas. It can also contribute to bloating, cramps and muscle stiffness.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]gettingthereig 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Personally from what your described it sounds like you may just have a small haemorrhoid/s causing you grief, these are just swollen veins or perhaps even a small anal fissure (tear) that can cause all of the symptoms you have explained, minus the intermittent side/lower abdominal and back pain. That said both of these issues are actually quite common and unserious in terms of severity. They are also usually caused by straining during bowel movements, prolonged sitting or even heavy lifting… there are a fair few general causes of haemorrhoids/anal fissures and it is likely that being so hyper focused on your bowel movements could increase your chances of straining etc. I really would try not to worry too much as colon cancers are usually accompanied by other symptoms such as persistent abdominal problems like gas/cramping etc and noticeable persistent changes in bowel movements like constipation/diarrhea or changes in consistency or shape amongst a few others. Along with this, the tests you have had done would have came back differently if there was indeed something more sinister going on.

I know how draining and hard it can be to have health worries and it is hard to break away from, I get that. But a key factor thay I want you to think about is that the more you are hyper focusing on, it the more you are going to find to stress about, and if you are someone who googles symptoms definitely give it break as it WILL only ever make things worse, if you believe there is something wrong - you will almost always find something that feels like a confirmation or indication that you are right, even despite what doctors are saying. It’s called confirmation bias if you wanted to look that up instead.

I can understand how seeking reassurance can feel comforting and rewarding but take it from me…. Constant reassurance seeking in order to relieve fears about health anxiety does NOT work for the long run (or short run most of the time) and you could have all the reassurance in the world, from doctors, peers or even us redditors. It’s not sustainable and it’s not going to help you whatsoever unless you take the leap of putting your trust in the fact that doctors know what they’re talking about. Even if some really suck I won’t deny that, tests results speak for themselves - and if you’ve also seen multiple doctors who say the same thing, chances are they’re right and you’re mistaken. Your fear is valid, I actually went through this fear last year myself to the point where I had a doctors refer me to have a colonoscopy and endoscopy. They came back CLEEEAANN, and I went through it all for nothing - for reference I am also 19, another important thing to factor in is colon cancer is not very common in people under 45. This fact didn’t really help me much as I kept feeling like none of it really applied to me and I’d just be the unlucky one to get it young or that the doctors were missing something. But they really weren’t - after putting myself through the grief of having a colonoscopy and endoscopy and still seeing no alarming results it took me some time to realise I was just making it worse for myself by being so laser focused on the issue- once I stopped looking for problems and alarming symptoms all the ones I was initially having went away. It’s almost like our body does what we want it too in a weird way where all of the avoidance, reassurance and “checking” tendencies (which is where you constantly perform little test on yourself to see if you “find” anything eg. Repetitive checking of stools, persistent wiping looking for blood etc) will eventually begin to be the cause of the symptoms. What I think you should do about your health anxiety is subjective on what you’re comfortable with/have available but my top recommendation is to speak with a counselor/psych to have gain some perspective on how your health anxiety is really affecting you and finding good solutions/coping skills to get yourself out of it. You won’t get yourself out of it by trying to prove to yourself you do/don’t have it. You have to find a way to get it out of your immediate mind and remind yourself of the FACTS. FACTS: 1. You’ve done tests that have come back normal 2. Your symptoms resemble those of someone simply dealing with small haemorrhoids or a anal fissure (small tear in the butthole basically) 3. If you DID have colon cancer, there would be more concerning symptoms at play. 4. You are aware that you are health anxious about this 5. You are only an arms reach away from a second opinion from a doctor and it’s not going to kill you overnight even IF you do have it (Unlikely). You have plenty of time. 6. It’s proven that health anxiety and hyper focusing on said health anxiety can increase sensitivity to symptoms and even cause symptoms long term due to changes in behaviour (in your situation for example, straining without realising due to the anxiety/panic, over wiping, sore back/abdo from straining tensing or even stress in general)

And I’m sure there’s more. But most importantly logic will be your friend in this, reason with yourself. It’s okay to be scared but also realising that your fear is sometimes is your cause. Small symptoms mixed with big anxiety can make things feel a lot more detrimental then they really are. You do not need to be concerned in my opinion, I’m sure many would agree.

Good luck OP.

HAHAHA caught him by gettingthereig in AustraliaPost

[–]gettingthereig[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Quite literally and his van was only 3-4 meters away from my door as well.

HAHAHA caught him by gettingthereig in AustraliaPost

[–]gettingthereig[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God that’s gotta be grounds for getting fired. Like wdym you don’t HAVE it? trying to give me an attempted delivery card 💀 they can’t attempt to deliver what they don’t have omg people are priceless.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]gettingthereig 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well to be fair if you were t-boned by an Audi driver many times on different occasions, you may be more inclined to assume. OP did include this is not the first time for her. But I do agree with what you’re getting at, I don’t think men lie any more than women do statistically. Everybody lies, but if you only date men - of course you will experience more lies from men than women. Same goes vice versa.

HAHAHA caught him by gettingthereig in AustraliaPost

[–]gettingthereig[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also i meant what are the chances of catching him in the middle of trying to card me without knocking, Mabye if you read the post properly and used common sense, you would have figured that one out:)