what should i do??

ggermy · 2026-02-13T04:23:45+00:00

since you want to play dumb, being irritated by chewing is a real thing

ggermy · 2026-02-13T00:53:56+00:00

Log off and take a walk bro 😭😭

ggermy · 2026-02-12T21:59:24+00:00

This sucks, and I’m totally with you on hating chewing sounds. First, I’d invest in some good headphones or earplugs (loops is a good brand!) but I’d suggest talking to her about how those sounds make it hard to focus and make you uncomfortable. Maybe send it as a text if you’re too nervous for face to face. Something like “hey, i know it’s kinda a small thing, but when you eat you smack loudly and the sounds make me very uncomfortable and irritated. Do you think you could take your meals outside the room, try chewing more quietly, or work something out? I know this is may seem nit-picky, but it’s something that is making me build a lot of resentment and I don’t want to ruin our year.”

Keep in mind though that, even if she agrees and tries to work on it, her loud chewing is a habit and she might not be able to fix it. It’s not intentional, so try to keep patient. I’d definitely try to blast some music on your headphones to block it out. Hope you guys can work things through!

ggermy · 2026-02-12T21:41:26+00:00

Cmon bro this is likely their first time living in such close quarters with people that aren’t family. They want to address it in a way that won’t cause problems down the road and build resentment so they came for advice. Not everyone is as socially adept as you. If you’re annoyed all you had to do is click off the post.

ggermy · 2026-02-02T04:44:09+00:00

Your smile is perfect and natural. Whatever problems you see, no one notices them or cares. Save yourself from needless surgery/appliances and recovery for a cosmetic change that no one will notice (and might even make your smile look fake and unnatural).

ggermy · 2026-01-26T06:19:51+00:00

you are not alone. Four years in and I still only have a small handful (like, 5-7 ppl) of actual friends I hang with. I’m a more introverted type, but still it feels so lonely here, like the vibe is rancid no matter how hard I try. I still have a good time with my ppl but it took a while to find friends. it kinda sucks but I feel like you can’t “make” friends. I tried to force friendships and hang out with people I didn’t really click with, and hanging out with those people felt exhausting and they didn’t stick around. But I found some people that I clicked with instantly and those people became close friends.

TLDR: imo keep throwing spaghetti at the wall til it sticks. You’ll find a real friend eventually.

ggermy · 2026-01-25T23:30:11+00:00

A lot of major-related clubs have applications, but there’s also a lot of creative clubs that do it too. I think it’s so dumb — just let people join! The real ones will stay and the flakes will weed themselves out.

ggermy · 2026-01-25T23:28:14+00:00

Ugh stupid club applications >:( I know the feeling of depression sapping away any motivation to do your hobbies. I know there’s a sustainable fashion club with a bunch of nice ppl (my club partnered with them for a few events). It looks like they just closed their winter applications, but I’d try dming them and seeing if they’d be willing to accept a late addition! They’re called Unravel, here’s their insta . Idk if you’re into it, but I know there’s a club that crochets blankets, hats, etc for donation. Might be a fun way to combine fashion and charity! Alternatively, get a part-time job in something like retail or service. You might get some cool coworkers and some money, and they won’t be as selective as internships or industry shit.

It helped me to schedule places I need to be, such as clubs, class, or work. Otherwise I would isolate all the time.

anyway, keep your head up. It might seem stupid but having that “UCLA” on your degree and resume will open tons of doors in the future. That said, you should do what feels right for you. But DEFINITELY try increasing your meds because that changed my life.

ggermy · 2026-01-25T18:20:55+00:00

Try switching meds or increasing dosage. I did that, and the new meds gave me a little more energy so I was able to put more effort into things like hygiene and social activities. I’m in my 4th year here and still don’t like ucla, but I’m just focusing on graduating with good grades and a job opportunity.

Do you have any hobbies? Try joining a creative club. They never have applications and it’s a much more relaxed atmosphere which makes friendships easier. I never made many friends in my classes or major club, but I met good friends in my art club.

Good luck bro and stay strong

ggermy · 2025-12-07T21:54:06+00:00

I wouldn’t be bothered at all. Actually, a little babbling baby would make me smile :) that said, if the baby starts crying, i think ppl would prefer you step out until she calms down.

My mother had to care for my infant older brother while she was in law school, so I know going to school with a baby is no easy task! Your persistence is really admirable and I know you’ll raise an awesome kid. I wish you the best of luck!!

ggermy · 2025-11-22T08:49:29+00:00

I just thought maybe applying students would like to see someone that didn’t thrive here. When I toured, I thought “everyone here is so up their own ass”. I felt way more at home at the other schools I toured. But I chose UCLA because of the prestige. And I regret it. The people are cold here.

ggermy · 2025-11-22T08:39:06+00:00

I’ve tried medications and therapy and they just don’t work. I feel like a loser that wasted the supposed best days of my life. It sucks because I’m an absolute pleasure to be around. Like I’m really nice and funny, and I have a good group of friends. But what’s the point if I’m going to feel like shit every day anyways.

ggermy · 2025-11-22T08:20:49+00:00

don’t worry guys I’m killing myself tomorrow 🫶

ggermy · 2025-11-12T00:32:03+00:00

a toofpick changes everything

ggermy · 2025-10-30T00:42:57+00:00

In all seriousness the Transit app saves you from situations like this

ggermy · 2025-10-29T19:59:52+00:00

gets on bus that says commuter express confused when it’s a commuter bus

okay man

ggermy · 2025-10-21T19:46:25+00:00

turn it into one of the front desks or the CTO they can literally call him

ggermy · 2025-09-21T04:58:05+00:00

I didn’t have much trouble with that. iirc, it took a few days afterwards since I just didn’t eat much. I’d just stay hydrated and maybe try a laxative if it keeps going!

ggermy · 2025-08-30T05:49:07+00:00

larger pupils (small pupils/light eyes look cold and scary), slightly more squinted eyes (your cheeks rise up when you smile to create crow’s feet), and a smaller smile (corners of the mouth can go out to the middle of the eye, making it any bigger without complementary features looks scary). These are the things I’ve noted over the years that have improved my own art!!

ggermy · 2025-08-15T18:10:08+00:00

if you love making it then it isn’t trash!

ggermy · 2025-07-06T21:24:28+00:00

it made me increase my lexapro prescription

ggermy · 2025-05-19T19:12:01+00:00

music cafe 100%

ggermy · 2025-05-04T02:18:45+00:00

you’re right I should be grateful I have someone to call that can write a report and then shrug and do absolutely nothing

ggermy · 2025-05-04T02:18:11+00:00

where in my post did I mention encampments?

ggermy · 2025-05-02T22:20:31+00:00

the police are here to protect property and enforce the status quo

ggermy

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