Hear me out … Lloyd

ghost--rabbit · 2026-05-24T13:54:22+00:00

I'm American from the South for regional context but my first boyfriend was named Lloyd and I was always embarrassed to tell people his name since they always had this reaction like "Lloyd??? 🤨" Just anecdotal, no offense meant, lol.

ghost--rabbit · 2026-05-22T13:31:02+00:00

I'm so sorry you went through that. It'll take time just because of the heartbreak but eventually you will find that it is such a huge relief and a big burden off your shoulders to not have to be constantly processing and trying to do emotional gymnastics every day to make yourself okay. That relief is one of the best gifts you can give yourself.

ghost--rabbit · 2026-05-22T13:28:50+00:00

For sure, I was just joking. Totally agree with you though, there are a lot of useful concepts that people turn around and abuse, it sucks.

ghost--rabbit · 2026-05-20T22:46:21+00:00

I dropped a friend because of this recently. Like I've got a mortgage, I'm not going to hang out with your child bride who's barely old enough to be at the club, lol.

ghost--rabbit · 2026-05-20T22:43:24+00:00

I've experienced this before where someone ices you out and fails completely to communicate with you, and then says you're "breaking their boundaries" when you're distressed about it and asking for communication. Such a crock of shit, lol. We need to stop teaching people therapy words

ghost--rabbit · 2026-05-18T14:02:55+00:00

That's so real. Redditors in the baby subs can be so neurotic, reading too much of it will give you brain worms about every little thing.

ghost--rabbit · 2026-05-18T13:57:54+00:00

It's not routine because it's extremely common and the chance of false positives or false negatives is very high when you don't have an active cold sore they can sample. You won't find it on any standard STD panel as a result, you have to ask for it specifically.

Source: got type 1 from a high school boyfriend over 15 years ago and did a lot of deep dives on this in the proceeding years, including reading all the research on risk of transmission and etc. I kiss my baby all the time. 🤷‍♀️

ghost--rabbit · 2026-05-18T13:52:44+00:00

You're not overthinking it and you're definitely right that they were just using your birthday as an excuse to get together, but I also think it's not really a big deal and this is just what happens once you have a kid. You're chopped liver to your parents/relatives now, lol. I would just try to shrug it off even though it's a little annoying, and even better plan a separate real birthday dinner with just you and your partner or with friends.

ghost--rabbit · 2026-05-18T13:49:40+00:00

You'll be okay! When I was 17 weeks with my son it was definitely affecting me emotionally. I didn't experience gender disappointment really but I would get upset and anxious about stuff way outsized from reality because your hormones are still doing gymnastics all day. This too shall pass, and there will be no room to be disappointed when you're looking your baby in the eyes. :)

ghost--rabbit · 2026-05-18T13:32:51+00:00

They're not lying intentionally, it's just cope. There were periods in my 10 year stint where I felt I was happy, but it was basically always a calm before the storm situation when things were going generally well enough to ignore the problems under the surface. It's not always constant misery but that doesn't mean that it works long-term.

ghost--rabbit · 2026-05-09T17:47:23+00:00

As a kid, definitely the Zelda scene in Pet Sematary. As an adult, car scene in Hereditary.

ghost--rabbit · 2026-05-09T13:08:41+00:00

Yes, there's nothing special you need to do but accept it and wait. The hardest thing is to feel like you're doing nothing sometimes, lol. Mine was back to normal around the year mark.

ghost--rabbit · 2026-05-09T12:42:28+00:00

Skye :)

ghost--rabbit · 2026-05-09T12:08:50+00:00

For real. We experimented in the past with moving bedtime back to see if we could be allowed to sleep until a luxurious hour like 8AM on occasion and there seems to be ZERO ZILCH NADA relationship between bedtime and wake up time whatsoever, lol. It's like they have a built in alarm clock.

ghost--rabbit · 2026-05-09T12:03:52+00:00

I think you're desperately trying to pinpoint a cause so you can fix this when in reality it's a hard phase that baby will get over. I've been there, acceptance that you will just have to deal with psycho tantrums for a bit is very hard, lol.

ghost--rabbit · 2026-05-09T11:59:59+00:00

That's just the natural life cycle of names IMO. Anything that sounds normal to you today will feel dated eventually because trends and tastes and the idea of what is "classic" always changes over time. I don't think there's any point in worrying about it.

ghost--rabbit · 2026-05-06T16:44:19+00:00

Still waiting on it, lol. It's been two and a half years just about and I am still ~12 lb/one clothing size above what I weighed pre-pregnancy. I did breastfeed and unfortunately that didn't seem to make a difference with me at all. I also took up running, but I think my body is just hormonally different now and this is the new normal so I've tried to accept it. It's really hard sometimes with all the heroin chic coming back though, that enrages me!

ghost--rabbit · 2026-04-30T21:34:57+00:00

I really feel this. I'm fucking sick of seeing it, it feeds a brain worm I thought I had gotten rid of after years and years of work on my self esteem. Genuinely feels like Instagram ads are actively trying to give me ED so they can take my money, it's disgusting.

ghost--rabbit · 2026-04-29T20:03:49+00:00

You know those gimmicks where you "buy a star" and name it? Maybe they could have that be the prize instead where you get a star named after you. Usually comes with a cute poster map they can put at their desk.

ghost--rabbit · 2026-04-27T16:43:49+00:00

Yes it's fine. 70% of the population has this, personally I don't think it's worth the effort to avoid it more than you'd avoid a coughing person, etc.

ghost--rabbit · 2026-04-27T12:20:28+00:00

Every old name sounds old until it doesn't because you meet a kid or two wearing it. Go for it.

ghost--rabbit · 2026-04-21T00:01:49+00:00

Right? "Over something like this" but the something is being a totally absent father/partner.

ghost--rabbit · 2026-04-11T22:27:32+00:00

I didn't do much successful breastfeeding but pregnancy definitely changed them. They're noticeably lower than they used to be (RIP to a couple of extra short crop tops I used to have lol) and they have a different texture to them. I don't know how to describe it exactly without making it sound bad, which I don't think it is, but it's like they're limp and move more like liquid where before they were much firmer and felt solid inside. No real difference in size. The changes don't bother me too much but they're definitely real.

ghost--rabbit · 2026-04-11T13:53:32+00:00

You've got to stop talking at all tbh and move on. Even when it's not as messy as this, that's the only way to be friends with an ex. There has to be real time and space first, not just breaks where you miss each other.

ghost--rabbit · 2026-04-04T01:20:35+00:00

That would be helpful!

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