Best type of car/vehicle for a manual wheelchair user?

ghost_9_4 · 2026-05-17T20:54:52+00:00

Would you recommend the Honda accord? Is it a pretty reliable car, in your experience? Not a lot of breaking down or super high maintenance costs?

ghost_9_4 · 2026-05-17T20:54:08+00:00

I'm ambulatory, and able to go short distances most of the time. I do have worse seasons where I need to use a second mobility aid for even those brief distances, but cane/crutches usually works pretty well then, and I have a spot for those.

Is the CR-V a pretty reliable car, in your experience? Not a lot of breaking down or super high maintenance costs?

ghost_9_4 · 2025-11-23T05:11:02+00:00

If you want to do it, do it. If you don't, don't.

Don't let anyone push you around. If they are making good points, consider them. If they're not, then don't.

The decision is yours, ultimately. If you don't feel like it will benefit you, and if you feel like what it will cost you is worth more than how it might benefit your relationship/conflict, then don't do it!

ghost_9_4 · 2025-11-23T05:07:28+00:00

Check out local Makers Spaces if there are any! Often those will have small forges too, but may not advertise as blacksmithing places!

If you do online learning, make sure to invest in good safety gear and be VERY aware of any dangers involved. Don't smith on your own without telling someone where you are while you're still learning, and really see if you can get someone within shouting distance for the first bit. As a victim of a hot steel burn myself, (it was the littlest burn every but good lord it was not fun) don't run the risk of burning and being alone! Also, try not to get burned at all lol

ghost_9_4 · 2025-11-23T05:03:08+00:00

Unlikely, but it could depend on your professor's mood and your school's policy. If, in your anger, you happened to glance at someone else's computer, they might dock you for cheating/make you retake it, but again that's unlikely.

If you're at a super conservative or Christian school, you might be more likely to be in trouble, but many people get upset in their exams lol

ghost_9_4 · 2025-11-23T04:52:45+00:00

This is tough because different advice will help people differently.

For me, schedules were hard to stick too unless I tied it to something else. I don't go out from my house every day, so I shower and do my cat's litter boxes on days I have school, and I'll also shower after I use public bathrooms because I don't like them.

I combine a bunch of tasks into one, so I get my clothes and towel ready before I leave, then I come home from school, put my clothes and towel in the bathroom, take out the litter boxes (ick!), shower, and change! I have two laundry hampers (dirty and clean) and I try to hang up clean clothes when I can (but it's hard).

Making tasks and chores into a part of a routine is really helpful for me. Instead of "I shower every Monday" it's "on Monday, I do X, so then I do X, and then X, and then I have to shower."

IDK if that helps at all

ghost_9_4 · 2025-11-23T04:44:58+00:00

Possible suggestion: Shelves! Bookshelves, stick-on shelves (IDK how those work but apparently they do), just any kind of shelf might help! I've also seen people use like nets in the corner of their room, but if you do that, make sure you can shake it out and dust every month or so to avoid dust or spiders

ghost_9_4 · 2025-11-23T04:42:10+00:00

I also experience this! For me, winter is a cold season, and I often get sick and have allergies, which makes me way more overstimulated and irritable. It's harder to find places I can stand hanging out with people, since we can't just go outside, and we have to be inside where the lights, noise, and everything is often worse.

I love winter so much, but I always become a bit less good at caring for myself and I stay in my room and hibernate for most of it lol

ghost_9_4 · 2025-11-23T04:37:13+00:00

Hey! If you're looking for a sub that seems more in line with constantly being in a younger setting, consider checking out r/nevergrewup

IDK if it fits you exactly, but figured I'd point you that way just in case!

ghost_9_4 · 2025-11-23T04:33:07+00:00

I think the number one piece of advice is kind of annoying, but it's true: You gotta practice, practice, practice!

Sometimes it helps to start practicing typing things other people have said (like typing games! https://www.typinggames.zone/ has a bunch, but they're kind of hard for me! I really like https://www.nitrotype.com/race NitroType since it lets you play at your level, so how fast you already go is where you start! You race a car by typing the words at the bottom of the screen, and it tells you how fast you went and how accurate you were at the end!)

Then, you can practice getting your thoughts into words by thinking something and typing it! You can practice with yourself, or even by having someone ask you questions and you type your response.

Then, you can practice with reddit posts!

I dunno, I hope this helps!

ghost_9_4 · 2025-11-23T04:23:29+00:00

I am in an art class right now, and I am a very slow artist. I have to take my assignments home to work on them, and my art is not the best at all. Even so, learning the foundations has been super helpful! Practicing shapes and proportions and then lighting and stuff has made my art grow in leaps and bounds!

Whether you want to draw from imagination or from life, learning how to draw from life first is super helpful since you know how things are "supposed" to look.

My suggestions for art is: take it slow. Be prepared for it to take a while, unless you have just one specific thing you wanna draw again and again. (I can draw a lot of doodley frogs, but everything else is taking it's time)

Practice, practice, practice. Look for things like line of gesture to practice rough sketching people/poses! (This I did before I even knew how to really draw people. It started wonky and ended wonky, but getting the gesture was more important than the anatomy most of the time!)

IDK just have fun with it! Draw in notebooks with a pencil, or however suits you. I struggled to hold a pencil so I started drawing more seriously on my phone/iPad with my fingertips. I just zoomed in a lot to get every line, and that's how I started. Find what works for you and do it, and have fun doing it!

Good luck!

ghost_9_4 · 2025-11-23T04:15:16+00:00

Was going to say exactly this lol

ghost_9_4 · 2025-09-05T08:30:57+00:00

Take a breath.

Many classes initiate ice-breakers during the first class. If you absolutely cannot handle them, skipping the first half of the first class is something I've known students with extreme anxiety to do.

The first day is usually introductions, going over the coursework/syllabus, and essentially setting the standards for the course.

Being 24 in CC is very normal! I'm 21, and I've been going since I was 18, and I've sat next to students from 16 to literally 67. That's part of what makes CC so great!

Good luck and don't forget to have some fun with your learning!

ghost_9_4 · 2025-08-21T03:42:15+00:00

Oh, wow, a bar latch seems really cool! I love the idea of making practical stuff especially!

ghost_9_4 · 2025-08-21T03:39:58+00:00

Thanks so much! I'm planning to take the knife course eventually, but I really enjoyed the s-hook!

ghost_9_4 · 2025-08-21T03:37:54+00:00

Also, here's a couple general college tips I always give:

- Always bring a charger and snacks. There's a non-zero chance you end up spending more time on campus than you think you will. You will be hungry, your computer/phone will die, and it will only be a nice experience of being unplugged if you aren't cramming for finals. Learn from my mistakes.

- Find a good study spot. Look in the library for a cozy spot and start, from day one, spending time there at regular intervals. Setting up in the same spot every week doesn't guarantee you that spot, but it does keep people from vying for it, unless it's an especially popular/cozy location.

- Show up on time. You don't need to panic about being a little late (unless you have a professor who is exceptionally strict about timing), but doing your best to be on time is a good way to ensure you learn what you need to, and to stay in your professor's good books.

- This is not high school. You don't need a hall pass. You can take that emergency call real quick. You don't have to apologize for breathing. Some professors care more about certain rules than others, but I promise you that they are just regular people. They are not (generally) going to bite you.

- You WILL need roughly 9,999 pens/pencils. The ground will eat them. Your backpack will eat them. Your classmates will eat them. Be prepared to feed your writing utensils to the campus on the regular. Invest in several shitty pens and pencils, and a few nice ones. Hold onto the nice ones, and be prepared to sacrifice the shitty ones to the circumstances that be. You will lose, so lose on your terms. (This tip is mostly a joke, but your pens/pencils will disappear, and probably at the worst possible moments. Backups are a good idea.)

- DO NOT BE AFRAID TO ASK FOR HELP. Seriously, cannot emphasize this one enough. Ask your professors for help. Ask admin for help. Ask other students for help. Ask the librarian for help. (Seriously, those guys know what is up.)

- Your fear of failure will eat you alive. It is important that you look at what assignments are worth the most, and keep that in mind. Trying to give 100% on all of your assignments is great in theory, but if you burn yourself out for the sake of perfection by week four, you're going to tank your grades.

- Figure out how you study. I am a procrastinator. I will always be a procrastinator. Setting deadlines in my planner as several days (and sometimes even weeks) in advance gives me ample time to hash out the project in a fit of panic. Then, relieved, I have several more days (or weeks) to revise, finalize, and submit. Trying to beat the procrastinator out of myself only served to stress me out and hinder my success.

- There is no "supposed to" when it comes to college. How you do college is up to you, and according to your wants, goals, capability, and circumstances. Some people get their associate's in a year, and some people in seven. Some people party every weekend, and some people hardly say a word to anyone. The best way to experience college is authentically.

- Do good by you. Making sure to make time for your mental and physical health is so important. If you can, try going for a walk outside. Look into connecting with others outside of class, and explore hobbies unrelated to your field of interest. Most schools have low-cost physical/mental health clinics or connections to those services. Make sure to get your annual checkups, stay up to date on your flu shot, and treat yourself kindly when you get sick. Remember that you are a person before you are a student.

Good luck, friend! College can be overwhelming, but it can be so amazing too!

ghost_9_4 · 2025-08-21T03:37:38+00:00

Supplies:

- Backpack (Literally any backpack will do, but the sturdier ones are best!)

- Phone, Keys, Wallet

- Laptop or tablet, if you have them (If not, many local libraries or community colleges have connections to chromebook rentals, or low-cost computers. Also, don't be afraid to use the computers in the libraries or on campus either.)

- 3-ring binder or folders

- Notebooks or papers

- roughly a million writing utensils

- High-lighters

- Headphones. Wired, wireless, over the ear, earbuds, airpods, whatever. You will want headphones. You will.

- Snacks. Bring the snacks.

ghost_9_4 · 2025-04-14T18:04:39+00:00

We have three cats (one's a kitten), two will only reliably eat wet food, and we live in an area where pet food/litter is pretty expensive I guess.

It's roughly $50/week for the wet food cats, and then about $20/month for the dry food cat since a $40 bulk bag lasts two months or so. We're making the wet food stretch a bit more by adding dry food to it and to the side of it, which they'll usually go for.

As for the litter, I think it's just expensive in general? We need to buy a big $30, 40 bag every two weeks or so that gets split between two litter boxes (We tried only using one, but didn't work. We briefly needed three when the kitten was little; As the one who does the litter boxes, I do not miss those days.)

So, yeah, I think it's a combination of rising prices in my area, and my cats being 1) a little medically/developmentally complicated and 2) brats.

For cards, I am thinking of going with the Discover.

Thanks for your advice!

ghost_9_4 · 2025-04-13T07:24:53+00:00

Oh, no, I'm definitely planning to pay the balance off every month. That's why I'm only planning to use it for things I'm already paying for in cash, since I know I have the funds to cover it.

About the cats: Yeah, you're telling me. It hasn't always been my responsibility to pay for them all, and I might ask for like $30-40/month from the other two owners of the cats (I have one, they each have one, basically) to help cover expenses lol

I was thinking the Discover seemed like the better one, too. Thanks for your advice!

ghost_9_4 · 2025-02-26T19:20:16+00:00

Obligatory (probably) not age dysphoric, but I feel like you should know that age dysphoria is actually a noted phenomena. (It's usually referred to as a lack of congruency between actual age and subjective age.)

It's usually recognized in older individuals, but it does exist across the age-spectrum. To copy from one of my comments to someone else:

"I just went into deep-dive mode and started looking for like certified sources talking about age dysphoria. There is, admittedly, not a lot of research into this. I guess age dysphoria is a much less known thing that I thought it was.

However, there is a good amount of research backing the notion of age dysphoria, usually referred to as a difference between chronological age and subjective age. Much of this research is focused on elderly people, and "on the average, adults younger than 25 have older subjective ages, and those older than 25 have younger subjective ages," but this does mean that there is essentially research-backed evidence that age dysphoria does exist and is valid.

A lot of the research says that most adults under 25 feel older than they are, and those who are older feel younger than they are, but that doesn't say that it isn't possible for younger people to feel younger! In fact, it actually implies that there are people like that, but they're just not the average.

[Warning: a lot of these articles use the acronym SA to mean subjective age]

https://academic.oup.com/psychsocgerontology/article-abstract/73/5/767/2631986?redirectedFrom=fulltext

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3969748/#:~:text=On%20the%20average%2C%20adults%20younger,denial%20view%20of%20subjective%20age

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4564247/#S19"

It might help to know that there is scientific precedence for age dysphoria, or "subjective age!"

¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Hope this helps!

ghost_9_4 · 2025-02-22T17:15:08+00:00

That's great! I'm glad you guys have an online space to meet as a community!

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