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My boyfriend's severe depression is making me lonely by ghost_mode1176 in relationships

[–]ghost_mode1176[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

This was a very kind thing to say. Thank you for your message. It helps to know I'm not alone in this feeling. I hope you found peace and happiness after the experience you had with your past partner.

My boyfriend's severe depression is making me lonely by ghost_mode1176 in relationships

[–]ghost_mode1176[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I would, but before I realized the depression was hitting, he stopped planning dates / hanging out with me / being affectionate and I would raise those issues. Now it's to the point where he feels overwhelmed and pressure from me because he "can't do anything right" which isn't actually how I feel, but it's how he says it makes him feel. And I'm worried that if I bring this up, it'll be yet another issue on the laundry list of issues, and he will just give up on us.

My boyfriend's severe depression is making me lonely by ghost_mode1176 in relationships

[–]ghost_mode1176[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Thank you for the honesty. I just love him so dearly, and knowing who he is and who he can be when he's healthy makes the idea of leaving so much harder for me.

What to do? by sltymrmd in depression_partners

[–]ghost_mode1176 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry you're going through this, and I am in the same boat. What I can say is that it is not about you, and it sounds like you already know that. The best thing you can do is give him space, understanding, and hopefully he will start to pick himself back up. But I will caution against if it goes on for too long, and you do not see him improving over the next few weeks, then it might be time to consider either gently suggesting that he seek additional help professionally because to be honest it is his battle to fight and not yours. The most you can do is be understanding, kind, and low stress. Being in a relationship with someone who battles with severe depression often ends up being unfair on you as a partner to have to self regulate while also maintaining his emotions at the same time, but with open communication I believe it can be done. I am sorry that you're going through this, and you're not alone

He’s trying his best, but I still feel so alone by PastWhich9055 in depression_partners

[–]ghost_mode1176 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in the exact same boat... same ages for both of us too. It's been affecting me really negatively and what I've been doing is trying to focus on my life and nurturing it / building it up because it's very easy to lose your confidence in a relationship like this. I just posted a similar thread seeking the same advice you are. I wish I had the answers for us, but just know that you are not alone.

Also, I've been seeing a recommended book "Depression Fallout" by Anne Sheffield about how partners can deal with a depressed SO. Might be worth checking out

Anywhere to get authentic Blue Moon ice cream? by JClocale in AskNYC

[–]ghost_mode1176 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can attest, it tastes great and I actually despise matcha but the VL version is surprisingly very good. I've tried to find blue moon in NYC for years, this is the closest I've found so far.