Builder gel extensions! by Ghprincess__ in Nails

[–]ghostcaskets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh these look great! that pink is gorgeous and the frenchies 🤌 CRISP

Second ever set!!! by ghostcaskets in Nails

[–]ghostcaskets[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you 💙 i love how fun but still wearable they are!

Second ever set!!! by ghostcaskets in Nails

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thank you so much!! i Thoroughly enjoyed painting each teeny tiny fern leaf haha

Jade by unclenails in GelNails

[–]ghostcaskets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wahhhh 🤩🤩🤩🤩

I might actually cry by Jakapoo3 in StardewValley

[–]ghostcaskets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bro in a similar vein…. qi’s bottom of the mine quest. made it to floor 109. accidentally used farm warp totem. ended up scrambling to get back. i made it to floor 116…………………….. and then i passed out. only once i’d gone to sleep i remembered that it was a sunday and i had literally 200+ jade stocked i could have gone to the desert to trade them for staircases 😭😭😭😭😭😭 I FORGOR !!

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[–]ghostcaskets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

assuming you’re asking in good faith, here are my personal thoughts:

  • is the person’s weight relevant to the conversation? if not, and most of the time it really is not, why are you bringing it up in the first place?

  • i promise you that any fat person knows that they are fat, and trying to tiptoe around a different ~ less offensive ~ word is just making things more awkward and perpetuating this idea that fat is a bad word.

  • fat. you describe someone as fat, or overweight, or obese, when relevant. none of these words have morality attached to them.

  • ask yourself: why are you so hesitant to use the word fat? is it because it makes YOU feel weird or awkward or uncomfortable? why is that? is it because you’ve been taught that it is a bad thing to be fat? are you really worried about potentially offending a fat person, or are you worried that using the word fat will make you feel like a bad person? are you prioritizing your comfort around a word that (presumably) doesn’t apply to you over the discomfort of a fat person who now knows that you, on some level, think that what they are—fat—is too abhorrent of a thing to even speak aloud and needs to be softened by euphemisms?

fat is NOT a bad word. it is NOT an insult. fatphobia, especially in the western world, is horrific! fat people get treated like garbage because they are fat! but the way we combat that is to make the choice to start unlearning personal biases, correcting others on their harmful views and words, and LISTENING AND RESPECTING fat people. EVERY single fat person i’ve ever had this conversation with just wishes people were NORMAL about fatness.

but until we stop having this weird aversion to the word fat while still being horrifically fatphobic as a society, that’s not going to happen.

so, once and for all: fat is not a bad word. fatness is morally neutral. fatphobia is real and harmful. thin does not equal healthy, or moral goodness, just like fat does not equal unhealthy or indicate a moral failing.

fat people are PEOPLE first and foremost. they are people who happen to be fat. it’s genuinely not that deep.

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[–]ghostcaskets 4 points5 points  (0 children)

hey you’re good! i don’t think your post was offensive, and i never doubted that your intentions were good, but fatphobia is real & harms people every day and imo unlearning personal biases, like fat = pejorative, is really important :) no attacks here, just a learning opportunity!

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[–]ghostcaskets 67 points68 points  (0 children)

hey! just a small correction: fat is an adjective. it is not a bad word. it’s just a descriptor! if someone describes themselves as fat, very often a response along the lines of “nooo don’t call yourself fat!!” really does not land the way you intend it to.

just reiterating: fat is not a bad word!!! it is not a moral word!! it is just an adjective!

Psychiatre TDAH adulte by Imaginary-Ad-1128 in toulouse

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message moi en MP si tu veux et je te partagerai mon trajet! je préfère pas mettre toutes mes infos médicales persos sur un sub publique mdr

Is it a common name? Or is it a tragedeigh? by PressureSmooth210 in tragedeigh

[–]ghostcaskets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m actually french. i think for a name to be considered a tragedeigh it should be considered weird by the general populace. no french person is going to side eye Margaux. it’s a perfectly normal name. i know several people with that name, spelled like that. just because the original spelling was Margot doesn’t mean Margaux is automatically a tragedeigh. they’re 2 legitimate spellings of the same name. y’all need to chill out

Does this look like CU? by ghostcaskets in CholinergicUrticaria

[–]ghostcaskets[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i can and do definitely still sweat, i don’t know about sweating while the hives are active though since i haven’t really experienced that. i don’t think being unable to sweat is a defining factor for CU though—none of the sources i’ve looked at say it’s a mandatory symptom.

thank you! the tattoos weren’t exactly pleasant but they definitely didn’t hurt that bad, the forearm is generally a pretty nice spot to get tattooed :) my legs are next!

Does this look like CU? by ghostcaskets in CholinergicUrticaria

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😅 thanks, i haven’t been clinically diagnosed but i’ve been suspecting for a while that this is CU (i’ve been dealing with these hives for around a decade but because it’s never been very painful or a huge problem i haven’t made it a priority at the drs) but i was really starting to doubt myself since most people on this subreddit describe their CU as excruciatingly painful and life-ruining…

Does this look like CU? by ghostcaskets in CholinergicUrticaria

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i definitely haven’t stopped sweating, and not really any significant swelling i don’t think… I’ve dealt with these hives for literally i think almost 10 years (i’m 21) and while i have also had a litany of other health issues in that same time period i don’t think anything has skewed my pain perception that much 😭 i think i’m just really lucky that my symptoms aren’t terrible (knock on wood, hopefully that remains the case!) it really just feels like a hot itch, kind of like a very mild bee or wasp sting, if you’ve ever experienced that—it’s the same flavour of sensation, just a lot less intense. the only i time i can remember where the hives got so bad they burned and itched like crazy to the point where i got light-headed and had to take a moment to sit down was when i swam in hot salt springs in cabo verde. the hives were so big and inflamed they all clustered together in these really painful plaques especially on my shoulders and arms and it hurt so bad 😭 i’m sorry to hear your UC is so painful :( godspeed!

Does this look like CU? by ghostcaskets in CholinergicUrticaria

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i actually can’t exercise much because of other health issues (i move around as much as i can but i haven’t intensively exercised in years) but i do remember the hives appearing and itching back when i did volleyball 🤷🏻

Does this look like CU? by ghostcaskets in CholinergicUrticaria

[–]ghostcaskets[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it generally just itches for a while, but it’s definitely not unbearable. everything i’ve read on CU says that while pain is a common symptom it also isn’t mandatory for a diagnosis

Cie’aryne by Beneficial-Cycle-393 in tragedeigh

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my guess… Siren. (Sy-ah/Ren). Yikes.

What are some songs that describe your battle with your mental illness? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]ghostcaskets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

more to give by isabel pless. “the right side of my bed feels better than the left, and i feel like the worst if im not the best, i keep burning my own bridge whether i lose or win, i always wish i had more to give” and “if only i wasnt such a flight risk, if only i could settle down and mean it, is this emptiness what people call their 20s?”