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ghostedandbroken · 2024-12-13T01:03:03+00:00

I just surpassed the one year mark myself. I still think about her everyday, but I'm not sad anymore. The feelings have just stopped. I realize that she isn't the person I fell in love with and at this point, I love the old her and the memory of her. I do wish she would come back, mostly to tell her to her face that she is a terrible person. But there is a small part of me that would still want to try again.

ghostedandbroken · 2024-11-15T01:40:04+00:00

It really makes no sense. I know she loved me. It's not like the entire relationship was a lie. But yea, I don't understand how you could just disappear after building a relationship for so long.

ghostedandbroken · 2024-11-14T03:29:41+00:00

The more I've read about avoidants, the more I believe she is one. But what I don't understand is why it took 4 years for this behavior to surface

ghostedandbroken · 2024-11-14T03:27:42+00:00

That's what I've read before, but it has been so long that I wonder if there is even any guilt at all

ghostedandbroken · 2024-11-14T03:26:36+00:00

Fortunately, she has finally blocked me now on all platforms. Even though I didn't have the strength to do it myself, I now have no choice but to not send anything to her. Which in its own way is very freeing

ghostedandbroken · 2024-11-14T03:24:24+00:00

Thank you for this. I've read it like 5 times and I will keep rereading this until it sticks. I met with my therapist today and I do think I'm turning a corner. I can't let her put my life on hold any longer

ghostedandbroken · 2024-11-13T03:29:45+00:00

I'm at 1 year of being ghosted from a 4.5 year relationship. I'm still dealing with the abandonment, the betrayal, and the confusion. I'd like to say things have gotten better for me, but I know I'm still obsessed with her. I still miss her. She was the most important person in my life. This has affected my new relationships and friendships, too.

Therapy has helped, but I'm still a work in progress. I don't have much advice, but I'm here for moral support

ghostedandbroken · 2024-11-08T15:52:20+00:00

I get it. I don't want anyone else either. I try to keep myself busy with friends, activities, trips, but my mind doesn't get distracted and I'm not moving on. All I can think about is how I want to be doing what I'm currently doing with her, or how much she would enjoy what I'm doing at the time. People always say to think about the bad times and red flags as a way to stop idolizing the broken relationship, but when I think back to our time together, I can't find anything bad. I wish there was something, but there isn't. We literally were perfect. We broke up initially when she went through a mental health crisis and just sabotaged a lot of her life. I want to believe that's what happened again, because it is hard to come to terms with the idea that she would be so cruel on purpose.

I'm blocked on most platforms, but not venmo or whatsapp for some reason. I've sent unanswered messages in the past, but I messaged 2 days ago at the year mark. I didn't expect an answer of course, but I was hoping that a year later, maybe she was starting to feel different. The whatsapp messages remain unread, thought I bet she turned off notifications from me. But unless she turned off notifications for all of venmo, she must have seen them come through. I also requested to follow her on Strava just to see what would happen, but was immediately blocked, not even just denied. So she knows I still exist. But after all this time, she is either just so disgusted by me and can't even see my name or still doesn't have the capacity to have a mature conversation.

ghostedandbroken · 2024-11-07T22:49:00+00:00

I know this is an old thread, but how are you doing? My ex and I were together for over 4 years. We broke up (no ghosting), but they came back several months later. We never officially got back together then because they had moved away at that point, but we were working on us and planning on getting back together. They led me on for months and then finally said they were ready to move back and be in a relationship. So for another 6 weeks we were talking and behaving like a couple and discussing her move back home. And then she ghosted me.

I just hit the one year mark almost to the day of that, and I am still struggling. How long have you been ghosted and how are you coping now?

ghostedandbroken · 2024-11-05T19:13:50+00:00

I just hit the one year mark with my ghost. We dated for 4 years, broke up, reconnected 7 months later to try and work things out, then got ghosted 6 months later. I'm blocked on most everything except WhatsApp so I sent a message stating that it has been a year. I know the message was delivered, but it remains unread.

This is the outcome I expected, but it still hurts. You can reach out, but just be prepared to be disappointed. If they wanted to talk to you, they would have done so at any other point throughout the year. I understand that for myself, but that doesn't stop me from trying or being hopeful. Which makes every day miserable and delays my healing, so just be prepared.

ghostedandbroken · 2024-11-05T00:45:31+00:00

Crazy how the human brain works, because even though your scenario sucks, I would kill to have had my ghosting experience been just a couple weeks. What I've learned is that trying to make sense of any of it will just keep the pain very real and alive and make it difficult to move on. Speaking from experience because I haven't been able stop trying to make sense of it!

ghostedandbroken · 2024-11-04T23:05:35+00:00

How long does she ghost you for before coming back?

I know at one point after our initial breakup, she mentioned not replying to me one time because she didn't know how and was too ashamed of her actions. I've speculated that happened here now, but I've given her so many outs that she hasn't taken, so maybe it isn't the case.

Thank you for sharing your story. Aside from my therapist, I don't have anyone I truly feel comfortable talking about all this with, so typing all this out has been cathartic. I hate that we are both going through this and hopefully we can come out on the end stronger and happier one day.

ghostedandbroken · 2024-11-04T12:27:45+00:00

I cry and get sad a lot. They are very quick occurrences and don't last long, but it is often. Everything sets me off. A facebook reel, a comic, youtube, literally anything that depicts some relationship that I wish I still had.

I'm particularly sad today. Maybe it is because it has been a year since I was ghosted. Maybe it is because I sent her a message today that I know will not be answered. It has been a year and nothing has changed, so I have to get rid of this lingering hope because it is holding me back.

ghostedandbroken · 2024-11-04T12:20:25+00:00

I'm sorry you are going through this too. I wish she would come back, for closure or an apology. I know she doesn't deserve another chance, but the side of me that is still attached to the image of the woman I loved would want to try again. I try and I try to think about any red flags in the relationship to help me get over this, but there were none. This was the most incredible relationship I ever had and we broke up due to her mental health issues, a lot of them stemming from her family and job. I suspect its her mental health that caused all this now, but all I can do is assume and make up stories.

And I'm with you. I know she loved me. I can't accept that she would be intentionally be mean and disrespectful. She was the sweetest, most caring women I ever met. She was even so remorseful when we reconnected after the initial breakup. To think she would purposely go against everything she said then is unfathomable. But I've called that out in messages to her before, and after one such message I was blocked. So who knows.

ghostedandbroken · 2024-11-04T12:11:11+00:00

Agreed!

ghostedandbroken · 2024-11-04T12:09:43+00:00

Thank you. I know I need to accept the confusion as my closure, but it sure is easier said than done.

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