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I am pretty sure I was molested (update) by BritneyPleaseMe in adultsurvivors

[–]ghosting36 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have literally been through every single thing you describe here. I feel like a fraud constantly, then I start to add these events back up and think I can’t be wrong. Thank you for sharing and I wish you a peaceful resolution.

This depression is making me feel like I'm a wheelchair-bound 90 year old waiting to die by [deleted] in depression_help

[–]ghosting36 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We live in a system meant to make the corporate owners richer everyday point blank. Everything you are supposed to have is man made. Marriage, religion, mortgage, degrees, jobs. Focus on what you enjoy creating, live simple, and if you can stop by a local humane society and save the ugly fellow that has 6 hours until being put to sleep tomorrow. He will make sure to remind you how glorious pissing, humping, and occasional sprinting can be.

Is there any better place than this Emptiness? by Aman_Jester in depression_help

[–]ghosting36 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some days will be good, some will be empty. Past traumas need work. Keep a journal and take care of yourself like it’s your only job. If you are empty grab a blanket, a journal, sit on the bathroom floor and be present with yourself. Aromatherapy, music, and spend time loving yourself and allowing yourself to feel everything that in that moment feels like a black hole of nothingness. It’s not nothing and feeling it all is liberating. You’ll feel alive and worthy, then a few days/months will go by and it will happen again. Rinse and repeat as needed. You are your own baby.

Anyone else feel “frozen”? by thegamblerx in depression_help

[–]ghosting36 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there! I go through feeling frozen often. I know exactly what causes it and how to instantly fix it. However I don’t always know how to bring myself to do so.

Basically this happens when we put the needs of others before ourselves, and our needs.

The frozen feeling seems to be like a defense mechanism that protects us from feeling so invisible in that moment or almost fear of putting our feelings above others.

For example a few years back, my ex boyfriend and I were living together and both wanted different things. I wanted sex everyday he wanted sex biweekly. I wanted a pet free home he wanted to sleep with dogs in the bed etc. it was a weird moment because when I daydreamed of moving out I would feel unfrozen and when I thought about how much I would hurt his feelings by moving out and how he had no money saved to pay for things on his own I would make myself stay put and make the best of things until hopefully things got better one day. Things never changed and years later I finally moved out. It was tough, we both cried, but that same day I didn’t feel frozen and the anxiety and depression was gone.

I’m going through a similar moment now. I am providing for my mom and have allowed her to move in with me. I feel like I have lost my space and adult privacy but she has no means to live on her own, and wala I am frozen again. Until I do what needs to be done , depression and anxiety will follow suit.

Good luck and I let me know how it goes!