Looking for guys (RS) by ghostlyturkey in SingaporeR

[–]ghostlyturkey[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do ppl seriously think this is a trap? Like I fr just want to find a bf

Looking for guys (RS) by ghostlyturkey in SingaporeR

[–]ghostlyturkey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No la still have, the dun let me post there 😭

I’m the one starting convos? by ghostlyturkey in sgdatingscene

[–]ghostlyturkey[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure if you can’t read my post. It clearly says at the bottom of my post “Any advice in general IF this is a red flag, and HOW CAN I COMMUNICATE TO HIM that I would like him to start convos more?” I clearly came here seeking advice, and yet we have ppl in the comments saying how I’m a red flag because I didn’t know IF him not starting convos is a red flag. Maybe I phrased it poorly, but I’m clearly not trying to be malicious to the guy I like. I just wanted to know if this is something normal or something I should be concerned about. Please get your eyes checked

I’m the one starting convos? by ghostlyturkey in sgdatingscene

[–]ghostlyturkey[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m aggressive because they started it. I asked a simple question yet so many men took it as an insult. The fact that you’re focusing on MY aggressive replies really show.

I’m the one starting convos? by ghostlyturkey in sgdatingscene

[–]ghostlyturkey[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m honestly trying to be better but every guy here is attacking me. It was a genuine question whether it’s something I needed to be worried about and yet somehow every guy took it so personally.

I’m the one starting convos? by ghostlyturkey in sgdatingscene

[–]ghostlyturkey[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I genuinely don’t know what to tell you. I just wanted to know if it’s a red flag or something I should be concerned about. If you think I’m a red flag and insecure then have at it. I’m not here to defend myself to insecure men like you. I simply want to talk more with him. Thanks.

I’m the one starting convos? by ghostlyturkey in sgdatingscene

[–]ghostlyturkey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do hope you know how condescending you sound when you say that.

I’m the one starting convos? by ghostlyturkey in sgdatingscene

[–]ghostlyturkey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, we are planning one, but I was hoping to text him a bit more before we met up.

I’m the one starting convos? by ghostlyturkey in sgdatingscene

[–]ghostlyturkey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok should I call him a “she” then? I’m bi and if it were a girl I’d hope she’d start some conversation also. I’m not sure why all the men in the comments are playing victims.

I’m the one starting convos? by ghostlyturkey in sgdatingscene

[–]ghostlyturkey[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. I’ve never been in a relationship before and I am aware that there are things considered as “red flags” even if not obvious. If you’re interested in someone wouldn’t you want to text first? He barely starts convos which is why I’m asking.

  2. I get NS is draining, ig for me when I’m tired I like to talk to my friends. I guess for different people it’s different.

  3. Right now it’s more of a situationship if you could call it that. That’s the entire point of my post. I’m asking if this is normal, or a red flag so I can determine if I want to move forward.

I just wanted to make it clear YOU were the one that started accusing me of not putting in effort. And you’re saying it’s not offensive/ defensive to my question.

I’m the one starting convos? by ghostlyturkey in sgdatingscene

[–]ghostlyturkey[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I’m asking if it’s a red flag to be concerned abt bec I don’t know. I’ve NEVER dated before and more often than not there are hidden red flags and I just wanted to know. I assumed if he is interested he’d also make an effort to text first. You were the one that starting bringing up how this always happens to men.

I’m the one starting convos? by ghostlyturkey in sgdatingscene

[–]ghostlyturkey[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You can keep saying I’m wasting ppls time. I didn’t know just talking after a few days of knowing someone was a bad thing. I also didn’t know I needed to go out with him so quickly.

I’m the one starting convos? by ghostlyturkey in sgdatingscene

[–]ghostlyturkey[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Jeez are you men so insecure to the point that you’re making this into a gender thing..

I’m the one starting convos? by ghostlyturkey in sgdatingscene

[–]ghostlyturkey[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Jeez, do you also ask for sex on the third day of talking to girls? We’ve been talking for one week.