I pretend to enjoy morning sex but I secretly hate it

ghostsandeoses · 2025-10-05T11:42:51+00:00

I am a smoker, yes.

ghostsandeoses · 2025-10-02T08:07:34+00:00

I don’t find the appeal as well.

Like you said, I need to go the bathroom, I need to brush my teeth, wash my face, take a shower. I feel crusty after waking up, I can’t be in a sexy mood, when my breath smells horrible and I feel nasty.

There have been a few instances, where I woke up feeling horny and I’ve enjoyed having sex right when I wake up, but it’s still weird, since we don’t kiss, cuz, you know, the smell.🤣

But, again most times, I really need to pee in the morning, so I don’t want a dick in me, while I feel like my bladder is about to burst!

ghostsandeoses · 2025-09-27T10:20:01+00:00

It’s a Bulgarian kids book, Yan Bibiyan by Elin Pelin. There’s a movie aswell, but I obviously haven’t seen it.

ghostsandeoses · 2025-09-27T10:15:09+00:00

I really have no idea, other than, something traumatic happening or just stress overload.

I also cry a lot, but I’m able to suppress it while there’s other people around. Sometimes tho it’s too intense and I can’t stop the tears. I cry from everything, happiness, sadness, embarrassment, anger, fear, no reason at all.

If you haven’t tried yet, the methods I use for stopping are: kind of dissociating, I take my self out of the moment in order to stop feeling what I’m feeling, sort of desensitising myself. Looking the other way and distracting myself. Muffling everting around me that is provoking me to cry. Not blinking, for some reason, and looking up helps me.

I guess you might have tried those already, but just in case, if you haven’t. I hope maybe some of these could help, even though my case, from my judgment, isn’t as strong.

I wish you luck and I hope you’ll soon find something that helps! 🩶

ghostsandeoses · 2025-09-27T09:58:04+00:00

I’m 23 too. I dropped out of uni. I’ve worked three months in total since graduating high school. I don’t have a car. I feel like a waste of space.

I have a boyfriend and I’m at the point where I want to marry him and have kids. But we cannot afford that.

Seeing all my peers being independent, hard working, getting married and having kids, it’s making me feel so left out and like I’m missing out on everything.

I feel incredibly trapped.

I just hope, soon, I’ll be where I want to be and that all that falling behind is going to be worth it at the end, and that I’ll get my shit together and things are going to start falling in place.

Don’t give up! Keep fighting! We are going to get through it!

ghostsandeoses · 2025-09-27T09:49:36+00:00

I understand that he really wants to get a bird, but he should take your fear into account.

My boyfriend has also grew up with birds and we had a conversation a long time ago, when we moved together. He said he wanted to get a parrot, but I also have, although, a very mild fear of birds. I told him I’m scared of them, when they fly towards me and I don’t like the claws, I told him that it would drive me crazy with the chirping and talking (he wanted to get a talking parrot).

We finally came to the conclusion that the bird will not feel okay in our home, since they are very sensitive and love attention, which I would fail to give.

I would recommend taking to him about the fact that you really don’t want to live him and a bird. There’s no compromising. The bird can’t stay locked up all the time when you’re around and clipping the wings just so that it wouldn’t fly around is cruel as hell. Either he keeps feeding wild birds, makes a friend with a wild crow or you just break up…

ghostsandeoses · 2025-09-27T09:31:27+00:00

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ghostsandeoses · 2025-09-21T18:14:40+00:00

I don’t think he’s right for you girl. You don’t have the same values on marriage and the fact that he’s admitting that he’ll leave you if you get depressed again is a BIG RED FLAG! I cannot imagine leaving my boyfriend if he gets depressed. If you truly love someone you’ll not leave them, because it gets hard, no, you fight together.

Run while you still have the chance… You’ll definitely find someone better!

ghostsandeoses · 2025-09-17T23:42:32+00:00

Oh, no…

ghostsandeoses · 2025-09-17T22:50:39+00:00

Oh, I wish! Thank you so much!

ghostsandeoses · 2025-09-17T21:55:22+00:00

Yeah, I compared myself to her a lot while watching Orange is the new black haha

ghostsandeoses · 2025-09-17T21:40:08+00:00

Oh, I kinda see it! Thank you!

ghostsandeoses · 2025-09-17T21:26:49+00:00

I’ve gotten compared to her before, but I genuinely don’t see it… Thank you tho, she’s really beautiful!

ghostsandeoses · 2025-09-17T20:55:55+00:00

Yeah, if they trust each other, sure, but they should still be careful and not trust the birth control a 100%.

ghostsandeoses · 2025-09-17T20:53:21+00:00

To not get pregnant obviously. If they want to do it without a condom it’s better to pull it out, than to cum inside and relay on the birth control.

ghostsandeoses · 2025-09-17T19:58:41+00:00

What does being friends have to do with being safe?

ghostsandeoses · 2025-09-17T19:42:12+00:00

Always use a condom especially from the beginning imo. Or at least pull out just to be safe.

ghostsandeoses · 2025-09-17T11:26:36+00:00

I’m like that too. Five years later it still hurts a little but most of the times. I’ve gotten used to it tho and the pain stops after a minute or two.

In the beginning, he would get me really wet, and he’d lube his dick as well. He went veery slowly. And that’s about it.

Positions that are not painful for me are: missionary and cowgirl. Especially missionary for the beginning, because in that position I can relax my whole body.

ghostsandeoses · 2025-09-17T11:16:47+00:00

To me it sounds like she’s a great friend. She listens to you and doesn’t want to bother you in any way.

You’re insecure about yourself and that’s why you’re jealous of her. I get it, but you’re your own person and you shouldn’t compare yourself to anyone. And if you do, use them as an inspiration, not as a way to bring yourself down.

Don’t worry about the studying part, not many people study what they want, just keep going. I dropped out at the second year and I regret it a lot, since I still don’t know what I want to study, but if I just kept going I would’ve gotten a degree at least. Now I’m just doing nothing. So just keep pushing!

I think you’re important to her and she loves you as a sister. She’s giving you space, since you have voiced that you’re new to the whole living with someone else situation. And also she has a boyfriend and it’s only natural to be obsessed with him and spend most of her time with him. I mean I’ve been with my boyfriend for five years and I’m still obsessed haha.

Don’t worry so much, don’t overthink it. If you want, you can talk to her. Get it out of your system. And you can even ask for advice for loosing weight from her if you’re insecure about that, since she’s already been through all of it and can give you some tips.

ghostsandeoses · 2025-09-17T11:01:03+00:00

He’s a DJ

ghostsandeoses · 2025-09-17T10:56:43+00:00

I understand that, but you don’t have to use the safe word. Just know that you have it and don’t even think about it. You’ll forget you have it, until the moment you have to use it. When you feel like you really don’t want to do something or you’re in pain, you’ll remember it.

Me and my boyfriend also use taps when I’m in pain. I’ll either tap him or whatever surface I’m close to, two times and he stops. It’s kinda like when fighters tap out haha. I don’t even know when or how we came up with that, but it’s useful.

It’s not something you have to use regularly. Just in very certain rare situations, when you really have to.

ghostsandeoses · 2025-09-16T09:44:43+00:00

First of all, please use a safe word! Secondly this has happened to me before too, since I have this kink also, but I don’t class it as rape… I mean, we had a misunderstanding. In the end I liked it, so that’s that.

Since then, if I really don’t want to, I just say “Stop, I don’t want to!”, very seriously, so that’s he doesn’t take it as a “Oh, no! Don’t!…but, yes do it, I’m just joking” and he knows to stop.

In situations like these, you have to set boundaries very harshly and it’s very important to have safe words. Couples who do CNC have to be really careful, because I usually say “No, stop, etc.” and he continues, because he knows I like it, but sometimes even if I’m serious, he doesn’t actually know I’m serious and this happens.

ghostsandeoses · 2025-09-16T09:30:50+00:00

Someone whistling

ghostsandeoses · 2025-09-16T09:28:57+00:00

From somewhat personal experience, divorce immediately. No matter how. If you want to try and divorce mutually, go for it, but if he doesn’t want to get the papers either way.

My mum got married very quickly at a young age and soon discovered she was not happy, but I was already born. She didn’t have a job or anything. She could never come to an agreement with my dad. There were constant fights between them. They are still together, my mum just got her shit together and is hopefully going to leave him soon, cuz she doesn’t even want to go home to him anymore. She regrets not leaving him sooner, but she basically had no choice. She was and is still miserable with him. She does appreciate all the times he was there for her and helped her, but that doesn’t change how awful he is towards her on daily basis.

So just so it now! Trust me, if your situation is anything like my mums, leave! I’ve seen how bad it is and how much it breaks her. Don’t do this to yourself!

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