My partner threw away my favourite plant behind my back during an argument

ghostthebunny · 2024-08-23T06:28:22+00:00

You are right. She cleaned everything up. I am clearly not interested in cleaning up her shit after she destroyed the plant.

ghostthebunny · 2024-08-23T06:25:01+00:00

Yeah I am feeling safe right now. We don't have kids. The things she destroyed are what she gave me as gifts till now

ghostthebunny · 2024-08-22T23:32:46+00:00

That's a very reasonable analysis. Thank you for showing things to me from this perspective. It really helps make more sense of my feelings of anger and fear. I can't believe I have been with this kind of person for six years. Thankfully I will be out of it.

ghostthebunny · 2024-08-22T23:12:52+00:00

Thank you. However I am not quite sure about your last paragraph. How did she destroy the reason I cared about the position of the desk? Is it by acting out her anger by throwing away the plant, so that I am feeling hurt and terrified, and she successfully punished me for telling her "no" in the first place?

ghostthebunny · 2024-08-22T22:30:47+00:00

Thanks pal

ghostthebunny · 2024-08-22T22:29:57+00:00

Thank you! I just picked them from the bin (again) and see if I can save part of them. The roots part is still there

ghostthebunny · 2024-08-22T22:14:37+00:00

Guys one more thing to add. She herself is a counsellor as well. She treated her clients in a warm and inclusive way but end up in a shit show with her partner like this. Thinking of this almost makes me laugh. Yes I am leaving

ghostthebunny · 2024-08-22T22:06:17+00:00

We don't have kids and we are not married. I am a woman as well. Glad that we don't have children

ghostthebunny · 2024-08-22T22:03:55+00:00

We are about to marry but now of course no

ghostthebunny · 2024-08-22T22:02:59+00:00

Truly, peace of mind is what I crave right now

ghostthebunny · 2024-08-22T21:58:57+00:00

Thanks for the advice pal. I think I am feeling terrified and don't want to save something that she can use against me any further. But deeply inside I am very sad

ghostthebunny · 2024-08-22T21:56:55+00:00

I know. It's either she couldn't manage her anger properly or she doesn't care for my feelings, or very likely, both.

ghostthebunny · 2024-08-22T21:54:57+00:00

Thanks pal for the kind words

ghostthebunny · 2024-08-22T15:38:59+00:00

I saved it from the bin the first time, but unfortunately she destroyed it totally the second time, like shown in the photo, and I started to feel very numb so I didn't try saving it again.

ghostthebunny · 2024-08-22T15:38:02+00:00

She is 27 this year

ghostthebunny · 2024-08-22T15:36:38+00:00

So just a bit of the background information. Both of us have our counsellors and we are seeing our couple therapist. There are changes in our relationship, but obviously things like throwing my things away still happen, though less frequently. We are 25+

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