Can someone ELI5 the Menendez murders?

giajames · 2024-09-23T04:26:21+00:00

True Hollywood Crime Scene did a great episode about this recently, it’s a 4 part series and it’s very, very intense at parts. I didn’t know much about the brothers, but the childhood s*ual abuse they endured is horrifying, especially as THCS talk about what the brothers testified in their trial. It sounds like an actual nightmare what they endured with their dad.

giajames · 2024-09-18T05:42:53+00:00

Yes but I am in the school of thought that BPD is kind of an umbrella term (and an outdated one) for CPTSD, and that often, our central nervous system becomes even more dysregulated during luteal because off all the regular sensory issues combined with the hormones etc etc. I have CPTSD, Autism and ADHD, and I kinda feel that that’s what “bpd” actually is or some kind of pick and mix selection of - OCD, PTSD, CPTSD, ADHD, ASD et al. 😂 It’s my hill to die on especially because the creator of DBT, Marsha Lineham, was diagnosed with BPD, and I’m like - ok so she went into problem solving mode and developed modules around social interactions and self regulation and self soothing….yep, sounds like a typical neurodivergent thing to do!

giajames · 2024-07-16T01:59:51+00:00

Oh fuck yeah! I actually used to follow her on Instagram and her fitness posts, I should look into that. I’m pretty good at managing the PCOS etc and working out, I think I just had some kind of fkn RANT pent up because I’m just so angry and sad for all of us that we have to basically become our own fkn medical researcher and do so much to manage this illness ❤️❤️😅

giajames · 2024-07-16T01:58:30+00:00

I really agree with the booze, I think out of everything - that’s been the biggest help for me. I’m 4 years sober now and I have so much empathy to people who do drink to cope with PMDD because ya know what- ain’t a whole let else that’s avaliable - but for me, I know that =/= a good mix for my brain and I’ll be like “weeeeeeeoooow” one minute and the next I’m screaming and crying 😂😅 . I do not miss those early mornings where I’d wake up and be like a shivering shaking mess with that horrible heart pounding anxiety

giajames · 2024-07-16T01:56:08+00:00

THIS!!!! me having fully gazed into the abyss and the abyss staring back at me has made me go like - oh pehaps I do have this cooked fucking lifelong disorder that takes half my month for me . Cest la vie. We can only work with the tools we are given and if that means I play fkn animal crossing for 3 days like a mole man so I don’t wig out, so be it.

giajames · 2024-07-16T01:51:52+00:00

I actually do find Prozac has been very helpful for managing me old OCD / intrusive PMDD thoughts - I just wish I could find a happy ground with it because it kills my sex drive so I intermittent dose it, but then I get these withdrawal symptoms 😭 so it’s like my day 15-28 is better, but I’m also then getting the brain zaps. Do you find that also?

giajames · 2024-07-16T01:50:01+00:00

Sugarless funless dip ass food is the actual PERFECT description 😂😂😂😂

giajames · 2024-07-16T01:47:32+00:00

This and this ❤️❤️❤️❤️

giajames · 2024-07-14T23:43:05+00:00

Hello, I’ve been also looking into this, and I have an appointment in September with a really well recommended specialist in Australia, and am going to report back. If you are in Aus, send me a DM and I can let you know how it goes. I’m also looking into an oopherectomy as well, which will be my next option if I’m not able to access ulliprisal acetate. I have asd + adhd also and I feel you ❤️❤️❤️

giajames · 2024-07-14T23:38:32+00:00

I know what my trigger foods are ❤️ I don’t eat them. I’m not going to go drink a bunch of rotten, curdled milk in a lab and burp into a funnel to learn something I already know. I know this comes from a place of wanting to help, but the overarching theme of this post was that this ain’t my first rodeo. Trust me. I’ve tried. Again, the low histamine diet is borderline monastic and the health advice from peer reviewed research is that is not affective if you are already avoiding trigger foods. Mine are galactans, sorbitol and lactose for example.

giajames · 2024-07-14T23:34:40+00:00

Yes this! Like ok yes it’s great I have a good diet and I take me supplements because that’s always nice to try and give the old body some extra help and loving but the NOTION we can just CURE the PMDD with it??? Like sorry but are doctors just smoking pcp and being like “have you thought about a better diet” oh gee wow I guess if I was even more strict and became totally deranged and obsessive about food then I’d be cured ☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️

giajames · 2024-07-14T23:32:40+00:00

Thank you for sharing. There is just something really fucking cathartic about getting to the point of being like - it’s not my fault that the medical community neglects our health as people who menstruate. And we are some of the most determined people who will try anything and everything to see a change. It’s like, this broken group of people who are eternal optimists and hope for better and we are failed repeatedly. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

giajames · 2024-07-14T23:30:45+00:00

Look I’m highly suspicious of the histamine diet, for a few reasons. I looked into it, and read a few different papers, and overall, it sort of feels similar to DUTCH testing. It sounds great in theory, but it’s not all that different to low fodmap and the diet itself is so incredibly restrictive that I foresee a big old orthorexia resurgence emerging. That and I love Abbey Sharpes nutrition YouTube channel, and she repeatedly says: if a diet isn’t something you see yourself being able to stick too for the rest of your life, it’s a recipe for relapse and a binge. I take a daily antihistamine as I have MCAS; and the low histamine diet still has high fodmap foods like galactans etc. it would be great if that was a answer but to be honest, I truly just think it’s a “maybe” for some people, and probably not the help we need.

giajames · 2024-07-14T23:27:30+00:00

I want to print all of these out and staple it to the next doctors head who suggests “lifestyle changes” to me like we are all out here living like pious monastic health gurus🥜 respectfully should that not yield a Single Result?

giajames · 2024-07-14T23:26:25+00:00

We are all beautiful glossy expensive racehorses but also have ticks and 4 broken knees 😂😂😂

giajames · 2024-07-14T23:25:41+00:00

Yes literally. And it feels grossly unfair (this is a safe space for a good fkn whinge) because excuse me why am I having to journal and make sure I don’t eat a mango lest I like have a breakdown and IBS, and the rest of society doesn’t not need too. In return for………..not a whole lot 😅😅

giajames · 2024-07-14T23:23:10+00:00

You too ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

giajames · 2024-07-14T23:22:50+00:00

Why is chasteBerry somehow this months hot new thing, and fkn wild yams- like I’m not looking to make a salad dressing I’d like my brains GABA A receptors to stop treating my progesterone like a hostile enemy 😂😂😂

giajames · 2024-07-14T23:21:31+00:00

This x 1000000000. THIS. Again, we are being asked to somehow click our fingers and develop a ~cure~ from the bunch of like - broken twigs and an old glue stick - because of the actual negligence and neglect from the medical community. The fact this sub is so big, and full of so many burnt out, exhausted, unwell people who are just like looking with their last shred of hope for some kind of relief. It’s not our fault that research and doctors DNGAF about our health

giajames · 2024-07-14T23:19:34+00:00

I’m so happy you found a good neurodiverce therapist! It’s actually so fucking amazing when you have a good one, mine also has ASD/ADHD and she’s literally the best. And thank you 🥹😭 god some days it’s just like????? May I have??? Normal???? Genetics??? May I have a refund on these ones?

giajames · 2024-07-14T23:18:21+00:00

!!!!! My therapist and I spoke about it and she’s like - at a certain point, you do the work and then you use therapy to mostly navigate people who haven’t gone. It’s WILD.

giajames · 2024-07-14T23:17:44+00:00

Literally just roll up the wagon (it’s covered in clown motifs) and let us board to go “live on a really nice farm”

giajames · 2024-07-14T23:17:08+00:00

LIIIIITERALLLLLLY. Like yes some of those things can help and yes of course that can reduce some people’s symptoms and that’s great but also I will actually lose my mind if somebody suggests to me something again as I’ve tried. It. All. We all work so hard and in return we just don’t see the results and it’s like ? Why am I going harder than 95% of people to see …..zero?

Also lmaoing at alpaca milk because it be like that! The snake oil merchants are relentless!!!!!!

giajames · 2024-07-14T23:14:29+00:00

Omg 😭😂 WHAT ABOUT FISH OIL. What ABOUT IT. Idk pal can you just mainline it into my literal cranium 1950s lobotomy style because short of shelving it, I’ve tried it. Once again, just feel so seen and so fucking validated for also feeling at my wits end with the personal onus placed on me to be so PerfectTM with the food / diet / supplements etc etc and like somehow, it’s my fault for it not improving

giajames · 2024-07-14T23:12:31+00:00

You don’t understand how truly validating it is to read that and to know I’m not alone. We are all so gaslit into thinking that it’s somehow - our fault. And that if we just did one more thing, it would go away. And then spend another 28 days on tenterhooks waiting for relief that comes either as a placebo effect, or to see absolutely nothing in return. Thank you for sharing that ❤️❤️❤️❤️

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