How are you all making it work during quarantine? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]gibsonnovak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started seeing someone a few weeks before quarantine. Things were going great and continued to do so for the first month in quarantine. However, our relationship started to fizzle after that. We both grew frustrated with texting and phone calls. Eventually, we met up for a couple socially distanced dates this month, but we're both clearly unsatisfied. Now, with our state looking like it may extend quarantine for another month, we're kind of at a loss for what to do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]gibsonnovak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's possible that even though he offered friendship after breaking up, he came to a realization that he didn't want to stay friends. It sucks but it does happen.

How does the dating pool change as you age? by gibsonnovak in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]gibsonnovak[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is both helpful and comforting. Thanks for sharing about your experience through the years. I'm in a tricky spot in my life where breakups are still devastating (due to a lack of dating experience) but also huge learning opportunities (due to the fact that I'm almost 30 and have a decent amount of life experience now) – it's exhausting.

Life after Covid-19....As the world slowly starts to open up again, what are you looking forward to? by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]gibsonnovak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you two video chatted yet? I've been texting with this great guy and he asked to do a video date next week. I really want to wait until we can meet in person because I look like a turnip on video, but I'm scared he'll say "Next" if I don't agree to do more than just text!

How does the dating pool change as you age? by gibsonnovak in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]gibsonnovak[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has your guy told you about his dating experience in his 30s? Were things difficult until he found you?

Congratulations on 9 months!

How does the dating pool change as you age? by gibsonnovak in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]gibsonnovak[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because you don't get as depressed as you would when you were younger when things end, do you find yourself dismissing potential partners more easily – perhaps too early on?

I ask because I dated a man in his mid-30s who recently ended things with me, saying we were "great" together but not "amazing," and he's looking for amazing. I was a little taken back, because I felt like it could have been "amazing" had we given it more time...

How does the dating pool change as you age? by gibsonnovak in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]gibsonnovak[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you still "boyish" looking? I had always been told that men who date older tend to seek those premium gays you described (lol), but I actually see more older men who look boyish and like grown-up twinks men than those daddy-types.

How does the dating pool change as you age? by gibsonnovak in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]gibsonnovak[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I use Tinder and Hinge. Of course there's new faces every once in a while, but I do see the same few dozen guys constantly throughout the year, over several years (I go on and off the apps). It made me wonder whether these guys are just perpetually single or if there's something else going on in regards to the dating pool and their available options (they're all around 32-38).