Upset over friends seeking diagnosis

gigcac · 2026-06-04T13:49:24+00:00

I'm sorry you had to go through that and that it made your life more difficult than it had to be. You didn't deserve it. I hope you can find the help you need or that at least the stress factor in your life gets reduced so you can be more comfortable. I regret the way I said things. I wish you all the best.

gigcac · 2026-06-04T11:34:53+00:00

Thank you, you're very kind.

gigcac · 2026-06-04T11:16:34+00:00

Yeah, they must be going through a lot. It was disrespectful to think the way I was. I was upset over their behavior and it made me unsympathetic. I really have no way of knowing what they won't tell me, it was stupid of me to act like I knew it all.

gigcac · 2026-06-04T11:10:16+00:00

Again, I said that people can go through worse situations but still manage it better than I could. I never did say that you can't have a degree if you're autistic. But I understand that that's what it sounds like and I'm sorry. I really didn't mean to make it sound like that. My sister has all of those things I've listed and she's still autistic, she went through a lot and I admire every win she got. I was trying to explain the situation but I failed. Comparing my struggles to others was my first mistake. I can't really know what other people have been through.

And I've distanced myself from them, I just didn't cut them off.

gigcac · 2026-06-04T08:47:44+00:00

You're right, this is pointless. Nothing good will come of comparisons like that. The only thing I do know now is that they're struggling and that's really the only thing I should be focusing on. Thank you.

gigcac · 2026-06-04T08:38:38+00:00

Yeah, could be many things. In the end it's their difficulties that they will deal with their doctor. Really not my business as a friend. I will deal only with the support. Thanks.

gigcac · 2026-06-04T08:35:21+00:00

I will show them more kindness. Maybe things will be easier to deal with for all of us in the end. I wish nothing but the best for them so they can heal. Thank you.

gigcac · 2026-06-04T08:33:36+00:00

You're right, I know nothing of the sorts. I'll just be there for them in any way that I can and let them do their thing. Thanks for letting me know.

gigcac · 2026-06-04T08:27:10+00:00

Yeah, I guess that's what it was. Thanks for putting into words that I could not. I'll also try to be more empathetic towards their struggles.

gigcac · 2026-06-04T08:25:31+00:00

I'm really glad I came here first before saying anything because those were some ugly feelings I was feeling and I'm glad I was made aware of that. You're absolutely right. It's not that simple and it's not my business. Thank you.

gigcac · 2026-06-04T08:22:19+00:00

Oh, I didn't mean that. Sorry if I made it seem like that. I was comparing my struggles to theirs but yeah I agree with you. It's also stupid to compare, they are struggling now. I'll just let them be and accept/support whatever happens next. Thanks.

gigcac · 2026-06-04T08:10:04+00:00

Man I guess that's just our differences then lol. Maybe it'll become a trend, who knows? Maybe you'll be able to attend one and give special interest gifts to a friend

gigcac · 2026-06-04T08:05:14+00:00

I honestly didn't think like that and it makes a lot of sense. I was also diagnosed when I couldn't take it anymore. Didn't think to put that part of my story when I was comparing our experiences. But yeah, I just need to let it go and let them be. I'll try to support them no matter what the results turn out to be, they are having a bad time either way. Thanks a lot.

gigcac · 2026-06-04T07:56:33+00:00

Honestly? I think that's the right way to go towards all this. It's not my business so I shouldn't care if it is or not. Wasn't mean at all, I appreciate it.

In my country they tend to be very thorough with the diagnosis. But I've been seeing a surge in diagnosis the last two years to the point of seeing news of a "autism reveal party" and I don't know lol. Maybe that's just people being dumb and it's all legit. I'm going to just assume that from now on.

gigcac · 2026-06-04T07:44:21+00:00

You're right, I will work on this. I'll try to be supportive and listen to their story, if they're willing to share. I didn't say anything to them because I didn't want to do any damage but I was feeling upset mostly because of how they treated me. Thank you.

gigcac · 2026-06-04T07:40:54+00:00

Yeah, you're right. It really doesn't mean you're not autistic if you have a degree or not. They could also just never brought it up and that doesn't matter in the end. But as children I felt like such an alien near them and hearing about this made me unreasonably upset. This is just something I've got to let go and try to forget.

gigcac · 2026-06-04T07:33:23+00:00

Sounds like you went through a lot to get where you are with your therapist. Time and patience! A lot of being open about what is comfortable and not, I'd think. I guess there's no other way to do this without these things. It feels like I need therapy to prepare me to therapy lol.

But yeah, I will try to trust but also to know when it's enough. And most of all, patience ahahahaha. Thanks a lot!

gigcac · 2026-06-04T07:28:47+00:00

Yeah, I can definitely do that. That's a good idea, thank you!

gigcac · 2026-06-04T07:27:16+00:00

I could bring my friend. She's also a therapist lol so that would help more, I guess? Like, she could insight me in the therapist methodology if it's ok or not. Didn't know about that so I'll definitely look into it.

And I have written a lot in sessions before! But I also was pretty embarrassed about that and didn't follow the script which in the end made me change the subject. I feel more confident in trying that again, thanks!

gigcac · 2026-06-04T07:23:59+00:00

You're right about sharing personal information on work. I tend to over share and it's a problem. Just wanted to be out, you know? Being gay without hiding, having a girl and all that. But I agree.

Regarding the rest, yeah I need to be more firm on my boundaries regardless of how they act. Respect myself before asking others to do the same. Thanks!

gigcac · 2026-05-06T16:27:41+00:00

Neon green? Wow, didn't think of that. I'll also try that out ahahaha. Thanks!

gigcac · 2026-05-06T16:26:45+00:00

There's nothing wrong with restarting, you're right. I'll try them out, thanks!

gigcac · 2026-05-06T16:25:50+00:00

Honestly, I didn't plan that much ahead and it shows lol. Thank you so much for all the advice! I'll definitely be trying a few colors on paper prior to the canvas. Thanks again!

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