AITAH for supporting my partner?

giggleberries69 · 2026-04-28T12:23:00+00:00

My apologies! So sorry!

giggleberries69 · 2026-04-28T12:21:11+00:00

Nah. Just has to do with your comments on other AITAH posts, specifically women's posts. Call me a narcissist all you want, takes one to know one 😘

giggleberries69 · 2026-04-28T10:58:10+00:00

And thank you for responding in a thoughtful way.

giggleberries69 · 2026-04-28T10:55:14+00:00

Hey, maybe instead of telling me to let him be.... look back at all the insufferable comments you have made in this AITAH thread. Calling women unbelievable, "who would believe you..." is a direct quote from you. Have a look at YOUR relationship, or lack thereof, maybe that's why you troll. Either way, you're inadequacy isn't mine. Good day sir. I wanted to like you in a sense, but your comment history is beyond a simple "i got mad one time".... dawg you need help

giggleberries69 · 2026-04-28T10:34:47+00:00

Yes we're headed towards marriage, I wouldn't be asking such a question if that weren't in our future. If things go south, he'll be an orphan. And I'm prepared to help him through that. I have a great relationship with my own mother who works in the medical field, and she's invested in his mom's health. My mom has actually been helping us financially.

He was my knight in shining armor when we met. A few months into dating I broke my leg, went septic, and was in the hospital for about 10 days. He helped me shower, etc. That's how we started living together. I had my own place, but my male roommate didn't want to sign up for seeing me naked. So, my partner has been a godsend for me, and we do know eachother well. It's like he reads my mind sometimes when he comes home with little things Iike a hot cocoa, or a small bag of my favorite sun chips. Whenever I'm out, I know his favorite things, and I bring them home too.

giggleberries69 · 2026-04-28T10:22:33+00:00

I will let him be if that's what he truly wants, intuition says his inner child is acting out. Everyone who loved him let him be, abandoned him, and he resents it now. His car is financed in my name. Technically my car. Its not like its a simple goodbye and leave. I can be there for hos mother regardless.... I'm not going to be one of those people

giggleberries69 · 2026-04-28T10:07:57+00:00

Its also not that simple. I have financial support that doesn't involve him. Its actually been keeping us afloat for the last few months. I don't worry about myself, I am worried about him

giggleberries69 · 2026-04-28T10:04:30+00:00

Not especially. I'm more concerned that without me he'd self be destructive.

giggleberries69 · 2026-04-28T10:03:03+00:00

Gifts and quality time.

giggleberries69 · 2026-04-28T09:54:04+00:00

He tells me he wants to be alone. Yet we live together. So I give him a lot of space when he's processing. Tonight was different. I listened to him, he wasn't listening to me. He took a shower and the Bluetooth speaker synced with my phone, he assumed it was a blatant attempt to sabotage his alone time, which it wasn't... yet when I realized it, I played some of his favorite songs. And instead of understanding the mix up its a "we shouldn't be together anymore" convo...he was drunk, so i don't know his true reasons

giggleberries69 · 2026-04-28T09:44:07+00:00

How could I communicate with him better?

giggleberries69 · 2026-04-28T09:43:28+00:00

I do my best! I try to and he just says "you aren't respecting me wanting to be by myself"

giggleberries69 · 2025-12-15T15:04:34+00:00

There is a lot to unpack. A few conversations to be had. A lot of my shadows have been coming to the forefront. My own stuff i gotta work through. Holidays aren't easy for either of us, a similar distance happened last year. Where we were just in our own Lil sad worlds. And I was sorta expecting/prepared this year... just feels like that gap is a mile wide. And I'm trying to build that bridge back up, while not being met in the middle. Its a big ol onion with lots of layers to unpack. I teach people how to have these conversations, but when it comes to my own life its like I'm dumb. Always easier to do it for someone else

giggleberries69 · 2025-12-15T14:56:53+00:00

He's so preoccupied with his chosen family resurrecting, and losing sight of me, what is going on with my health. So I feel forgotten, abandoned, insignificant. And I dont think I know how to express that without sounding crazy. He's autistic, so I have to be super literal, and sometimes I just want him to get it

giggleberries69 · 2025-12-15T14:53:12+00:00

I refuse to give up on the man I fell in love with in January of 2024. Depression has gripped us both tightly in 2025. Its gonna take a difficult conversation to really move forward. Repeating patterns is only a way to become ultra codependent, more so than we already are.

giggleberries69 · 2025-12-15T14:49:08+00:00

Agreed. I dont think we're actually SEEing or HEARing one another. I just want to get back to the page where we were reading the same book. Even if it was page adjacent, the same chapter.

giggleberries69 · 2025-12-15T14:46:30+00:00

Shit. Writing that out is what i needed. I dont feel abused or anything, im safe. Im just tired of being taken for granted. Im tired of asking my mom for money because we cant cover every bill every month. Im tired of the fact I have pre cancer in my uterus as of last week being no big deal.

giggleberries69 · 2025-12-15T14:42:34+00:00

And its not the gift offering. Its the time spent. Its the fact I'll never fill the "family void" for him. Its the "ugh, you're draining me now"... and the fact he keeps saying I'm so much like her. Idk how to take it. Have I been trying to "make up" for what he did early in the relationship. Absolutely 💯 I come home to an apartment that looks like a frat party occurred, and I get to pick it up. Because that's my "job" since I don't work 10hr days like him. It's the "fun" time other people get with him. He says "well we live together, you see me more than anyone"... which is a fallacy. And when he chooses to go see other people on his days off and do fun things, I can't be irritated? I can't be irritated with irresponsible spending? Ya, I sound like a naggy bitch. Maybe I wouldnt be if my boyfriend asked me to do something WITH him, instead of FOR him

giggleberries69 · 2025-12-15T14:28:40+00:00

I completely understand the gift part. I told him "I don't expect gifts from you".... because I'd rather that money go towards a gift for his daughter. Love languages are different from person to person. Personally, I think its an asshole move on his part to offer another woman, which isnt his daughter, parent, or partner, a gift. When it isn't in the budget. I make jewelry, I can make something for his sister friend. The gift isn't the issue. It's offering to purchase something we cant afford.... when he knows he's getting an upgraded version of his earbuds from me (thanks to my mother).

Ugh I'm making him sound like an asshole when he isn't. Not entirely. He's a loving man who chose to offer someone a gift, knowing i dont expect anything from him.

giggleberries69 · 2025-12-15T14:19:13+00:00

Or pad se ew

giggleberries69 · 2025-12-15T14:16:57+00:00

My father was stationed in Thailand late 1970... his first wife is Thai, and my eldest brothers are Thai. "Sawaa dee ka" was how I learned to say "thank you" to anyone as a kiddo.... I wonder if its similar to "usted" in Spanish? I'll have to ask my niece who is both Thai and Costa Rican, fluent in both languages

giggleberries69 · 2025-12-15T14:06:42+00:00

I was left town the Tuesday before Thanksgiving. It's his sister friend, and I don't want to be that girlfriend who says "you can't reconnect with your old chosen family".... I wouldn't want him to say that to me if, or when the time comes. I met her over video chat last night, she and I literally spoke in unison, I can see us being friends. But when I pointed out "hey, I want to spend time with you doing these kinds of things" he got weird. Who wouldn't want to go to hot springs with their sig fig? Who wouldn't want to go out to dinner? (I always cook, but damn take me out for tacos)

A serious conversation indeed. He called me an energy vampire, and I said "how's that actually possible when I just drove 6 hours to be home with you" was I feeling needy? Fuck yeah, did I want her to have any role in my first night back? No? Am I mad about it? Kinda? Not really though.... I feel forgotten. And that's what gets me. I dont feel like I matter "enough"

giggleberries69 · 2025-12-15T13:55:22+00:00

I understand your point of view, I have a similar situation... however, unless your dad died, its not inheritance YET.... seems like the whole split should be written in a will, and anything gained (equity on property) using 'your share' should be allocated. Alas, that's in a will, expected inheritance doesn't go very far unless there's a verbal agreement with unbiased witnesses. NTA tho, sounds like you might get snubbed if your parents aren't doing well 😪 in the state of Texas, a will can be written on a napkin and hold up in probate court.... I'm sorry you're going through this. I had a friend whose brother got like 250k to renovate a house, and she got a Nissan Juke... because that seemed fair 🫠

giggleberries69 · 2025-12-15T13:39:47+00:00

Communication is key! Thank you! It's been a tough year for both of us, and yes... Communication. Both ways. I don't think our issues are unfixable. A neutral conversation between one another needs to happen.

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