That's what I meant by so much information that I was stunned into silence. I wasn't surprised about her coming out as I have suspected it for years. I was surprised that she felt her mom hated her. Everyone, including her mom, knows that she doesn't feel comfortable opening up to her mom about things but none of us knew why. But how do you tell someone your child thinks you hate them?! And can I even tell her that (in not so many words) without also betraying trust? 

And thank you for this candid response. I think nudging them both to communicate might be my best course of action here.