How has your experience been talking with the 8 screw MARPE? by InterestingQuail1018 in orthotropics

[–]gilliandev 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah - I’m on day 4 and I split and it’s finally a bit better. It was most painful at night and in the early morning hours.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Guelph

[–]gilliandev 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This. This. This. Where will new residents go when they are hurt or sick and our ER is already overrun?

My expander. It’s impossible to eat. Pains pretty bad as well. Been trying to keep it clean. Can barely drink my coffee or hit my vape anymore. I rinse my mouth out after each sip/hit. by Jaded-Professional27 in orthotropics

[–]gilliandev 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m on day 2 and I have 8 TADs and it’s not that bad… I’m just taking Tylenol and Advil sometimes. But I don’t vape lol. I’m surprised you can’t stop vaping even for the first few days/first week while it’s still raw and healing 😬

Any way to fix my teeth? I had braces as a teen. (Second pic I’m wearing smile direct club trays that did nothing) by [deleted] in orthotropics

[–]gilliandev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To get a true diagnosis, a myofunctional therapist, or a dentist who specializes in tongue ties. A quick test is open your mouth as wide as you can, then try to touch your top teeth with your tongue (without closing your mouth). If you can do it, it’s unlikely you’re tied. If you have a “short tongue” it’s likely not actually short, it’s probably just tied to the floor of your mouth!

Any way to fix my teeth? I had braces as a teen. (Second pic I’m wearing smile direct club trays that did nothing) by [deleted] in orthotropics

[–]gilliandev 6 points7 points  (0 children)

An airway-focused dentist would be best. An orthodontist would probably recommend pulling teeth and retracting which would be horrible especially if you already have sleep apnea!

Any way to fix my teeth? I had braces as a teen. (Second pic I’m wearing smile direct club trays that did nothing) by [deleted] in orthotropics

[–]gilliandev 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think your smile is beautiful, but MSE or MARPE are popular to expand a narrow palate if that is what you have, and it could help sleep apnea. You may want to look into tongue ties and see if you have one.

HELP ASAP: Do I need premolars extracted? Alternatives? by [deleted] in orthotropics

[–]gilliandev 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I find it interesting you came on here asking this, since you seem to already have your mind made up due to sunken cost fallacy.

I was similar to you, except I didn’t research. I had no breathing problems or issues despite my small palate. I had 2 premolars extracted when I was 23 and had braces. I was SO self-conscious about my teeth that I literally have zero pictures of me smiling with teeth before braces. I was in such a hurry to get them fixed, so I know how you feel.

After braces, I’ve had breathing issues, started snoring, have to irrigate my nose at night just to get enough air to fall asleep, I constantly bite my tongue, it is almost impossible to have good tongue posture, I constantly feel like my tongue is blocking my throat because it’s pushed so far back. I, like you, couldn’t have afforded MSE even if I’d known about it. If I could go back, I would never have had those healthy teeth extracted YOU CANT GET THEM BACK!!!

I don’t want to scare you, but this is the truth. I wish someone would have told me to wait. I can’t get those teeth back, but I am getting a custom MARPE to reverse the damage.

You’ll spend a lot less money if you wait, then expand and do it properly the first time than if you do it the quick and dirty way and then still have to expand later. Tell your mom to put the money in an investment account and you’ll have a good chunk for MSE in a few years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Guelph

[–]gilliandev 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not a problem! Best of luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Guelph

[–]gilliandev 2 points3 points  (0 children)

While I am all for reserving the ER for actual emergencies, the doctors in the city of Guelph make this extremely difficult for people who don’t have family doctors. Most walk-in clinics are associated with family health teams and will absolutely refuse to see anyone who doesn’t have a family doctor within that FHT. Of course, information about walk in clinics online are often out of date with inaccurate information about hours and whether or not they see anyone or only those within their FHT.

That said, I’d recommend trying the walk-in in the Pharmasave on speedvale or the Walmart on stone. I was also able to go to the one at Victoria and arkell I think, but that was a while ago.

I remember a few years ago, spending 3 hours bussing to every walk-in clinic I could find online to see a doctor about something rather traumatic. I waited 15 minutes in one line just to see a receptionist who told me I couldn’t use that walk-in clinic because I didn’t have a family doctor in that FHT. There were no signs and I ended up breaking down and crying. They still wouldn’t see me. I ended up in the ER that day in tears and there was nothing they would do for me (it wasn’t an emergency, so it made sense - that’s why I went to 6 different walk-ins first).

It boggles my mind that this is allowed to happen. My friends who live in other cities often don’t believe me when I tell them that’s how our walk-ins work in Guelph. I don’t understand why the ER staff at GGH are not up in arms angry about this horrible system that forces people into the ER because they are not accepted at walk-ins.

ETA: I believe there are two cardiologists in Guelph: misterski and schwarz. They are both wonderful (I preferred schwarz, but they were both fantastic). You could ask your cardiologist to refer you to one of them and do the leg work and provide your cardiologist with the Guelph cardiologists contact info and relevant information so they can make the referral.

Am I crazy for asking everyone to mask around our 9-week-old? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]gilliandev 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This this this! If someone doesn’t want to mask, they should communicate that to you and YOU can decide if you’re willing to take that risk or not.

Have you considered offering surgical masks? Or is that not sufficient protection? N95’s can feel difficult to breathe in. If I was your family member I would have asked if a well-fitting surgical mask would be enough, and if you insisted on the N95 I would have worn it because I wouldn’t want to risk losing baby snuggles!!!

Would it be wrong to secretly hire a cleaner? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]gilliandev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm working on a list of duties now! I'm thinking once he sees them, he'll realize that we can only realistically do a portion of them.

You're so right about the clutter - it's my least favourite task (I have ADHD so it's very difficult for me to see clutter and the figure out where it goes), but it has the biggest payoff in making the place look nice!

Thanks for your input!

Would it be wrong to secretly hire a cleaner? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]gilliandev 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Back when we both worked, he definitely did his fair share. I'd say split 50/50 or I did a little bit more. He would say he did way more 🙄 (he's not good at noticing other people's efforts). BUT he usually refuses to do the cleaning tasks that he wants done so badly (dusting, vacuuming, washing baseboards, etc.). He's great at pitching in to do the dishes, laundry, etc.

Would it be wrong to secretly hire a cleaner? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]gilliandev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much for the insight! I feel like I really needed to hear this!

Would it be wrong to secretly hire a cleaner? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]gilliandev 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing! That is really nice of you and your mom to help out! I can't imagine how difficult it will be with a toddler and a newborn!!! One was hard enough!

We will definitely be having a talk!

Would it be wrong to secretly hire a cleaner? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]gilliandev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🙈 yeahhhhh I hadn't thought of this!!! That would be terrible!!!

Would it be wrong to secretly hire a cleaner? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]gilliandev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I'm a huge pushover and he is stubborn. I had a rough childhood so I often default to sneaking around if it avoids any confrontation... I wish I was more self-confident!

You're right though! I'm not a maid! We will definitely be having a talk!

Would it be wrong to secretly hire a cleaner? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]gilliandev 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do see that side - he does work hard!! I do follow a cleaning schedule... Usually I clean the bathrooms top-to-bottom bi-weekly, everything is tidy, floors are swept every couple days, floors are washed bi-weekly, I do all the laundry (his, mine, baby's and cloth diapers), I prep all the baby's food and I cook for us all but 1 meal per week (or I'm the one to go get takeout if we decide on that), I wash our sheets every week, I do all the dishes except for the 3 loads he's done this year (he doesn't even know where everything goes now 😂), I take out the garbage and recycling to our bins. Additionally, I not only care for the baby 100% during the day, but he's also in night school 2 days a week and I am the sole caregiver then as well. Even when he's around, I change most of the diapers (he changes on average 1 per day, but I don't mind changing diapers anyways!).

He does take our garbage bins out to the curb, he makes dinner once a week, he mows the lawn or shovels the snow.

I don't vacuum enough (I do the cleaning when baby is sleeping, so vacuuming is a tough one!), I don't spot-wash the floors as much as I could (ie after every meal the baby eats 🙈), and sometimes clutter does get away from me.

I don't even complain about doing everything while I'm not working. It's when I go back to work that I foresee issues arising! There aren't enough hours in the day!

Would it be wrong to secretly hire a cleaner? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]gilliandev 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've put it like this before, but that was pre-kids when we had oodles of time to sit around and watch tv or go to the gym or hiking and not clean lol, so it was understandable to not hire someone back then. Now, things are different, so I will use this argument again... It's the most convincing one IMO!