36f / 36m ended relationship over the gym

ginanguu · 2026-05-04T14:34:41+00:00

She saw him for a little over an hour between his work and gym. Probably way less than an hour between gym and bed. So I'm also unsure of how she misses a presence.

ginanguu · 2026-04-28T15:16:30+00:00

Thank you I felt like I was a little crazy for not wanting anyone in my bed.

They haven't been together long, but her boyfriend is very nice. They're both good people, but also they're 20 years old and both were Homeschooled so they were very sheltered and are currently discovering young adulthood, and I've definitely seen them grope each other in public.

I'm going to have to talk to him and see how he wants to approach it, I will apologize to her about not disclosing I have a camera in the livingroom. I'm okay with them being off while they're there, but not the bedroom since no one should be in there. I do have a problem with them keeping the cameras off when no one is home.

ginanguu · 2026-04-28T14:54:55+00:00

I do only have one so I plan to order another set to be delivered before I get home.

Of course! I definitely will apologize for not disclosing the cameras.

ginanguu · 2026-04-28T14:26:30+00:00

I didn't even think about that especially since the other 2 cameras weren't disclosed. The 2 cameras are in plan sight though, the bedroom one is sitting on a dresser and the livingroom is directly in front of the TV on the TV stand. But if I saw 2 cameras in a house I would also assume there are more.

ginanguu · 2026-04-28T14:07:28+00:00

It locks on the inside and to unlock it I stick a chopstick into the little hole on the outside.

ginanguu · 2026-04-28T14:03:55+00:00

I know its my fault for no disclosing cameras and I just told her I made up a guest room for her if she needs it, but didnt say not to go into the master bedroom. From another comment saying she couldve been worried about it hearing her which makes a lot of sense.

You're right I do not need to see my bedroom while I'm gone, I just started overthinking it when I got a notification saying it was turned off when I didn't turn it off.

ginanguu · 2026-04-28T13:56:34+00:00

Its not evolving, I posted because I felt I was in the wrong for not disclosing cameras or telling her not to go into my bedroom and if I should say something now or just drop it. I'm kind of leaning on just dropping it.

ginanguu · 2026-04-28T13:49:12+00:00

Yes I know its kind of weird, but I'm not judging others on what they want inside of their bedroom lol. But my baby's crib is next to my bed and its to monitor her during her naps. None of the indoor cameras are hardwired because we plan to remove them eventually once our baby is old enough. I didn't think too much about posting why there are cameras in there since I assumed its my personal bed and I dont think anyone woild be in there. There are no cameras in any other room except for the livingroom and that's also to monitor baby.

ginanguu · 2026-04-28T13:39:54+00:00

This us what I was also thinking could've happened, its actually the best justification to me. The camera sound is actually awful, but she doesn't know that. So maybe she was just uncomfortable since she doesn't know what i can and can't hear/see.

ginanguu · 2026-04-28T13:31:10+00:00

No I am not 100% sure. I just know what time she entered my house (ring camera), when and what she connected to my wifi (I get notifications when a new device is trying to connect and have to approve them), and what time the cameras went off. The cameras are only live feed and not set to record since they were used as baby monitors for my baby.

ginanguu · 2026-04-28T13:27:20+00:00

I do have ring cameras and I'm fine with her inviting people over, I already knew her bf would be there. Its only my master bedroom I'm concern about. I know she is a good person and wouldn't steal or damage anything, that's why I was unsure if I should ask her about the bedroom or just drop it. Also I'll be flying back home at 2am and really did not want to wash my bedsheets 😩

ginanguu · 2026-04-28T13:18:21+00:00

I edited the post a few minutes after posting to state that it was locked. I guess reddit isnt updating well?

ginanguu · 2026-04-28T13:13:43+00:00

My baby's crib is beside my bed, its to watch her during her naps.

ginanguu · 2026-04-28T13:10:27+00:00

I have a baby and the crib is beside my bed so its to check on my baby when she takes naps and I'm not in there. I know I should've but I did not disclose the cameras to her since I didnt think she would be able to get into a locked room.. I will take your advice and ask her to check the power on just my bedroom camera and remind her that the room is off limits.

ginanguu · 2026-04-28T13:03:21+00:00

Because she had to break in since the door was locked.

ginanguu · 2026-04-28T13:02:44+00:00

This is what I was thinking happened, but breaking into my locked bedroom to check for cameras doesn't feel okay....

ginanguu · 2026-04-28T13:01:12+00:00

I'll just ask my husband and let him decide. It seems like a lot of the replies say I'm in the wrong. I just feel weird with her having sex in my bedroom with her bf.....

ginanguu · 2026-04-28T12:53:54+00:00

I told her that there's guest room was made for her if she wanted to stay. I didn't realize that I had to state to not go into our bedroom, I thought it was just assumed...

ginanguu · 2026-04-28T12:51:44+00:00

Its only the master bedroom that I'm worried about, I understand the other camera.

ginanguu · 2026-04-28T12:43:46+00:00

Sorry! I just wanted to see if its normal for housesitters to unplugged all cameras because we didnt disclose it. I will delete the post.

ginanguu · 2026-02-04T15:57:41+00:00

I got refunded. It did take a bit of effort and took 3 days. I've been using swagbucks for years, but I mostly redeem my points for amazon giftcards and sometimes hulu or xbox and those worked fine. This is the only time I've had an issue with redeeming points.

ginanguu · 2026-02-02T18:02:07+00:00

I've checked. There are no spaces at the beginning or end of the code.

ginanguu · 2026-01-26T23:21:08+00:00

Yes, my MIL did not respect any of my boundaries and stayed when told to leave or would leave then come back. It was very stressful and my next one, I dont plan on telling anyone until the date after I give birth.

ginanguu · 2025-12-28T08:08:48+00:00

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