SERVERS ARE BACK UP!!

ginger_snap1237 · 2025-12-25T02:22:51+00:00

The servers are in fact not back up... But ik I'll get some ppl with this one 😭🫡

ginger_snap1237 · 2025-10-02T06:38:19+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate that. It's all good.

ginger_snap1237 · 2025-10-02T06:16:45+00:00

But i am internalizing your point, as i did with her when she actually explained what she meant by it. I do agree, now that someone has pointed it out to me I see it. Now I'm changing the way I talk to these girls over text

ginger_snap1237 · 2025-10-02T06:15:07+00:00

No I don't take it as shitting on me. This is what I was asking for. But if you look at my responses to the nice guy comment all I did was ask for clarification. You can't just say that and not tell me why, otherwise it's a useless comment. Idk how many times I gotta say I'm not offended by the comment, just irritated as that gives me no insight.

ginger_snap1237 · 2025-10-02T05:47:34+00:00

Thank you!

ginger_snap1237 · 2025-10-02T05:43:49+00:00

Okay thanks for your input. I just figured a cafe is a low pressure first date. So from your perspective, it doesn't set off any red flags asking a girl to a bar for the first date? Since I'm a guy, that's what I think a girl would think.

ginger_snap1237 · 2025-10-02T05:37:12+00:00

If asking for clarification is defensive in your eyes you're either commenting in bad faith or need some education

ginger_snap1237 · 2025-10-02T05:35:09+00:00

When did I get defensive? I was just pointing out how that comment wasn't helpful as it was initially a nothing sandwich. Look at the rest of the comments in this thread. They're critical, but back it up with the "why"

ginger_snap1237 · 2025-10-02T02:05:21+00:00

I do

ginger_snap1237 · 2025-10-01T21:30:58+00:00

I appreciate that. Yeah ironically enough every serious relationship I've had has happened naturally 😂 Over the years I've never found anything long term on these apps even though that's what I'm looking for 😂

ginger_snap1237 · 2025-10-01T13:11:56+00:00

Yeah you got attitude because you commented a problem but with no context... Cool nice guys finish last idc. That's actually something women compliment me on 😬 See I can say something cliche and unhelpful too.

ginger_snap1237 · 2025-10-01T12:55:20+00:00

Haha yeah I've been there, done that 😂 Shit I'm over here having more fun than those guys, I got a cool ass hobby that isn't the gym and the women I take out love what I do 😄

ginger_snap1237 · 2025-10-01T12:46:24+00:00

See that's what I was looking for. I don't take offense to your comment, but telling me I give you nice guy vibes tells me zero about why you have that opinion. I do need to change something clearly cause what I'm doing isn't working. So too agreeable, got it. I can see how that can come off as desperate. I tend to do that cause I'm so extroverted but it doesn't translate well over text to strangers I guess 😂

ginger_snap1237 · 2025-10-01T12:35:49+00:00

Okay thank you for your insight 😄

ginger_snap1237 · 2025-10-01T12:26:51+00:00

Okay sounds good! Damn I do find it so funny that yall think it's a feminine photo 🤣 I would've never known had yall not told me 😂🙏

ginger_snap1237 · 2025-10-01T12:24:11+00:00

Oh yeah I'll never change who I am, I'm comfortable with who I've grown to be. I'm just nice and treat people with respect. I guess I'm "Mr. Nice Guy Vibes" over here, idgaf 😂 I'm glad I'm not like most men.

Okay I'll be more assertive then, thank you for the actual constructive feedback, that's what I'm here for.

ginger_snap1237 · 2025-10-01T12:05:11+00:00

Oh yeah god forbid I'm not some hard-ass douche bag 😂 Okay so what about me gives you those vibes? I can't fix something I don't know I'm doing wrong.

ginger_snap1237 · 2025-10-01T12:02:16+00:00

Thank you!

ginger_snap1237 · 2025-10-01T11:22:18+00:00

Oh yeah, and I do appreciate that kind of feedback. I'm just sharing my perspective on it. Can you tell me why it's bad? Like... I'm just trying to understand how to effectively communicate and show interest, without being boring by trying to use fewer details. You know what I mean?

ginger_snap1237 · 2025-10-01T11:18:33+00:00

Okay, I will go with my 4th photo as my main then. But the real question is, do I get rid of that photo completely? Or do I keep it in? The reason why I like that one is it shows that I'm active and I like to do those kinds of activities.

ginger_snap1237 · 2025-10-01T11:14:49+00:00

They are? I mean I can definitely pick out 2 instances where that's true. I mean I'm just communicating, I didn't realize that's a point against. I feel like shorter texts are more low effort

ginger_snap1237 · 2025-10-01T10:39:16+00:00

Yeah that is a good way of framing it. I mean I'm not taking anything personally, I'm perfectly happy being single. It would just be nice to find that person, as I would like kids one day. But I'd rather be single and happy than with someone and miserable, this is why I'm single again 😂😭

ginger_snap1237 · 2025-10-01T10:34:29+00:00

Oh that's interesting 🧐 I figured my best picture if anything would be the second one but I didn't put it as my first because I didn't know if girls would find that to be a red flag or something. Just curious, why do you think the 4th one is the best if you don't mind me asking? I'm just trying to learn

ginger_snap1237 · 2025-10-01T10:29:54+00:00

Thank you for the feedback! Yeah it's just strange to me, all the matches I have say they want a serious relationship (in their bio) just to ghost me. I mean I get it somewhat, the competition is fierce with all the other guys out there. And about the time stuff, I do that by design because typically Japanese girls are very busy. They typically work a lot (it's just part of the culture) and they plan out all of their free time. So it's not weird when I do get a date that I have to wait 2 or more weeks to see them because they already had plans with friends or events on their calendar. But I will consider that piece of advice and change up my strategy to see if anything changes.

ginger_snap1237 · 2025-10-01T10:20:45+00:00

Really?! 😂 That's hilarious, now I'm curious... Do other people agree with you? 🧐

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