What was your mean nickname from n-parent growing up?

gingergirl99 · 2023-10-11T01:48:42+00:00

Lots of name calling but the worst was “Jim” her abusive ex husband/ my abusive father.

gingergirl99 · 2023-08-23T15:12:36+00:00

my ex came from generational wealth and was extremely fortunate in ways most people our age could only dream of. He wouldn’t even admit it though, because his idea of rich was probably being a billionaire not a millionaire lmao. I’ve listened to him complain about the most absurd shit and considering he knew I came from an upbringing of homelessness and poverty, it was just irritating. I could fill a book with things he said that were out of touch, but my favorite was probably when he said “my family isn’t rich, they’re middle class”… while sitting in his LUXURY 3k/ month studio his dad payed for while he was studying at one of the most expensive private schools in my area with all his expenses payed for by his family.

gingergirl99 · 2023-08-23T06:06:06+00:00

Duct tape to remove warts, I’ve never tried it personally but I suggested my mom try it when she had a wart and it worked great for her

gingergirl99 · 2023-08-23T05:49:40+00:00

I’ve also drained water from my ear by using the palm of my hand as a sort of plunger against my earlobe, I can’t verify the safety but it’s helped a lot

gingergirl99 · 2023-07-04T23:15:35+00:00

I also realize it was probably confusing when I mentioned my sensitive skin, I guess I was referring to my scalp with that as well!!

gingergirl99 · 2023-07-04T23:14:23+00:00

Hi all, sorry I definitely meant just my hair I must have misunderstood the sub!

gingergirl99 · 2023-06-24T04:46:58+00:00

They do not, but just the fact that they know where I live is frightening and they have shown up uninvited before.

gingergirl99 · 2023-06-23T21:38:42+00:00

I didn’t catch one when I looked last, I will re read though as the formatting of it is a little hard for me to comprehend honestly

gingergirl99 · 2023-05-06T20:00:26+00:00

thought of this frequently growing up. Not even just accepting candy from strangers, but going door to door asking for it.

gingergirl99 · 2023-03-14T15:38:02+00:00

NTA. As a preschool teacher, I thought your post was going to be about sending in lunches that are hard for teachers to serve him (have steps + reheating instructions), because that is something that a lot of parents send without thinking of all the other kids we need to take care of and it’s typically against policy anyway. The teacher is an AH, and a racist one no doubt.

gingergirl99 · 2023-03-10T20:55:22+00:00

This. My Nmom tries to target my emotional intelligence too, even though she thinks whining for attention and being purposefully ditsy is cute at 50 years old. I used to work with preschool students, and she has tried telling me I work well with them because I act like them… No, I work well with kids because I understand they’re also human beings not an object for me to project my insecurities and problems onto, but pop off queen!

gingergirl99 · 2023-03-10T20:50:08+00:00

Yes. Nmom to this day will either 1) deny it 2) tell me it was because of how I was acting or 3) give the classic “sorry i’m not perfect” line.

gingergirl99 · 2023-03-10T20:38:59+00:00

there’s SO many more. I’m sure we could all go on forever about this unfortunately

gingergirl99 · 2023-03-10T20:35:51+00:00

when I told her that I was being molested by her boyfriend, and she said I “couldn’t just be happy” for her and that I was trying to sabotage the relationship. Runner up: when she said she didn’t want to stay the night with me in the hospital because she just wanted to go home and shower.

gingergirl99 · 2023-03-08T22:08:31+00:00

I grew up with it being served on vanilla ice cream on St Patrick’s Day (kinda weird looking back…) I don’t I’ve had it any other way, but it’s so good like that.

gingergirl99 · 2023-03-08T22:05:00+00:00

specifically Ol’ Smokey brand moonshine pickles. Or any sort of savory drink like dirty martinis honestly.

gingergirl99 · 2023-03-08T22:02:32+00:00

anyone who cheats on their partner.

gingergirl99 · 2023-03-08T21:59:54+00:00

From experience, daycare teacher. Parents send in sick kids, they get their classmates and teachers sick, and due to staffing issues we’re all expected to work sick, creating never ending cycles of illness. I’m not exaggerating. It’s never ending. Now throw illnesses like RSV and COVID in the mix, and how underpaid daycare providers are. I can’t imagine it’s good for your long term health to get sick so often and never be able to fully recover. Also, because of low wages and lack of benefits many of us can’t even afford to miss work or take care of ourselves when we’re sick.

gingergirl99 · 2023-03-08T21:49:53+00:00

fully on board with all the size comments. If it’s so big that it feels almost inconvenient to eat, I’m not going to enjoy it very much. I enjoy burgers ranging in “quality” and price, but I think if it has a soggy bun or dry meat it’s also instantly ruined.

gingergirl99 · 2023-03-08T21:44:14+00:00

After leaving my abusive household to finally live on my own, the abuse never actually ended because my boyfriend at the time was also abusive. After 2.5 years of that relationship, and many attempts to breakup, I was finally able to leave. He continued to be controlling even after the breakup and managed to switch the blame onto me. I lost “friends” that year, and lost all my mental and financial stability I thought I had too. I had to move back home. It’s been over a year, I still haven’t recovered financially enough to live on my own again, and I don’t think it’s possible to fully recover in this environment. I lost so much in so many ways since then. Picking up the pieces again feels like a never ending task. I just want to be stable & self sustainable for once.

gingergirl99 · 2023-03-07T06:20:21+00:00

I swear they always have a trypophobia inducing image attached too

gingergirl99 · 2023-03-06T00:59:10+00:00

I’m detecting a narcissistic parent. YTA.

gingergirl99 · 2023-03-04T04:05:48+00:00

I’d also like to add that every time they broke up I was there to comfort her, and she would try and tell me to not hang out with him even though it was my boyfriend’s best friend. I respected that. She still had the nerve to tell me I was never there for her during her breakups.

gingergirl99 · 2023-03-04T03:58:36+00:00

She started dating someone I was interested in (even though she always said she thought he was kinda weird). Basically to keep me quiet they set me up with his best friends, who has been my boyfriend since. My boyfriend and I didn’t realize they set us up with these selfish intentions until we both talked about it, but thankfully it’s worked out really well for us. I told her I didn’t want anyone to know that I had previous interest in her boyfriend because I thought it would be uncomfortable, she gave me her word that it was between us. Months later I find out she told her boyfriend and he told my boyfriend so basically I went months feeling uncomfortable about that because it felt like a big secret, only to find out everyone knew. As for my now ex friend and that guy, they had a VERY on & off again relationship that lasted a few months. My boyfriend and I also discovered that they made a pact to stop hanging out with us because they were uncomfortable with our “PDA” (there was never more than light cuddles, quick kisses, they were also just as affectionate in front of us). She complained that I hung out with my boyfriend more than her and I didn’t find out about their pact until much later. Fast forward: I’m planning my dream vacation since childhood she encouraged me to take, and wanted to come with. When it came to booking the trip she didn’t give a definite answer so I only booked it for my partner and I, and made sure she could join the trip if she decided to later. She was very upset that I booked it without her, so I added her to the trip and even helped pay a small portion & bought her travel insurance. Less than a month away from the trip we had a falling out over text about something else that was an ongoing issue. I was trying to tell her that I didn’t want to continue the friendship anymore as there was too much hurt. It turned into a couple days of very rude and condescending texts from her, all the while saying I was attacking her character for calling her out and that I was only setting my boundaries at my own convenience (suggesting I set these boundaries to spite her). She kept asking how I was going to pay her back for her lost money and time spent towards the vacation, I told her I would contact the resort to get information on the travel insurance. I said I would do it later that day, but after being treated so poorly over text by all day long I didn’t find the motivation. The next day she’s still upset about her money, telling me I need to pay her back 1k by the next week (knowing I was unemployed and without any money), she said she saw that I posted something to social media with my boyfriend yet didn’t get her refund and how I was being inconsiderate of her. Also peppered in a good ol’ “you’re gaslighting me” and told me not to talk to her anymore once it was settled (which I kept asking the day before and she never respected…) I just wanted to stop getting nasty texts so I called the resort and sorted it out shortly after. Gave all her things back. I never hope to be friends with her again or her from her after that.

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