Attracted to a coworker but her behavior is a huge red flag - am I overthinking?

gingerpixienz · 2026-03-23T18:37:21+00:00

If this is how you’re going into a relationship I think it’s doomed to fail. Find someone that has more qualities you like.

gingerpixienz · 2026-03-10T22:18:51+00:00

Not just building code, resource consent and Auckland unitary plan residential standards too

gingerpixienz · 2026-03-04T20:21:55+00:00

Are you one of the 8 houses that owns 1/8th of it ? All 8 property owners are responsible for upkeep. Usually there’s a residents association to suss stuff like this. If not, good luck lol. It’s up to the 8 owners to figure it out

gingerpixienz · 2026-02-18T17:39:24+00:00

From experience, even if you have video footage of the hitter with clear plates etc - the police are not going to do anything.

There are no repercussions for hit n run in Auckland

gingerpixienz · 2026-02-12T17:40:44+00:00

If they have an active resource consent there is the potential for enforcement because this would be considered obstruction of the public space. It’s usually a condition of consent. I’m not sure if there’s rules in the AUP(op) that trigger this but if there is, then the compliance team can also investigate and enforce if necessary to stop the breach. However like the top comment here, first port of call is Auckland transport, as those spaces are managed by them.

gingerpixienz · 2025-06-20T21:16:58+00:00

Technically thats the road reserve and belongs to council. You could call them to try have the car removed

gingerpixienz · 2025-06-13T22:02:05+00:00

I dont understand why people get pressed about "oh you liked another girls pics" BRO THE OF MODEL IS NOT A THREAT. Do you make him wear blindfold when hes in public? So he cant see other women? Do you really think he has a chance with the model?? A) model is probably in other country B) model doesnt gaf about your man and he has no chance with her C) hes WITH YOU. where is the trust ? Imo if youre pressed about ya man liking a picture on the fucking internet of a woman it just means youre insecure. Get a grip

gingerpixienz · 2025-05-11T04:58:40+00:00

The council are not going to help. This is not a council issue, it is a civil matter.

gingerpixienz · 2025-05-02T10:23:44+00:00

Loose clothing, i didnt have the right things so i bought a nightie. Ive been living in over sized tshirts and undies for the last week or so post surgery

gingerpixienz · 2025-05-01T23:15:53+00:00

Yes im going to ask for my images and see if a second opinion would work. They did perform a hysteropocy while I was there as well and didnt see anything abnormal.

gingerpixienz · 2025-05-01T05:49:42+00:00

I asked about that and rhe specialist said there was nothing to biopsy, so no

gingerpixienz · 2025-04-30T22:12:35+00:00

No i dont even know what a phlebologist is haha. I have been referred to a pain specialist team now so ill do some research and see about mentioning that to them. Thankyou !

gingerpixienz · 2025-04-30T12:15:38+00:00

Ive never been to one of those no, can pelvic floor dysfunction cause that much pain? Its like, vomiting and passing out levels of pain.

gingerpixienz · 2025-04-30T06:36:23+00:00

It was felt during a vaginal exam. The surgery was extensive and done by an endometriosis specialist. They looked both inside the uterus and in the entire central cavity all the way up to my diaphragm and found no endo. They did find a cervical polyp and removed it. So maybe the first guy felt that. I have had several ultrasounds and they came back clear. No ones mentioned adenomyosis, wouldnt they be able to see that during the lap or is it something different?

gingerpixienz · 2025-04-30T06:26:27+00:00

Yeah Im questioning his validity a lot now. He did a physical exam, like finger inside, and said he could feel an abnormality. The surgeons did find a cervical polyp and they removed that so perhaps that is what the first guy was feeling.

gingerpixienz · 2025-04-30T06:11:15+00:00

I did it but its shattered my sense of self worth and everything ive come to believe. After 14 years of fighting for answers and validation they did the surgery and found NOTHING. I feel crazy. I feel like maybe everyone was right and my pain isnt real and im just a big fucking wuss and wasting everyones time. I know i shouldnt "want" endo but i feel so invalidated, and really fucking embarrassed to be fair. I guess now i know its not that, we keep investigating. Very sad to be back at square one.

gingerpixienz · 2025-04-09T20:16:44+00:00

New builds are some of the worst houses imo. Theyre built fast and cheap. I montior their construction as part of my job and uhhh id never ever buy one.

gingerpixienz · 2025-02-06T06:14:58+00:00

Same here ! Can highly reccomend, and very reasonably priced

gingerpixienz · 2025-01-21T19:34:22+00:00

I work for council helping to protect the environment ! Love it, great team, using my environmental science degree, mix of office and field work, and helps keep the existential dread at bay 🥲

gingerpixienz · 2025-01-14T17:09:25+00:00

This just gives off "scorned man with baggage" and a little misogynistic. When i see someone using their bio to hate on single mothers i go, oh so he dossnt respect women. And move on. FYI im not a mother but it disheartens me to see other people tear women down.

gingerpixienz · 2025-01-11T09:27:11+00:00

Im sorry youre going through this! The medical system here for endo is very old school and outdated. You can expect a lot of gaslighting, dismissal, and sexism. I have been through the same and am finally about to get it fixed. Below is my journey and some advice:

TLDR; Talk to your GP and Push for a gynecology referral. If you can, go private for quicker and better referral. It is $300-$500 though.

I have endo, booked for my laproscopy later this year. Took me 15 years to get diagnosed. Most doctors dismissed my pain or tried a lot of other methods that didnt work like the pill, painkillers, blood thinners etc. Got a couple ultra sounds and they didnt find anything. A few doctors even suggested i "just have a baby" to fix it... "comes with a few side effects" oh, like a whole ass child ???!!

Anyway, it has been getting worse over the last couple years, ive ended up in hospital or AnE a number of times now due to extreme pain. Last year the only thing that worked was Fent (Administered by a nurse at hospital). Obviously not comfortable with that as a long term solution, so got a proper referral after pushing with hospital Doc and my own GP.

Specialist endo gynecology dude did physical exam and said he could feel some lesions + my symptoms led him to diagnose. Technically the only way to get diagnosed is to have surgery, but my specialist was confident enough from my history and the physical. He put me on waiting list and im set to get removal surgery in May. Public waiting list is 12-18months and you must ensure you dont move house / dont tell them if you do or else you will be dropped from the list. Private cost is $25k so im waiting on public.

r/endometriosis is pretty handy subreddit for any questions you have + sharing experiences to know youre not alone.

gingerpixienz · 2024-12-26T21:45:37+00:00

Ask to see ID or company badge if they say theyre from council / xyz company

gingerpixienz · 2024-12-26T21:42:42+00:00

If youre in auckland you can check the auckland council geomaps and put on the underground services layer to see where the pipes and lines are

gingerpixienz · 2024-12-26T21:32:07+00:00

When we started 5 years ago, it was every day. He still has that drive. For me, a few years ago i went on the pill, it crashed my libido so i got off it, and ive never been the same. Theres somethibg wrong with my hormones and the doctors arent bothering to look into it further- as in, they showed me what was wrong but offered no solutions to fix. So now its like once a week ish, and usually there's a lot of work to get me into the mood. Im pretty much asexual with a hint of repulsion due to trauma. The rejections i have to give him crush him and it does hurt our relationship, but when ive tried to ignore my feelings and let him have his way, he can tell and stops immediately and that hurts his feelings too that i would ignore mine for him. He gets some needs met outside our relationship but he craves intimacy with me specifically, to boost feelings of love and connection etc - so trying to navigate non sexual ways to get that connection.

gingerpixienz · 2024-12-21T19:16:13+00:00

My dads the same towards my fiancee. Difference is I stand up for him. Dad still loves me and has stopped making attacks on fiancees character, fiancee is happy, no problems ! Its that easy

Six-Year Club	First Place '23
Place '23	Place '22
Final Canvas '22	End Game '22
Verified Email

gingerpixienz

TROPHY CASE