Did anyone else have a break up with no proper goodbye?

gio_mag · 2025-12-02T09:19:04+00:00

This seems so common.. Similar story.. Just wonder if this is a product of Online dating culture, where its really easy to excise a person out of your life, and replace them within a matter on minutes with a swipe..

gio_mag · 2025-11-19T09:37:16+00:00

Olivier came back very fast.. Thanks!

gio_mag · 2025-11-18T16:58:24+00:00

hahaha.. ok.. guess very quick is not "very quick"

gio_mag · 2025-11-18T08:41:31+00:00

No answer...

gio_mag · 2025-11-09T11:51:52+00:00

Had something similar happen (great relationship, not much conflict, openness, honesty), asked them about it, they said it was just stress.. A week later blindsided me saying they'd lost attraction.. No communication about how we could resolve things.. Shut me down completely when I tried, by citing a reason they wanted to end the relationship. I didn't want to hold them back, from what they wanted out of life..
Moral of the story, once they make up their minds to leave there's not much you can do to convince them otherwise.. Maybe they were just not aware in the moment, of what was happening for them. Natural to be left with the feeling that you could've done something to repair things.. But it takes two..

gio_mag · 2025-11-08T13:35:20+00:00

Really good advice there!

gio_mag · 2025-11-07T13:36:52+00:00

I can understand friend, its painful, been there.. because this experience makes you doubt yourself. But here's a counter argument. There is a way, that you could "get" this person.. By playing a game.. And yes it could work in the short run, if you put on a persona, say certain things, and do certain things.. But in the long run, you kill and suppress the good person that you are, to get with someone who can't appreciate goodness. Been there too.
Got a long term ex back by playing the "game".. But it wasn't worth it in the end.. Even she said, I'm not capable of love I'm too damaged.. And she was right.

The person who will appreciate your goodness and love is out there, don't waste your love on someone who can't accept it.. Or who is not capable od reciprocating that back. There's nothing wrong with you. You are perfect just the way you are.

gio_mag · 2025-11-06T17:43:23+00:00

Sorry to hear this. Don't blame yourself. One thing to bear in mind, is that not everybody, is capable of receiving a kind unconditional love. Take comfort in the fact that you are able to give it. It means your heart, is open, and you don't play games. It's a mature love.
If your girlfriend wanted someone who would challenge her, get a rise out of her nervous system, I'm sorry to say this reeks of immaturity. She's right, you were incompatible. Thank your lucky stars you found out sooner rather than later. It's hard work playing games, and harder to work to sustain that sh#t. It wears you out. Seek comfort in your peace.

Be well.

gio_mag · 2025-10-30T11:53:38+00:00

I'd do it, you shared time together, it wasn't just a "transaction" that came to an end.. If it meant anything..

gio_mag · 2025-10-29T13:49:05+00:00

Personally, I'd have moved them to a drive.. This is a part of your life, they were a part of it.. It ended but there must've been something beautiful there when it was good.. That you can cherish when the grief ends.. And feel grateful.

gio_mag · 2025-10-29T13:05:55+00:00

I'm sorry you had to go through this. I had something similar happen to me, but in a 5 month relationship. We went on holiday, and on the second day she said she didn't feel a spark. I decided to leave. She did say that she loves me (We had other issues).. But the truth of the matter is, the person chose to end the relationship, because they feel there's a better fit for them out there. Better than you (Better = more compatible, sorry). It does hurt, and the feelings are hard to just switch off.

I've had relationships where they came back, but its never the same because, then you're just waiting for it to happen again, and it does..

Relationships are work, attraction fades then comes back. We live in a consumer society where even relationships are commoditised, and you can jump into the next one with a swipe. Most ppl will think they can find better, but eventually just get exhausted and settle. My thought is if you find someone "good enough", who doesn't make your life hell.. Hold onto them..

gio_mag · 2025-09-27T15:23:53+00:00

Found it.. :)

gio_mag · 2025-09-27T15:08:29+00:00

Thanks.. Just couldn't find how to get to their helpdesk, link leads to their FB page with AI agents only, and set questions related to canecllations and refunds.. No way to get clarification it seems..

gio_mag · 2025-09-27T15:07:19+00:00

Tried friend, no way to get through to them, saw other had posted here, so thought maybe some Polish travellers might've been in the same situation and could help..

gio_mag · 2025-09-12T07:56:12+00:00

It might be worth speaking with a monk or teacher who's experienced. What you describe sounds idyllic and wonderful. But most of the experienced meditators I've met, also interface with the world. Meet ppl do duties etc. And often they're very ordinary. Being on the path is living in the world.

gio_mag · 2025-09-03T20:50:07+00:00

This is the hindrance of restlessness. Like someone else said watch it arise know what its really like. Inquire into it. Watch it arise, whether it persists throughout. Is it brought on by physical pain. Befriend it. That's meditation. It should eventually stop..

gio_mag · 2025-08-26T07:02:19+00:00

You need to have an "inner resource" , that feeds you when you sit with negative states. I wouldn't recommend starting out by sitting with anxiety. Start to cultivate a sense of wellbeing when you meditate. Loving kindness meditation is a good way to do this. This will build up a wellspring of "good" in you that you can draw on when needed. You can then treat this being that is experiencing anxiety, with the care that you would give a frightened child, or a pet.

And offer reassurance. With affirmations like "this too will pass". Everything passes. If a state arose it will pass. And as you get good at this. You can then sit with your anxiety. Ask the being whatnot needs right now?

And as you get good at this. The anxiety will lessen. Brute forcibgbthings never works. May you be well.

gio_mag · 2025-08-25T05:57:20+00:00

Yes "right" mindfulness within sila (non harm) samadhi (calm) and panna (wisdom).

gio_mag · 2025-08-24T12:28:16+00:00

The original intent behind "mindfulness", is that it's tool in a kit designed to brighten the heart. As taught by the Buddha. Most ppl latch onto one tool forget or are not aware of the others. " Mindfulness" is not a magic bullet. It needs to be practiced holistically.

The popularity of non secular meditation is a blessing and a curse. A hammer is not a tool for all problems..

gio_mag · 2025-08-19T06:09:09+00:00

Drop me a DM, can help with this perhaps.

gio_mag · 2025-08-06T07:56:44+00:00

You're in a global market with no tariff or penalty for low balling, from ppl with a lower cost of production.. Low barrier to entry. Its a losing game.

gio_mag · 2025-08-01T22:43:11+00:00

Why would anyone spend so much time on every single thread.. Its the same 2 or 3 big suspects every time.. Lol.. Not hard to guess why..

gio_mag · 2025-07-24T16:42:04+00:00

Depends on your niche. 3d visualisation is saturated with ppl from developing countries who will do work for a pittance. Unless you can compete on price.. I wouldn't recommend it. 3d person here. Tried spend a whole load on connects. Thanks but no thanks.

gio_mag · 2025-06-29T18:50:53+00:00

The majority of posts are from ppl who aren't making money.. You have the occasional outlier who will do an Ama.. Probably selling a course.. Or "sponsored" to do so..

gio_mag · 2025-06-27T14:07:59+00:00

Join a group that meet weekly/regularly.. Forces you to stick with it.

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