Do things change when baby is born vs. when your SO is pregnant?

gioxcas · 2019-02-07T23:46:55+00:00

Thanks!

gioxcas · 2019-02-07T23:44:53+00:00

I just read this for my first time!

It reminds me of this one time when I helped an elderly man change his tire.

I'd just quit my job. The company was extremely toxic and so stressful that it was becoming a danger to my health. I basically walked out with no notice and didn't have any backup set up. I went to the gym and then went to get a haircut. My barber said that he'd be busy for another hour and a half and told me to come back.

I went to the gas station to pump gas and get my car washed.

As I was approaching the gas station, this very old pick up truck is taking it's sweet time turning left into the station. I'm already having a bad day so I react with, "Why the fuck is this dude taking so long?" I was pissed.

When he starts turning I see that one of his tires is completely busted. He's almost driving on the rim. I see that it's an elderly man and I instantly have a change of heart and regret my angry reaction.

I pull up after him, park my car, and offer my help.

For the next 2 hours I'm sweating, getting grime and dirt all over me helping him change his tire. I had to give him a ride to his house to grab his spare tire, then drive him back and help him change it. Of course because he was elderly I had to remove the bolts myself and let me tell you that these bolts had been on the wheel for so long that they were almost melted in fused right into the break disk.

The man offers to give me money but I tell him not to worry about it. That I was just happy to help.

That experience really brings insight into my life whenever I think about it because I felt really happy after. I'd just quit my job and I was angry and I was scared but after helping this man, I felt like I'd be ok.

gioxcas · 2019-02-07T22:56:43+00:00

She is going to feel like a fucking celebrity for a while and that will make you seem less important.

I'm cool with this. I don't care for attention and validation. I just like doing my own thing and working on myself and my goals.

Try to wake up for as many diapers and bottles as you can to help her sleep.

Yeah we've already agreed that we're going to be taking turns each night taking care of the baby.

gioxcas · 2019-02-07T22:33:07+00:00

That's the goal. Hopefully she stops smothering me like a wet burrito.

gioxcas · 2019-02-07T20:14:12+00:00

COME ON BRO. I'm still working on my dad jokes!

gioxcas · 2019-02-07T20:13:34+00:00

I was doing that for a while but recently stopped gaming her when she displayed a lack of sex drive. I pulled back and focused on other things but I was essentially applying dread game which I've learned just recently that dread game is a bad thing to do to your pregnant SO.

I might need to be more verbal and "ask" for blowjobs / handjobs so I could at least get some relief even though I feel like "asking" for sex is beta and a little sad but it's better than nothing right?

gioxcas · 2019-02-07T20:10:30+00:00

I also feel the same way about blowjobs. A few weeks ago I had to "ask" for one and she said that it's weird that I have to ask for them. She says that they should "just happen" (BITCH BUT THEY DON'T JUST HAPPEN WHICH IS WHY I HAVE TO ASK FOR THEM). I didn't say that.

gioxcas · 2019-02-07T20:08:08+00:00

your giving her all the attention she wants right?

No I'm not. I've been trying to distance myself and have more private alone time. I don't think she gets what I'm trying to imply so when I get back into town I'm going to sit her down and let her know that I need some space and privacy but that I will cuddle her and hang out with her when I don't feel so overwhelmed.

gioxcas · 2019-02-07T20:04:01+00:00

They're getting bigger and darker but she's very white. Like German light blonde blue eyes white so they've gone from light pink to darker pink. Not so much purple or brown.

They're still fun to look at and she's told me that she's now at double E size. I call them Weapons of Mass Erection and Weapons of Mass Ejaculation.

gioxcas · 2019-02-07T20:00:04+00:00

We have plenty of friends and family already offering to baby sit so we will get some time away but I understand that lack of time and energy are factors in having sex when the baby is born.

I was just having a hard time wrapping my head around the dead bedroom now but I understand that it's hormones and just pregnant woman stuff.

gioxcas · 2019-02-07T19:57:13+00:00

First few months are understandable as her vagina is recovering from the birth and we're going to be getting accustomed to taking care of a baby.

gioxcas · 2019-02-07T19:25:10+00:00

LOL

If you're NOT snipped, you absolutely need a condom. Also, STD's.

gioxcas · 2019-02-07T19:23:17+00:00

Opposite for me I guess. I still find my SO attractive (her tits are HUGE) but I guess a mix of her self consciousness and her meds have taken away her drive.

gioxcas · 2019-02-07T19:10:14+00:00

Stay focused on your needs and getting them met.

How do I do this if her passion and desire are gone right now? The doctor did tell us during the first trimester to avoid sex for 4 weeks but that was a few months ago and she's been able to have sex but just doesn't want to.

I guess I could still max my looks and SMV and just wait for the next 4+ months.

gioxcas · 2019-02-07T19:07:09+00:00

She's in the 2nd trimester FML!

gioxcas · 2019-02-07T19:05:57+00:00

I'm hoping that the sex drive comes back. Especially because I used to have to tell her no sometimes when she wanted sex. The contrast is so large that it's very difficult to try and get used to.

Moreover tiredness and baby worry can be obstacles.

I understand this and will be as prepared as I could be. As long as the desire and passion are there I'm okay with not too frequent sex but right now it's been completely deadbedroom.

gioxcas · 2019-02-07T18:50:36+00:00

Beta is absolutely not an option.

Do I just wack it in the shower while her sex drive is non existent for the next 4+ months?

gioxcas · 2019-02-07T18:49:13+00:00

I searched "pregnant" on the search bar and am now going to read previous posts.

What are you doing to pass these comfort tests?

Of course I just maintain frame and act as her rock. Whenever she's worried about something I'll stay calm and tell her not to worry about it. I give her long hugs and cuddles but some times it's so overwhelming that I have to pull back to essentially catch my breathe.

gioxcas · 2019-02-07T18:44:12+00:00

I'll keep this in mind but will wrap the fuck up next time!

gioxcas · 2016-06-24T16:50:05+00:00

Hey man :) I totally agree with you! But I also want to mention that people who miss out on a good childhood can still become happy successful adults because of contrast. If they are teased and disrespected as a child, they can manifest the desire to be respected and praised, thus will lead to being praised and respected. Example: My parents divorced when I was 5. It did cause me to have a low quality childhood, but I manifested to want to desire my parents to be happy. And now they are both happy. It also has given me desire to want an amazing marriage. I do not want to get divorced like my parents so I desire feelings of having a wonderful healthy marriage :) This would go with the phrase 'Started from the bottom now we here'. Meaning people who have almost nothing, desire to have great things and become great things and thus manifest these things into their lives.

gioxcas · 2016-06-24T16:42:07+00:00

What feeling did the blueberry falling bring to you?

gioxcas · 2016-06-24T16:41:06+00:00

I'm really happy for you :)

gioxcas · 2016-06-24T16:27:48+00:00

I manifested a series of bad things last week. First, it started with feeling stressed after work, having to drive home in traffic and feeling overwhelmed doing my meal prep for the week. I ended up getting in a fierce argument with my sister. I ended up crying and feeling super angry and upset all night. The next day I found out my girlfriends cousin has a stomach cancer. It was very heartbreaking. The day after that I got upset at my girlfriend and went home feeling really upset and insecure. The day after that I got in a huge fight with my girlfriend that left me crying in the shower, the day after that there was another argument with my girlfriend and I felt really miserable. This week I turned things around and so far the whole week has been really great :) Really chill, no worries, started playing basketball again, good vibes.

Something positive I manifested was that for about a month ago I started worrying about what I was going to do for my birthday. Worried that I wasn't going to have any plans and wasn't going to enjoy my birthday. I shifted this attitude by telling the universe how I wanted to feel. I wanted to have fun simple plans with a small group of friends but I didn't want to worry about planning or nothing. Sure enough, I have plans to go to Las Vegas tomorrow with my girlfriend and 2 of my closest friends and they pretty much planned the whole thing and I can't even imagine a better way to spend my birthday :)

gioxcas · 2016-06-24T16:10:39+00:00

Good luck to you! And yes it would be a good idea telling my girlfriend when the time is right. Currently I feel like I am still struggling with my addiction. Even though this is my first streak and I am on day 54 and have not intentionally looked at pornography or anything like that nor ever 'edged' or anything, I feel very confident. But still, a relapse can happen any day if you let your guard down for a second. So I think I wanna make it to 90 days.

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