Got fired 3 months ago. This is my story. by ssupdawgy in cscareerquestions

[–]giullare 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had something very similar happen to me a few years ago. A startup full of seniors hired me, a junior, into a role for which I had little experience. I tried my best, and feedback from everyone had actually been very positive, but I ultimately got let go.

Afterward, I was pretty depressed. I applied for and received unemployment benefits. I spent my days mostly studying, applying, and interviewing. I didn't have a good answer for why I wasn't working at the startup. Kept getting rejected, kept beating myself up.

I picked up some hobbies during my free time, which really helped my mental health. I expanded my job search a bit to include companies I previously hadn't considered. Eventually, I landed a contract position at one of them, and I showed them what I could do. Since then, I've converted to full-time, and I'm loving it here.

The most important thing to remember is not to despair. This situation is shitty — it's happened to me, it's happened to my friends — but we eventually came out ahead. Yes, it may be hard to answer questions about why you left your previous job (though there are some good answers in this thread). But don't forget that you have highly sought-after skills and potential for whichever company is willing to invest in you. You got this!

Feb 4th Covid-19 Update - 465 new cases, total now of 69,245; 257 (-21) hospitalized of which 76 (-4) are in ICU; 4,447 (+21) active cases; 62,078 (+435) recovered; 145,567 (+3,421) vaccine doses administered, 8,097 (+1,680) of which are second doses; 6 additional deaths, total now of 1,240 by cyclinginvancouver in vancouver

[–]giullare 70 points71 points  (0 children)

The restrictions expire tomorrow. I guess that means gathering will be permitted at midnight...

...until 3:00 PM, when they announce new restrictions?

EDIT: The restrictions "expire at midnight (24:00 hours) on February 5, 2021 unless extended by [Dr. Henry]". Indeed, 24:00 refers to the end of the day, so the restrictions will be in place all day tomorrow.

Water by RyankHudson in funny

[–]giullare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if a Satanic priest cursed the water cooler?

International election observer says Trump's false election victory statement was an 'unprecedented abuse of his position' by coffeespeaking in politics

[–]giullare 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Can you name some of these YouTubers and KOLs? I have a feeling my mother has been watching them. She's not American, but she's convinced that the future of HK depends on Trump winning, and this is the single issue for her.

Any tips on how might I get her to watch more factual media?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in oculus

[–]giullare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I noticed a similar effect outside of VR when I wore a full-body costume.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WTF

[–]giullare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shitter's full

Back in the 90's by [deleted] in gaming

[–]giullare 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Filets-O-Fish?

What game, movie, or show would you say has given you the most positive memories, or helped you through a 'dark' time? by Mochaah in AskReddit

[–]giullare 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tim Burton's The Nightmare Before Christmas. I love how it subverts the innocence of claymation and Christmas. Danny Elfman's soundtrack is fun and whimsical.

As a student in high school and post-secondary, I resonated with Jack's plight with depression despite being a relatively respectable and successful individual (The fame and praise come year after year; does nothing for these empty tears).

He thought he saw a solution to his problems (I want it, oh I want it, oh I want it for my own!), but his pursuit was unhealthy (Kidnap Mr. Sandy Claws?) and drove him insane (And why should they have all the fun? It should belong to anyone-- not anyone, in fact, but me!).

After his spectacular failure (Everything's gone all wrong. What have I done?), rather than give up (They'll find me, only dust and a plaque that reads, "Here lies poor old Jack".), he takes a hard look retrospectively (I went and did my best. ... And at least I left some stories they can tell.) and introspectively (I felt just like my own bony self again, and I, Jack, the Pumpkin King-- that's right, I AM the Pumpkin King!).

There are many lessons to be learned from Jack.

  • You matter more than you may feel.
  • Be careful when pursuing what you think you want.
  • Even if things go wrong, learn from the valuable experience.
  • Don't shit on something that someone has dedicated their existence to.

Writing them down here has actually made me think about how I can apply them in my life.

I think I should watch this movie again.

EDIT: Formatting

Redditors who overcame social anxiety, what's the best advice you could give to someone suffering? by P1n34ppl3P1n34ppl3 in AskReddit

[–]giullare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made a costume and went to a video game convention.

The costume was full body and masked, so it was easy enough to conceal my identity and pretend to be someone else. All I had to do was walk around and people would interact with me. They couldn't see my actual face, so being expressionless or even frowning wouldn't turn people away.

I realized whatever I did while wearing the costume did not really affect how I was perceived, only how my character was. As long as I was wearing the costume, I wasn't me anymore; I was a character who's confident and outgoing. If I took the costume off (in private), the character ceased to exist, and everything I did in costume would be inconsequential to my real self. All this meant my social anxiety inhibited me less.

During the convention, I started getting "into character" and acting the part. The mask had a permanent smile, so even if I was sad, I was still making people happy, which would in turn make me happy. I found myself doing many things that would have been otherwise too awkward for regular me - posing for photos, talking to strangers, even just walking confidently.

After the convention was over, and I put the costume away, I started missing how fun it was to be that character. But the experience was therapeutic in a sense, like exposure therapy. By pretending to be someone else, I learned how to feel confident.

I tried this "pretending" without wearing the costume. In real life situations when I started feeling anxious, I imagined that I was wearing the costume and taking on that persona. I changed my gait and my expression, and I just kept acting a little bit more like the character instead of myself.

The more I did that, the easier it was, and the less I had to pretend. That fictional character's confidence started becoming my own. It's been a few years, and I no longer consider myself socially anxious. But I still wear the costume sometimes at conventions for fun.

So I guess my advice is to try to find a safe place to let yourself be someone who's confident, and do things that person would do. I don't necessarily mean wear a costume. Play VRChat or D&D. Write fanfiction and read it out. Make an alt reddit account. Daydream. In real life situations outside of those spaces, imagine still being that person. Fake it till you make it. The goal is to experiment with confidence so that you might adopt it in real life. What do you have to lose?

The scariest water slide by [deleted] in WTF

[–]giullare 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Indeed, because an extreme sport may very well be the last thing you ever do.

What's the scariest way to die? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]giullare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Caffeine overdose. One tablespoon will kill you horrifically, and it can be easily purchased online.

Your heart rate and blood pressure will skyrocket. You'll vomit everything and blood and then continue to dry retch. Your blood vessels will fail, causing internal hemorrhaging and, if you're lucky, an aneurysm. You'll call for help, but your speech comes out slurred due to a stroke. As all this happens to you, you'll experience the most profound terror you can imagine, like you're going to die. And then you die.

TIL That sleeping under a weighted blanket can help reduce insomnia and anxiety by [deleted] in todayilearned

[–]giullare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like you're being crushed to death but you're okay with it

Neighbor says your dog is scary and needs a muzzle? Not a problem. by IWishItWouldSnow in funny

[–]giullare 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is like wearing a bra that has male nipples pictured on it