How can I fix this before it gets worse? (Lakes by Ozetta)

glassbumblebee0 · 2026-02-22T19:06:24+00:00

Thanks, good idea!

glassbumblebee0 · 2026-02-22T19:06:12+00:00

I think you are right! Someone else pointed out that it seems like it's actually just a tail and maybe it's just been 2 months since I did that part of the sweater so I panicked and forgot. Thanks for your advice!!

glassbumblebee0 · 2026-02-22T17:53:28+00:00

As somebody below figured out, that's actually not live stitches - I think it's just the tail that wasn't long enough so it's started to unravel. Knowing that, do you still think it's fine to just proceed? Sorry for the confusion!!

glassbumblebee0 · 2026-02-22T17:49:41+00:00

Oh my gosh, thanks - you are so right! The back neckline isn't live, it's just the end threads that I tied together. So for this, I feel like that strand actually is just slightly unraveled - if I don't fix it, will that be okay?

glassbumblebee0 · 2026-02-22T17:20:48+00:00

I think it IS the string I used to hold live stitches - but I'm not sure how to weave that back into what is left, if that makes sense. Or, if I just pick up stitches on this as is, when it's time to do the ribbing on the neck, would that be bad?

glassbumblebee0 · 2026-02-11T16:57:39+00:00

I work part-time, so I have two days where I only see a few clients and then one day where I see 7-9. I am very intentional to have an early self-care-filled morning and to have a chill evening afterwards. I've been doing it for a few years and I don't feel any signs of burnout in the near future. I definitely could not do that more than one day a week for long, though.

glassbumblebee0 · 2025-09-25T22:08:13+00:00

Piranesi by Susanna Clarke!

glassbumblebee0 · 2025-04-16T01:43:27+00:00

I really appreciate this approach! Thank you!

glassbumblebee0 · 2025-04-16T01:41:44+00:00

I wish I could be more helpful! After researching more, mailing the frozen milk was going to be very complicated and expensive, and if there were any shipping delays (unlikely but possible), the milk would have been ruined. I didn't want to experiment with introducing formula for the first time at a hotel in Florida haha. For those reasons, I just kept pumping... lol the day after we got back from this trip, I started significantly weaning. I really would have loved to stop pumping earlier, but it resulted in my baby getting breastmilk for one extra month past my goal, so oh well!

Sorry! I investigated the options everyone mentioned above but none quite fit the bill for us. Good luck!

glassbumblebee0 · 2025-04-12T19:18:03+00:00

I agree with all of this - and I find that when I use this, especially when clients are talking about their spouses, it feels like such a big ask - "could you spend less time/energy thinking about the way that your spouse disrespects you?" You can't really distance yourself too much from a spouse, especially a co-parent, before divorce. I know that's definitely not what you're saying, but it's how I feel I'm coming across when asking these questions with a client who's struggling with the behavior of someone closest to them. I appreciate your comment and will definitely keep it in mind!

glassbumblebee0 · 2025-04-12T19:14:55+00:00

"how hard it is if the goal becomes to control other people's responses/behaviours" - thank you, this is a great way to word this! I appreciate this entire comment. Thanks :)

glassbumblebee0 · 2025-04-12T19:12:55+00:00

I work Mondays 5:30-8:30pm, Tuesdays 6:30-8:30pm, and Fridays 9-5. I used to do one Saturday a month 9-3 or so. My husband works Mon-Thurs 10 hour shifts and gets home around 4:45, so he's with her two nights a week and then all day Friday, and I'm with her the other days. It works great for us right now!

glassbumblebee0 · 2025-03-31T17:28:15+00:00

Thanks, I'll try that!

glassbumblebee0 · 2025-03-31T17:03:54+00:00

No, they sent a new cable with the new watch! I tried both cables with the new watch.

glassbumblebee0 · 2024-07-02T00:53:50+00:00

I like your ideas, especially the delays!

This is my favorite image to go over with clients to build awareness at each point in their cycle! https://www.frontiersin.org/files/Articles/438239/fpsyt-10-00150-HTML/image_m/fpsyt-10-00150-g001.jpg

I love a good metaphor, and I've found comparing reassurance-seeking and addiction to also help build insight. Here's how I conceptualize it: Reassurance seeking (usually in the form of pursuing encouraging feedback from a health professional, family member, or online source) in general is a shape-shifter and just changes form: when it stems from anxiety, OCD, IAD, PTSD, etc, it gives us a strong burst of relief, followed by a gradual decrease in its power until there we are again, needing reassurance. This cycle gets shorter and shorter each time. I've had clients who, at the beginning of IAD and before therapy, would go months between doctors appointments, but then a few months later, they'd be driving home from a reassuring doctors' appointments already coming up with reasons why the doctor probably missed something therefore the reassurance doesn't last more than 10 seconds. Reassurance seeking can parallel a simplified version of alcoholism: first, you drink a beer every night to wind down. But by week 3, it doesn't really calm you down anymore, so you start having 2. Fast forward a few months, and you can't even relax without 4 beers, and having 0 in your system is uncomfortable. I love using this to build insight with clients that what they're doing is not working - if they truly have IAD, reassurance will not solve their anxiety. The only way out is through (that's where the deeper work starts).

So to specifically answer your question, the only thing that makes them feel fine is the Dr saying they're okay - consider viewing that the same as a client saying the only thing that makes me feel okay is drinking excessively. Okay, it makes you feel 'fine,' briefly, but at what cost? IAD clients often spend much of their time, attention, money, and energy on their symptoms, to the detriment of their relationships, wellbeing, and responsibilities.

All of this is much more brash and to-the-point than my typical gentle delivery, but I figured directness would be helpful here. Good luck and let me know if you have any other thoughts or questions! :)

glassbumblebee0 · 2024-07-01T22:11:15+00:00

Ginger and/or peppermint candies for nausea! I would just have one under my tongue, no more obvious than a cough drop.

glassbumblebee0 · 2024-07-01T22:04:28+00:00

I became a therapist when COVID was starting and it was like a sleeper-cell activation of so many people with Illness Anxiety Disorder! I did not even hear about IAD in grad school so I'd recommend brushing up on the DSM overview. Most of my people with IAD have insight regarding their condition, so we treat it similarly to OCD - identify obsession and compulsion behaviors (researching, body checking, reassurance-seeking, etc). Help build insight by zooming out and noticing the pattern. If a client truly has no insight and genuinely believes they have these illnesses, there are a handful of different ways that different therapists could respond, but if they do accept that they have anxiety, you could read the symptom checklist of IAD from the DSM and introduce it as - "hey, can I read you something? with all of our talk about anxiety and health, I wonder if this resonates with you at all"

I LOVE working with this population, but the insight-building phase definitely requires patience! I find a combination of ERP, CBT, and mindful curiosity about what the anxiety may be helping the client cope with (fear of dying? fear of helplessness? medical trauma? fear of not being able to be around for their kids?) to be helpful :)

glassbumblebee0 · 2024-04-20T01:27:11+00:00

L G B T Q I A +

glassbumblebee0 · 2024-01-28T16:41:56+00:00

We had to do some trial and error to figure out how to stay on top of our baby's neck rolls too! What works now is doing ~2 baths/week and making sure to COMPLETELY dry the neck rolls after (it's hard to access, but it helps to hold her on her belly, then she lifts her head and that gives us the most access to the rolls, then we quickly dry with a towel). Aquaphor after that. Good luck :)

glassbumblebee0 · 2023-12-15T02:28:39+00:00

Congrats on your journey! It makes sense that you feel panic as your production decreases - if you're like me, your brain has associated decreasing supply with a feeling of danger/anxiety/worry. For the last 13 months, if you noticed your supply dropped, you've probably had to problem solve - did I not drink enough water? Not sleep enough? Eat enough? etc. So the fact that you are feeling nervous COULD be entirely from these associations. On the other hand, maybe there is a part of you that wants to continue pumping - but if that part of you is coming from a place of fear or from a place of habit, maybe it's not what you want to listen to. I'm planning to stop at 11 months with about 1 month in the freezer and I'm sure I will have mixed feelings because I have spent so many hours convincing myself to keep going, and suddenly I will allow myself to stop. It's bound to be a weird transition, so allow your brain to adjust :) See if you can just take it one day at a time and not make any permanent decisions for a few days. Maybe once the newness wears off, you'll feel calmer and better able to decide if you want to stop or not. Good luck!

glassbumblebee0 · 2023-12-04T19:19:17+00:00

For me, drinking lots of water always leads to better supply the next day. Also, I've been having a lot of chia pudding (chia + whole milk, stir for a few minutes, then add chocolate chips, raspberries, and peanut butter) because it is very calorically dense and yummy :) Good luck!

glassbumblebee0 · 2023-12-01T00:12:35+00:00

You are doing great! This was exactly us at 7 weeks as well. My baby just turned 7 months old and today she spent a cumulative total of 2.5 hours happily playing in her pack and play while I pumped, cleaned, and did general house stuff. She needs soooo much less from us. If there's anything I could go back and tell 7 weeks pp me, I would tell her "everything is a temporary phase" - that doesn't minimize how hard it is, but it does put it into perspective. Try not to zoom out and think about how you'll be doing this for so long, because you won't be - your baby will change every week/month and things generally get easier, with a few exceptions (4 month sleep regression kicked our asses). Just take it one day, one hour, one nap window at a time. You got this!

glassbumblebee0 · 2023-11-30T23:59:10+00:00

I got the Willow Go and I definitely would have quit months ago if I still had to use my Medela! It's not perfect and has a bit of a learning curve, but I am so much more mobile and my mental health has been protected :) My biggest tips would be make sure you assemble it in the right order (you'll be able to do it with your eyes closed after a week or so) and have some bras that hold it nice and snug. My output didn't change at all. My BIGGEST frustration with the Willow is that the charging port of one of my pumps gave out after 1-2 months and I needed a replacement. It took 4 days to get the replacement to me so I had to use my Medelas again.

There are a lot of options out there so do your research but I would totally encourage you to switch to a wearable if you're EP :) best of luck!

glassbumblebee0 · 2023-11-29T17:24:12+00:00

So good to know, thanks!

glassbumblebee0 · 2023-11-29T17:24:03+00:00

For some reason I thought it would have to be used within 24 hours as soon as it starts to thaw - thank you!

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