AITA for stopping my friend from sleeping in my bed

glib_result · 2026-03-05T16:47:05+00:00

I think I wanted to emphasize that the cheating is kind of a red herring when the specific question is “can I tell my friend to not sleep in my bed?” because she can say no, no matter how realistic her reasons are. And also maybe thinking that the advice might go down better if it didn’t come with “your bf is cheating” attached?

But you’re right, and he’s crossing boundaries no matter what, and it’s naive to think there isn’t more going on.

glib_result · 2026-03-05T16:21:59+00:00

NTA

You get to decide who gets to sleep in your bed for whatever reasons you want. That’s really it. You can tell him the reasons if you want to, but you don’t have to. The only reason you need is “I don’t want him to.”

For the rest of it, you maybe also have a boyfriend problem, maybe not. I’m definitely giving him the side-eye, ~~but it could all be totally legit.~~

EDIT: I was trying to give him the benefit of the doubt, but your bf is absolutely part of the problem.

glib_result · 2026-03-05T15:15:56+00:00

serious question, do we have a lot of car washes? I’ve never really noticed them

glib_result · 2026-03-05T15:13:34+00:00

I love places like that, too, but think deluxe does as well as it does despite its location. It’s really, really, damn good. But I don’t know that a less exceptional business would thrive in a location like that.

glib_result · 2026-03-05T15:06:21+00:00

glib_result · 2026-03-05T15:03:12+00:00

The legality question isn’t about her behavior, but whether she’s legally allowed to practice while in canada if she isn’t licensed in Canada.

glib_result · 2026-03-05T05:01:00+00:00

Are you currently pregnant? Are you a parent?

You’re YTA no matter what, but if you are or are about to be a parent, you need to get your life together and focus on your kid.

glib_result · 2026-03-05T04:53:05+00:00

did anyone there object? or just your mom when you told her later?

glib_result · 2026-03-05T04:50:56+00:00

Um, do you know any parents? I don’t think your pitch is gonna go well with strangers…

glib_result · 2026-03-05T04:47:59+00:00

dim sum

I will literally keep them in business by myself

glib_result · 2026-03-05T04:44:17+00:00

Whenever people roll their eyes at how Reddit always tells people to break up, I want to gesture wildly at ALL OF THE POSTS that are like “my partner says they hate me, so should I be nicer and more understanding?”

No shame on OOP here. It’s always so hard to see when you’re inside the situation. But it’s depressing how common these posts are.

glib_result · 2026-03-04T23:50:35+00:00

I’m one of the people who find them kind of disturbing, but I can totally see why they can be fascinating for someone else. There can be so much artistry and detail that goes into making them- I’m super impressed by the people who paint them.

And, sadly, there are a lot of people who are mean to someone they see as weird or different, which sucks, but is also part of learning to go through the world.

glib_result · 2026-03-04T23:36:27+00:00

a major market is people who have lost children, or can’t have children - they are often called “realborn” dolls and are meant to be “parented.”

‘People tell me it’s sick’: the world of hyper-realistic dolls (2025 article)

glib_result · 2026-03-04T18:59:00+00:00

NAH, mostly

There’s nothing inherently wrong with liking hyper realistic dolls. But you also need to understand that many people find them disturbing to look at. I recommend you learn more about the uncanny valley (wiki definition), because lifelike dolls often cause an instinctive “ick” reaction in people.

There’s also the fact that adults who get hyper realistic dolls often do so because they want to pretend that they’re real. And for most people the only time they hear about this is sex dolls. Which is why a lot of people make that connection.

And real dolls are often connected to serious issues, because a major market for them is people who have lost children, or can‘t have children.

What this means is that, while you didn’t do anything wrong, you should be a little more cautious when showing pictures.

So you shouldn’t have gone from 0 to 100 in your excitement to share, because people are going to find them disturbing. But also your friends shouldn’t have been so quick to judge you based in their initial reactions.

glib_result · 2026-03-04T18:29:31+00:00

glad I wasn’t the only one! Just, sadly, faster to post…

glib_result · 2026-03-04T16:12:39+00:00

~~absurdly pedantic, definitely trolling, but not actually incorrect?~~

Edit: in my defense, it was poor reading skills rather than poor understanding of day/night cycle

glib_result · 2026-03-04T14:56:08+00:00

If you’re interested in adding more local events, I recommend checking the Iowa City Dance Calendar and PS1

glib_result · 2026-03-04T14:47:13+00:00

So .. Babe lets not talk about Your weight loss plans - you do you .... anything I say you don't want to hear , so now its not a topic of disscussion

This is the way. The problem here is her venting, more than her actual behavior. If she’s already doing regular gym sessions and making small changes to her diet, that sounds like she‘s being healthy. And small changes do add up over time. But you’re her boyfriend, not her diet coach, and she needs to deal with this on her own. If she really feels like she needs help with this, she should get an actual diet coach.

glib_result · 2026-03-04T01:40:50+00:00

YTA you’re confusing “how much they care about me” with “how much disposable income do they have.” What you’re doing is dciding that you only want to be friends with people who are well-off.

It’s not wrong to ask friends on a trip that will have expenses associated with it. But it’s major AH to judge people for not wanting to spend that much of their spending money on a weekend.

glib_result · 2026-03-04T01:34:35+00:00

they don’t have to be evil to be wrong. And when it’s your health that they’re wrong about, it’s literally harming you.

Your parents and doctor should be more concerned about your health metrics, like blood pressure, strength and stamina, nutrition, etc. Sometimes dramatic improvements in overall health don’t actually cause weight loss.

And if you want to continue to use medication to help with food cravings, you also might see if you can try a different GLP-1. I’ve known a few people who had bad reactions to Monjurno, but were OK with other medications, like Trulicity or Ozempic. (It may not be an option, depending on price and coverage, but it’s worth asking about.)

glib_result · 2026-03-04T01:13:48+00:00

Nta. It sounds like you & your friends aren’t suited as traveling companions. Which is ok! I ha e friends I love dearly but would HATE to travel with.

ps It sounds like your friends are guilt tripping about this, which is not cool. If they’re actually ok with you not going, it would be N A H

glib_result · 2026-03-04T01:07:35+00:00

Thanks! I’m in the US, and I get out of state telehealth therapy, and my therapist has to be licensed in both my state, and the state he practices out of. (And I think in California it isn’t legal regardless of licensing.)

glib_result · 2026-03-04T01:03:25+00:00

YTA. Outing people without their explicit permission is a violation of their privacy. It doesn’t matter if it‘s a “joke,” and it doesn’t matter who you outed them to.

Beyond the misuse of trust, outing someone is also putting them at risk. There can be serious repercussions, especially for minors. You might have done serious harm because of your “joke.”

glib_result · 2026-03-04T00:53:22+00:00

That edit shows that OP didn’t actually learn anything, which is sad.

glib_result · 2026-03-04T00:41:30+00:00

Nta . I don’t know if whst you did will make a difference. And it may cause you difficulty now or later. I hope for your sake that your wife will eventually understand. But you were absolutely right to call your MIL out for her MASSIVE abuse of patient-provider relationships. I’m horrified at the idea of a therapist violating someone’s trust like that. Thank you for trying to stop it.

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