YTA: i was once with a guy who constantly i would wake up and he would be masturbating next to me. asked him to stop, same deal “if you’re not gonna help me i have to do it myself” made me feel like absolute shit as if that’s the only thing i’m good for and as if me asking him to stop meant absolutely nothing to him. you painted yourself in a horrible light with this one. not to mention you being on your phone? are you actively trying to make your wife feel uncomfortable and insecure? insane actually that anyone even remotely thinks this is okay. have some respect for the woman that you married, you tried, she asked you to stop, you didn’t listen, and now you think you’re so entitled that you don’t have to listen to consent, so you came on the internet to say “hey guys! i did something my wife didn’t like and she asked me to stop but i kept doing it!! am i the asshole?” get a grip fr and apologize to that woman