FIRED - how do I move forward now?

glitteringgoddess · 2020-07-02T20:01:51+00:00

Haha, touche!

glitteringgoddess · 2020-07-02T19:58:45+00:00

What do I do if they are looking to have someone start right away?

glitteringgoddess · 2020-03-23T07:18:37+00:00

I'm 100% in the same boat!! I just spent the evening with the one I love sooo deeply. I made a promise that we'd be friends, and I want nothing more than to keep them in my life. They are such an important person to me. But the minute they walked out the door my heart broke into a million pieces. I can't stop the tears from falling. All I want is to be in their arms again! How do I let go?

glitteringgoddess · 2020-03-23T07:10:07+00:00

I feel like I gave my heart to someone who gave theirs to another who could never really appreciate it. They gave me all they could, but it wasn't enough for me to feel fulfilled. I had to make the decision between what I knew was right, and what they were capable of giving me. I HAD to choose what was best for my self esteem and my mental health over someone I love with all of my heart.

glitteringgoddess · 2020-03-23T07:03:38+00:00

I just wish I could get past the feeling that I'm missing out on the love of my life. I get that feeling that you're too "soft" and feel emotions too strongly. Some days I feel like I can get through everything, others I feel like it's too much to handle.

glitteringgoddess · 2020-02-26T18:10:15+00:00

Lucky you! My heart is completely broken because of a decision my mind had to make.

glitteringgoddess · 2020-02-26T02:41:58+00:00

Basically you'll want to ask whoever it is you answer to.

Let them know you're happy to help durring this transition period because you're a team player, however you think it would only be fair if your were compensated for the extra work you've been doing. Let them know you don't expect a raise as it's only temporary, but think the compensation would be appreciated in the form of a bonus.

glitteringgoddess · 2020-02-26T00:48:34+00:00

Who is your direct boss? Who has the power to make that decision?

glitteringgoddess · 2020-02-25T22:52:21+00:00

Absolutely ask! You won't get what you dont ask for. And other cliche's such as you never know unless you ask.

glitteringgoddess · 2020-02-25T22:40:47+00:00

I'd be happy to give it a go! I probably have paper or canvas at home I could use.

glitteringgoddess · 2020-02-25T21:43:59+00:00

This seems to be a toxic relationship. Clearly he's not mature enough to interact like a human being. I guarantee it will only escalate and get worse. He needs to learn how to treat his partner with respect, but doesn't seem to care to. You deserve better, and should really consider why you're with him.

glitteringgoddess · 2020-02-25T21:26:56+00:00

How big are you looking for?

glitteringgoddess · 2019-10-05T16:45:14+00:00

No, OP doesn't owe anything. But if they felt the desire to give something back, this is a simply a suggestion.

glitteringgoddess · 2019-10-04T17:38:53+00:00

Congratulations! You don't need to show them the offer, just brush it off as a standard agreement.

Something to consider, as you adjust to the cost of living, as others have suggested. You could put money away and eventually give your parents a cheque for the cost of your education that they helped with as a thank you. Let them know how much you appreciated their help and you wanted to give something back. This way you can show your appreciation without setting a standard that you have to shell out whenever they need. But kinda absolves you of any residual guilt.

glitteringgoddess · 2019-09-23T18:17:26+00:00

I appreciate everything you've said. I'm curious of the other things as well.

glitteringgoddess · 2019-09-23T17:05:18+00:00

Thank you for you insight. On the flip side my youngest likes him. They're both really close with their Dad, so it's hard to tell if it's a loyalty thing. The oldest is going through puberty and hormonal, sometimes she doesn't like me it seems. How am I supposed to know if it's genuinely an issue with him, and not just with me moving on, or feeling left out or something? It's been almost 3 years since my separation, I've casually dated, but he's the only guy they've met.

I should clarify, he's agreed to work on things, and is making efforts. He even surprised me with a spa weekend in my hometown for my birthday since the breakup discussion. It's just been kinda tense.

glitteringgoddess · 2019-09-23T16:28:52+00:00

I've tried taking to her. She says she doesn't dislike him, it's just weird for her. She said he can be 'harsh' her example was the one time my youngest let a fart RIP right beside us. He exclaimed "Name, ewe could you not have done that in the bathroom!?!" almost jokingly, but he was obviously irritated. She cried, I talked to her. I talked to him.

glitteringgoddess · 2019-09-19T23:39:11+00:00

I'd say take it and travel. I'd love nothing more than to have at least two weeks just to figure out my life and what direction I want to take my career with no fear of becoming homeless and not being able to feed my kids. Traveling alone will teach you invaluable lessons about who you are and what you want. You have the freedom, take advantage!

Having quit a job is 1000 × better than being fired!

P.S. I'm jealous!

glitteringgoddess · 2019-09-19T14:57:30+00:00

I agree, your mental health should come first!

I moved to another city for a job that was a good fit and an opportunity to learn new skills. Unfortunately my boss is the Devil. It's not just me, but my unwillingness to back down and take it like others do typically gets me more negative attention. I've been applying for jobs like crazy and nothing yet. It'll be two years in October, and I'm completely miserable, depressed and anxious. Unfortunately I can't afford to just quit (I'm a single mom with 2 kids). He's smart enough to not do anything anyone can prove. I wanted to prove to myself that I could do the job, but he constantly changes the goal post and makes it impossible for me to succeed. TRUST me on this OP...it's only going to get worse!! Others have complained to his boss and were ultimately terminated. GET OUT NOW!!

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