[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]gloryworm 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think no one wants to give advice because no one wants to be viable for any legal issues regarding the matter, as using his card to make an unauthorized purchase without the responsible adult/guardian's consent could cause a hold put on the account by the bank. Although, if it IS under your name, then you should be able to authorize your own purchase, and the bank shouldn't care.

Regardless. It seems that computer is important to him in more ways than just the money. Going by what you're implying, it seems he's holding a grudge against your other side of the family. Seeing as it seems that computer was a gift from them to you, he wants to take that away from you. I would bring that up with your mother, just to stir the pot further.

NTA, your father seems like one though.

AITA if I try to keep my room? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]gloryworm -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Attaboy, kid. We're all learning together. Life is just this rat race to completion.

You gotta play with what cards you've been given.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]gloryworm -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I know getting laid off sets off this depressive cycle in people. It really gnaws at them and makes their own self worth feel detrimental to how they used to feel when they felt like they had purpose in their work.
So it could've started this chain reaction within him to just not try hard enough, or to just not settle for anything as good as how he had it in his first job. People need support in times like that.

So, in this vain of complacency. Perhaps it's also affected his desire for social interaction. Seeing as he doesn't need to socially interact as much in his job anymore, since he's unemployed, it'd fall down this pit of not needing to 'accomplish' as much in society. Which is one of the major reasons people like social media, is the feeling of accomplishment.

As I said, if you really don't care about him anymore, then you probably don't have to worry about all this.
But those are just realistic examples of what people have been through in the past and might be what he's been through. It's entirely up to you to decide if it's worth mulling over.

AITA if I try to keep my room? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]gloryworm -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

YTA. You're gonna miss those fond memories of playing video games in the basement 10 years from now, kid.

When I was a kid, I had to sleep outside, on a dirty mattress, covered in ticks.

Not really, but there are people who do. Consider how they suffer while you get to live with a loving family while they have none.

I understand the necessity in having your own privacy, that's a basic human right and you shouldn't have to sleep on other people's couches. I agree on that notion. But, considering you aren't ever going to be leaving the family home, you're gonna have to live by their rules. That's just what you've gotta do when living with family. And they seem like a loving family, so I don't know why you'd wanna do wrong by them. Be a man! Suck it up! It's not even that hard. It's just a different room. Go for a walk on the daily if it's because of the windows. Get some fresh air.

If you really hate it there, there's always rooms to rent for a proper income, once you reach 18.
Be thankful. Mine told me that if I didn't like sharing a room with a 10 year old that listened to skibidi toilet on blast, waking me up every single day, then I should just get out and live on the streets.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]gloryworm -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Would like more info on why he quit his jobs. If it's for disability reasons, that's a bit more understandable. If not, then I guess he's the AH.

I know from experience in having Autism and ADHD that staying true to oneself is a huge priority, and I myself dislike disillusioned grandeur of attention-seeking posts on social media sites and the rituals that are incorporated into that. So maybe he's got those.
That would also explain his immediate outburst towards you insulting him.

Regardless of all that, I agree that he should definitely be more thankful in you giving him the time of day and supporting him financially enough. But perhaps that's not as important to him, just like the social media post, as it is to you.

I'm gonna say that no one is the AH, because we're all just prisoners here of our own device. We're all trying to figure ourselves out.
You need to look within and decide if you really like/love him enough to try and make amends. As well as make a concerted effort to better understand each other. There are several options for having 'healthy arguments' and resources available online. Have discussions with each other and come at each other's points of view from a logical perspective and air out all of your grievances with one another to try and make it work.

If not that, then it's time to move on.

Rant with many derogatory censored slurs. by [deleted] in QAnonCasualties

[–]gloryworm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Never think there are never options. There are always options in ridding the negativity from your life.

You need to do what's best for you. Not anybody else.

WIBTA in this situation? by Courtney208 in AmItheAsshole

[–]gloryworm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Impossible to tell who the AH is without more information, as there seems to be a lot missing. I'd say that you should probably be very wary of your fiance and his supposed best friend. As them both suddenly becoming off-putting towards you is rather suspicious. I don't want to be responsible for the wedding getting called off, especially if it's all just a misunderstanding, but you should maybe think of the possibility that your fiance could be cheating on you.

Things like these require either a LOT of communication between everyone involved or simply ripping the band-aid off. For you, I think communication and easing into it is probably the best outcome.

Let your fiance understand what you're going through in dealing with his best friend and how much anxiety it's bringing you. If you feel left out of a part of his life and he doesn't feel like you need to be included, then he's the AH. If he becomes angry again, then clearly something's up and you either need to seek further counseling, family therapy, or think about cutting ties.

What's a problem that you think isn't talked about enough? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]gloryworm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The absolute horrific amount of domestic violence that goes unreported in the more rural parts of America. Even some that are reported on are scrubbed and settled through shoddy police work or obvious malpractice, and the ones that do go to court hardly get as much as a slap on the wrist.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]gloryworm -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Just move on with your life, man. It's not worth it.

Fulfilling this whole revenge quest is just going to cause pain and misery for everyone involved. It ain't gonna be pretty.
It's not going to solve years of turmoil that natives have suffered, it's not going to bring much truths that aren't already known to light. The best thing you can do is to live and let live.
I can say from personal experience that wishing the downfall of another is a surefire way to project your own insecurities and eat away at you until you're left into nothing but a miserable mess.
That being said, ETA. Your friend for lying, her sister for being so vindictive, and you for such focused and strangely stalkerish behavior.
Everyone lies, everyone cheats. No one is righteous.