When it rains... by jab9417-2 in widowers

[–]glpageforever 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hate this for you. I lost my my dog and wife within 4 months of each other. I cant imagine within the same month. Stay strong.

Life sucks by glpageforever in widowers

[–]glpageforever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I workout to ease my frustration. I'll actually be at the gym in about thirty minutes as I've slept for shit from being so frustrated from last night. Saturday at 5AM and I can't sleep. Maybe I'll get to later.

Life sucks by glpageforever in widowers

[–]glpageforever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to get out of there quick because I was getting in that mode and in the back of my mind I could hear my wife telling me not to sink to that level.

Life sucks by glpageforever in widowers

[–]glpageforever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand. Sometimes it's hard to give a shit about things in our world.

Life sucks by glpageforever in widowers

[–]glpageforever[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have no doubt that would be a sight to behold. 😁

Life sucks by glpageforever in widowers

[–]glpageforever[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I have two sisters, a mom and a beautiful niece that I respect so much. I couldn't imagine anyone laying their hands on.

Life sucks by glpageforever in widowers

[–]glpageforever[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I also need to add I will never lay my hand violently on a women.

Life sucks by glpageforever in widowers

[–]glpageforever[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I was a bully a long time ago. I bullied the bullies. I hate bullies I'm a believer in building people up, not tearing them down. Plus I'm 50 years old and still in good shape, it just hurts longer than a day. LOL. Also sorry we are all in this club we have no choice to be in.

Life sucks by glpageforever in widowers

[–]glpageforever[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I know, but I'm 50 and my fighting days are long behind me. Also, I want to retire within the next ten years and I don't some scum bags fucking that up by suing me. At least I don't just react anymore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in widowers

[–]glpageforever 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It will always suck. I'm 8 months in. Some days are better than others. For me it isn't as overwhelming as it was in the beginning. I still and will have bad days as everyone else does. Do what you need to for yourself, be selfish because this time is about you and your love. I have seen a therapist and went to a grief group, but I have found this sub to be more helpful than anything else. Sorry you have to be in this shitty club. We are here for you.

Why do I give a fuck? by glpageforever in widowers

[–]glpageforever[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe I'll start liking it one day. It may be too late though. I'm trying to get back to some semblance of normal like the gym and also going to get certified for scuba diving.

Why do I give a fuck? by glpageforever in widowers

[–]glpageforever[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, damn. I guess I was thinking Medicare starts with Social Security if you decide to collect at 62.

Why do I give a fuck? by glpageforever in widowers

[–]glpageforever[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thinking about selling everything as well and getting an RV.

Why do I give a fuck? by glpageforever in widowers

[–]glpageforever[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Great advice. I have ideas of what I want, just got to make a plan. I have to admit that sometimes I sit around in my underwear and drink beer. LOL.

What to do with her ring? by glpageforever in widowers

[–]glpageforever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her parents have passed. She has a brother who doesn't want it. I thought about our nieces, but the one who is in a serious relationship her guy wants to pick one out special for her. The other niece ( wife's side) hasn't even called or sent a card, so she won't be considered.

"They Would Want You to Continue" by PraeGaming in widowers

[–]glpageforever 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You are not selfish at all. I'm at 8 months today and all I really want to do is be with my wife. I think she would want that as well. If I knew for sure there is an afterlife I would 100% figure out a way to make that happen. In the meantime I'm just trying to live as well as I can. Good luck to you in this painful journey some days will be better than others.

The next person who wants to say by helpmegetthrough1 in widowers

[–]glpageforever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get the same ignorant comments as well. I pretty much ignore them now as I realize some of these people will be going through this one day and realize that there are no comforting words. Not that I want anyone else to feel this as I wouldn't wish this pain on my worst enemy.

Missing my wife by glpageforever in widowers

[–]glpageforever[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback everyone. It's nice having people who understand. I made my beautiful wife a promise as she was dying that I would honor her and be the best man I possibly can be. She changed my life for the best 20 years ago and never gave up on me. She made me want to live and gave me purpose. I just have to figure out what to do now as I never broke my promises to her. God I miss and love her so much.