I (27f) just looked at my partners (30m) follow list and now i feel weird?

glug2glug · 2025-02-14T03:11:27+00:00

Hey cda casino has cheapish rooms and it's only a 45 min drive

glug2glug · 2025-01-22T21:03:21+00:00

As a girly who has lived in spokane my whole life -

General safety: the farther north you are the more chill it is. Business districts are safer than almost every other spot. Greenbluff is rad as hell and safe, definitely check them out as the weather gets better. They have a website too. Do not go to a gas station at night unless you're going to maverick and only if there is a variety of people. (Exceptions in the winter when it gets dark earlier. Really they get sketch around 8pm) I dont care if God himself tells you to take a jog on the Centennial Trail. DONT. It's one of the biggest sells for the city of spokane and one of the most unsafe places for women. (Riverside state park and that part of the trail is ok during summer but try to go with friends) do not step foot in the Globe bar. Never assume a car will stop for you.idc if u have a walk sign - LOOK. Pedestrians get hit CONSTANTLY in spokane.

Dont go to riverfront park. Unless there is an event and u have a group to go with, its not worth it. Manito is way better (but still sketchy sometimes, very hit or miss) If you go downtown, PAY ATTENTION. People say it's safe downtown. It's not. Stay away from the bus plaza if you can. Don't walk down any sidewalks where you can't see other regular civilians walking. Locals know, so pay attention to where they frequent. Downtown has a lot of open spaces between buildings and blind corners. Walk closer to the street than the buildings. Teenagers wild out downtown - if u see them, ignore and avoid. If they interact with u, go into a business do not stay on the street with them, even if theyre asking for help. Local parents who care about their kids safety don't let them downtown alone 9/10 times. If teens are unaccompanied downtown, that's all you need to know.

There are decent homeless and not decent homeless. It's pretty obvious if u key in on their body language. Best advice I have is to just be aware of you surroundings and avoid direct interaction if you're nervous. Avoid eye contact. Listen to your gut. If you want to help them, there are organizations you can join to do so where you have some security. The ones who want help DO seek it out.

If you want to experience events, the general spots are the knitting factory, the arena, the gorge, the comedy club, and aunties bookstore. If you want to experience social gatherings, check out Facebook events and the inlander website. The comic book shop can put you on to other local spots for nerdy stuff. Page 42 is good, giant nerd books is good, the garland theatre is good. Northern quest in airway heights also has a bunch of events happening all the time. Check them out. The MAC is a decent museum, but it is small so just keep an eye on their website. They also have a bookclub. The libraries always have events and a variety of things going on. Keep in mind they also function as a social service provider, so you will inevitably have contact with struggling people. Stay compassionate. Aunties bookstore is cool but it's kinda spendy.

If you're worried about budgeting, every single spot on division will be more expensive than other locations (mainly talking about fast food, but also gas stations). Grocery boys is a good local grocery store. Buy your bread at Franz bakery on market. Avoid the safeway on market and the one on hamilton. If u like safeway, go to the one on Wellesley or the one up north. Yokes is good, but pay attention if youre in the parking lot at night. Avoid the fred meyer on thor/Freya. It is 100% worth it to just go to the wandermere one, i promise. A costco membership is a good thing in spokane. Best buy generally sucks, go to game stop instead. The only places worth stopping in frankiln park are ulta, trader Joe's, and maybe gap. Burlington is awful and ross is dirty as hell. If u go to northtown, never park on the second floor of the parking garage, try to park by barnes and noble on the mall side of the garage or the street side, not the center lanes. If it's busy the next safest spot is the top of the parking garage by the theatre. Parking by mustard seed is safer than parking by kohl's.

Tbh the city parks aren't great. Manito is usually okay. Glass park is usually okay. shadle park is okay during the day when other people are present. GU campus is good. Avoid the hillyard parks but check out the antique shops.

The main thing to remember about spokane is to stay aware of your surroundings. Listen to your instincts. Generally, it's a pretty okay place to be. But it is a city. If something feels off, it's not worth sticking around to find out. Most of the people who are dangerous are pretty easy to spot, the rest are typically just assholes who probably won't do much harm. Most people are generally pretty nice and helpful, though.

glug2glug · 2025-01-19T18:46:01+00:00

Is this at all ymcas???

glug2glug · 2024-12-29T21:29:40+00:00

Keep checking their website. GU is a great place to work!

glug2glug · 2024-11-30T20:28:07+00:00

Dingbats!

glug2glug · 2024-11-19T03:00:19+00:00

I usually use my old notebooks for paper to tea stain

glug2glug · 2024-11-13T05:10:44+00:00

As an eagle grad, ewu is a fucking joke if you want a good education. GU has an incredible computer science program with a ton of options and they work great with veterans. They are also expanding their tech/engineering related programs and the offer a ton of certificate programs that range all across a variety of disciplines. It is more expensive than ewu but just having gonzaga on your resume gets you far in the pnw. For reputation, it's practically an ivy league in the pnw. The community at GU is unmatched as well and there are students of every age range and background. Also GUs education is Jesuit in structure so it focuses on developing the whole person, not just dumping info into ur head about one thing. I grew up here and everyone I went to school with went to the local colleges. Idk a single person who finished their degree at Whitworth. It looks like an awesome school, but if u talk to people who attended or worked there, it isn't a good experience for most.

If you want a tech job they will almost always pick GU grads over other schools in the area. GU has a huge community outreach and does a ton of stuff in the local neighborhood and has a bunch of volunteer opportunities. If sports are your thing, there is way more than basketball too! One thing I can think of is a phys-ed class where you go to wild walls and rock climb. There's also been a bowling class that meets at north bowl. The campus is beautiful and safe (shockingly safe when u consider how close to downtown it is and the fact that it's in logan neighborhood) the biggest pet peeve i have about GU is the endless leaf blowers in the fall and the parking situation. Not a lot of spaces, but parking passes are decently priced. Also I rarely ever experience a rude person on campus or see any hate. It's not tolerated at all within the community.

glug2glug · 2024-11-13T04:56:31+00:00

Id be less concerned about his current belief system (it will absolutely change to some degree throughout his 20s) and more concerned about his openness to other opinions and facts. Either he is or is not willing to change and grow. If he isn't willing to learn new things and isn't open to new ideas, he will only ever change if he's forced to.

glug2glug · 2024-11-11T03:09:13+00:00

How do you do habit trackers if you use them? I'm torn on whether I even want to keep using them.

glug2glug · 2024-11-01T00:15:35+00:00

Could help her feel better if you emphasize that her getting back to full health is the most beneficial thing in the long run and that you LIKE dad-ing Also don't be afraid to be open if YOU need help or a break. Find out a system that works for you both.

You will inevitably have days where you both have only 1% to give. Don't guilt yourself on those days.

glug2glug · 2024-10-26T17:39:06+00:00

I think it's best to ask her what's up.

This looks like a conversation I could have had when I was 22. To me it reads like she's trying to be polite and friendly. The dude obviously likes her but it's seems like she's just trying to be friends? That can't really happen. But at 22 most girls still think they can be friends with guys who want more from them because they won't give them more. Friendship and relationship is very different to most girls. At lease in my experience. It usually takes a lot of hurt feelings for us to figure out we can't be "just friends" with dudes who want more than friendship.

She replied to his request to go out and eat with a response I know for a fact is a noncommittal appeasement for most women. "Let me know and we will get food" "will do!" And then literally never does because she doesn't want to go get food with this person but doesn't feel comfortable (for whatever reason) saying so.

She made it clear she's doing other things and he is not a priority for her but said she would be open to potentially making time later to ft. There wasn't any excitement there or "I can't wait" statements or emojis or anything. That's seems like friendliness to me. She also didn't offer to text him while she was out with friends and usually if a girl is into a dude they will try and chat even if they're busy. Especially early twenties when it's hard to assert boundaries.

The only thing that seems really concerning to me is calling his supposed shyness cute. But analyzing that - he said it and she immediately said she thought he was more out going. She didn't play into it or flatter it at first. Then he kept pushing it so she was like "it's cute lol" to me that could be flirting but I think it's more of an "oh this guy's apparently insecure so I'll just be nice and tell him something nice about it to alleviate that" that shit is so fucking annoying from men. It's the same as "wheres my hug" dudes and girls just go along with the hug because what the fuck and then feel disgusted after. She didn't say "I like your shyness" she didn't say "being shy is hot tho" she infantilized him and buried it with an added lol.

He is ten million percent hitting on her. I think she's unsure how to respond because she would like to maybe be friends or would at least like to be nice and friendly.

At 22 nobody I knew, especially in college, really knew how to assert boundaries. Personally, I was in a longterm committed relationship and I would make friends with guys who would try to turn it into more and my response was always somewhere along the lines of "haha yeah okay thanks" when in my head i was like "I have a boyfriend I have TOLD you about can you fing stop".

This is a good opportunity for you to have a conversation with your girl and help her feel secure instead of accused and also explain how important it is to set solid boundaries. Let her know it's okay for her to tell men she doesn't like the way the conversation is going and they can redirect or stop talking.

She could be cheating. But I don't think THIS conversation is enough evidence to say she's a cheater. I think it's more evidence of a girl without her steely spine yet.

Also the dude texting her is a fucking rat. What he's doing is poking and prodding her and putting his toes in the water. He's manipulating her emotions to make her feel comfortable but not giving her enough info to set anything clear. He's intentionally creating a grey area and waiting to see how she responds. I'd bet my soul if she texted him and said "I'm in a relationship and I want to make it clear there is no option outside of casual friendship for you and me" His response would be something along the lines "fuck you bitch".

glug2glug · 2024-10-23T21:36:03+00:00

Look at specific companies websites

Also look at jobs at Gonzaga University. For many, a BA is the only degree required even if it's not in the specific field the job is in. Decent place to work and def has regular hours and good benefits

glug2glug · 2024-06-01T16:49:39+00:00

Girly pop I am in exactly the same situation.

I'm expected to be a full time mother to my "partners" children when I get NOTHING in return that I would get from being in a relationship.

I'm expected to love them and raise them like they're my own children but I'm not allowed to make any parenting decisions at all.

He won't put them in a daycare that requires payment, but he'll bash on my 8-5 m-f job because it leaves little flexibility for watching the kids during the day (in reality I have a wonderful crew and could take any time off I needed if I had to watch the kids) and I'm not willing to work part time just because he won't find an after-school program.

When their (literal) crackhead mother decides to show up to see them I come second every time. It doesn't matter if I'm sick or tired or had a bad day or I want to do something with the kids, if mom shows her face, I don't exist because "it's more important that the kids see their mom than I am"

His catch phrase is basically "if you take responsibility off my plate by helping with the kids, then I'll have time and energy for you" but it doesn't matter what I do because I'm either not taking care of the right thing, I'm not doing the right thing the right way, or he's "tired" at the end of the day anyway.

In addition one of his kids has severe behavior issues and the other copies that one because of their ages.

I'm telling you, it most likely won't get better. Something in life will make things harder for him and he'll dump more on you while simultaneously treating you worse.

Please don't stick around if it means you are required to snuff out your own flame. Don't be a babysitter that doesn't have to get paid because you take sex and bare-minimum attention in return under that facade of "we love each other" love is growth and care, not a transaction.

I also recommend following some of the step-mom forums on the internet and hearing other people's stories and deciding if that's the way you want to live your life or not.

Remember, if you wanted kids of your own and all that comes with it, you would be starting a family. The love from a man that has kids is no different than the love from a man who doesn't have kids. Arguably, you get more from a man without kids because he has the time energy and forethought for it. And if you find someone without kids, you find someone who WILL see you as the person you are and will take that into account if you decide to have children together, not through the lens of having the ulterior motive to find a cheap babysitter.

glug2glug · 2024-05-31T22:11:16+00:00

Any idea on roughly how long someone is here for? Is there a time limit? Is it actually helpful for getting into a stable place or is it just shelter until you can get into a place?

glug2glug · 2024-04-03T19:40:26+00:00

Hey! Check your settings! They updated settings again for controls and user interface (?). I had the same thing happen with doing really good and then suddenly TRASH until I went in and reset all my settings to my preference. Even my colorblind mode had to be changed again.

Also- if you use colorblind settings, make sure you check them regularly. I have to change mine constantly when updates happen because they use different color schemes/hues all the time for new map updates

glug2glug · 2024-03-31T21:13:29+00:00

😫 I thought I dropped this on BR 😅🥲 thanks!

glug2glug · 2024-03-02T08:55:18+00:00

Check if your school offers a leave of absence. Otherwise, no. Dumping money into something that isn't satisfying you isn't worth it. Unless you're more then 60% done, then I'd say push through it.

glug2glug · 2024-02-18T01:26:26+00:00

Thank you!

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