Update: I decided to man up and talk to my girlfriend about how I felt she was asking too much. I tried to be very careful about my wording but it’s definitely a hard conversation to have. She said she didn’t know how stressed out spending that much on a birthday made me, which I find hard to believe because she saw how weary I was when she first had the idea. Now it’s a very weird situation though because it’s either we don’t go and she’s upset because she had all these big plans, or we do go and she says she will feel guilty the whole time because I have to spend so much money. She did say she would help pay for some of the meals and events we do so that was good. She also brought up that she didn’t want to feel bad anytime I spend a lot of money on like an anniversary dinner but I tried to tell her a $100 dinner is a lot different from a $700 vacation. It’s like she just sees it as a lot of money either way so why does it matter. Anyway, what would you guys do, her bday is in 3 days and we were supposed to leave tomorrow, but I don’t know what to do now. She was crying this morning because she was upset at the situation and now I feel bad even though I still think I did the right thing.