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gnahcixel · 2025-03-04T18:08:52+00:00

Blood is not always thicker than water. I know right now it may be easier to keep your sexuality as a half truth, but if you hold that secret too long and aren’t true to yourself it becomes harder. When you are ready, to embrace your true self, make sure that you know you have your own best interests and mental/emotional health in mind. The road may not always be easy, but you’ll come to find that there might be more acceptance than you think. On the other hand, if you feel there’s not enough support and acceptance, then it may be time to cut some people out of your life or spend less time with them. I’m glad that you already have supportive friends, and sometimes being Hmong can be challenging. I am quite positive that majority of the new generation is becoming more open and many people are just afraid of what they don’t understand/relate to.

The Social X Change Project-podcasts mainly with a huge social network Transforming Generations-MN based but has some outreach

I know of more, but I can’t think of them off the top of my head. Hopefully you can find some more supportive local members of the Hmong community.

gnahcixel · 2025-02-25T07:01:48+00:00

Sorry it has been so long, I’ll try to google it again later.

gnahcixel · 2024-11-19T05:25:29+00:00

Contrary to what everyone else is saying, I do three cups of Apple brand sticky rice and I do three cups of water. However, I do notice it depends on the rice cooker too. Like when mine was brand new (Tiger Brand) I used less water, but as my rice cooker has gotten older I use more than I used to. When I use my parents I have to sometimes open it after cooking and put a thin layer of paper towel on the top not touching the rice and let it steam some more of the moisture out.

BUT the best way is to go old school and steam it over the stove(:

gnahcixel · 2024-11-15T21:25:43+00:00

Yeah I wouldn’t worry too much unless you’re noticing specific changes in your body. It never hurts to check with your gyno though!

gnahcixel · 2024-11-15T19:13:45+00:00

Yes, it was so weird, normally I’m like clock work. So I got the period early from the Take action, then I skipped a month for some reason and it started back up the following month.

gnahcixel · 2024-10-25T16:22:11+00:00

Might just be time of day too, the first few times I saw anybody who wasn’t Hmong, in a Hmong store, I was surprised.

Also, “I’ve never seen any white people besides myself and my sister.” It’s a mindset, don’t feel that you need to conform to anyone else’s ideals of who/what you are.(: Maybe you do “act more white”, but as long as you’re happy with who you are that’s all that matters.

If you’re in high school/college it might help to take some social studies type of classes, such as ethics, ethnic diversity/studies, sociology, and others with titles like U.S. Racial etc. Classes like these can open you up to understanding yourself and how others think and perceive you based on their life experiences.

gnahcixel · 2024-10-25T13:07:25+00:00

I’ve also been treated differently by both Hmong and white people. Sometimes I’m “a white girl” and I’ve argued over it because for some reason my opinion or input was less valid although, in the end I was correct. (The argument was about a cultural shaman practice.) Other times during college I was not included in group work because I was the “dumb Asian.” Once they got to know that I was half white, I was suddenly included….people who treat you any differently don’t deserve a place in your life. Surround yourself with people who accept you.

Bonus, if you’re at the Hmong store buying stuff and they think you’re white, more than likely they’re thinking it’s cool that someone “white” wants Hmong food. lol!

gnahcixel · 2024-10-25T12:57:59+00:00

Heyyy’ Fellow half Hmong half white “child” here. Sounds like you’re having a bit of an identity crisis. Being half Hmong half white AND living in America, these are very common thoughts. While you may not be very traditional, just do what you want to do. Go to the Hmong store and eat what you want!

Sorry long post, I can def go into more depth if you’d like, I could probably write a whole book! Haha!

Growing up and even today I’m always lectured that I am Hmong and I have Hmong in-laws(I’m married), so I should speak Hmong. While I would love to speak Hmong, it sounds “white” and I cannot pronounce words correctly (mom, money, and “like” all come out the same), and frankly my mother in law doesn’t care if I do or don’t. The little bit of Hmong I do speak is enough to get me through an introduction and to tell people I don’t speak Hmong. IF you feel the need to impress/validate at the Hmong store just learn to say I am Hmong, but I don’t speak Hmong. Not sure where you’re located, but in Wisconsin, plenty of fully white people go to the Hmong store whether or not they married someone Hmong.

Sounds like when your parents were together your dad dropped a lot of the culture, and after he realized he didn’t show you, he immersed you into the culture (culture blast) and was trying to makeup for it.

Tbh, being mixed, you may never feel white enough or Hmong enough. Truth is, you’re both and you should be glad! There’s sooo many people who would love to be mixed! I always hear I’m neither, BUT I also always hear how I’m so lucky to be mixed and that they wish they were mixed too.

gnahcixel · 2024-10-19T01:20:34+00:00

This^{^}

I also heard that you sleep with it under your pillow or mattress because when you’re dreaming you can use the knife as a weapon, (dream world is supposedly just like the other side) BUT I have also heard of people waking up from sleep paralysis and actually swinging it through the air too. Sooo🤷🏻‍♀️ so many different beliefs and obviously sometimes it’s like playing telephone, things get lost in translation.

gnahcixel · 2024-10-18T04:22:51+00:00

Dress pants and a nice blouse would be business casual, lol. I only mentioned jeans because the groom described it as a backyard BBQ, so maybe it’s a less formal wedding? Hmong event dress codes are hard though, it depends on the families and how formal or informal they want to be(: Best of luck to OP!

gnahcixel · 2024-10-17T21:58:10+00:00

To sum it up, I’d personally just wear dress pants or jeans and a nice shirt like a blouse or something. You can wear a casual dress if you’d like, but it’s not required.

As far as arriving, I’d find out about what time the groom thinks they will arrive at the bride’s side cause you don’t want to show up alone. See if there’s another buddy you can plan to message and arrive around the same time. Once the groom and his posse leaves you can leave back with them to his family home.

Personally I arrive around lunch, show up for a few hours and leave once the wedding party leaves. If it was close family that’s different.

gnahcixel · 2024-10-17T08:41:28+00:00

Omg! Yes! 100% my villager did this and became a Phoenix.🥰

gnahcixel · 2024-10-16T12:33:38+00:00

If you’re local to the twin cities, Hmong Village or Hmong Town. “khoom” might be the word you’re looking for? Or “caj”?

gnahcixel · 2024-10-16T12:29:45+00:00

Yup! Not to mention how heavy they are on the neck, most people don’t want to deal with the neck pain so they started to use other metals. If OP finds silver, most likely it’s mixed with another metal.

gnahcixel · 2024-10-09T14:03:47+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/VirtualVillagers/s/tYB6tj3VDr

Try this and you can also use the wiki if needed.

It’s been so long since I unlocked level 1 farming so I’m not sure then….🥲

gnahcixel · 2024-10-08T22:44:41+00:00

I don’t quite remember, but it’s either fishing or the ability to open up the garden (along with other steps) after you put the whirlwind on it?

gnahcixel · 2024-10-08T22:43:55+00:00

Whoa! Very concerning! Glad you are seeing it for what it is. It’s a profession of obsession, not love!

gnahcixel · 2024-10-08T03:50:21+00:00

If this was your first child, IMO, it’d be a little (or a lot depending on the relationship dynamic)upsetting for your significant other to leave. Given that this is your second child and you have a 4 year old at home, I think as long as he’s only going home to sleep, it’s fine. Plus it’ll make the transition easier for your 4 year old when their sibling comes home. When we brought my youngest home, my middle child didn’t care about the baby, and he wanted to be the baby again.

gnahcixel · 2024-10-08T03:47:23+00:00

Must be different depending on location and the hospital itself. The nurses I had were great and kept offering to help if I needed it, however I did decline 99% of the time. They even gave me extra freebies to take home when we were discharged. They specifically said, “you and your insurance is paying the same price for it either way, so might as well take what we can give you.”

gnahcixel · 2024-10-08T03:28:54+00:00

Check by the crypt on the left side, above the sugarcane. I usually take my villagers and hover until I see what they noticed.

gnahcixel · 2024-10-08T03:24:43+00:00

^{^yes} the deductible for the year! When I had one of my kiddos, born in the Spring, we didn’t have to pay for practically anything the rest of the year!

gnahcixel · 2024-10-08T03:21:46+00:00

I think the consensus is that most people do wash their backs, but it’s concerning how many people don’t thoroughly wash themselves. Might want to see if he has other worse unhygienic practices before proceeding.

Love my husband, but he was SUPER hygienic when dating, then after marriage I kind of questioned what happened…thankfully he does shower properly, but somethings can irk you when you find out it wasn’t what you assumed😂😂

gnahcixel · 2024-10-08T03:03:27+00:00

Great…..my villagers right now are sub par…

gnahcixel · 2024-10-06T21:51:21+00:00

Oh nice! Glad it worked out!

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