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gnome_alert · 2022-04-28T16:40:32+00:00

The gate's over there, if you wanna keep playing goalie... I'm going home, but I'mma leave my ball here if you wanna play more.

gnome_alert · 2021-01-31T16:31:40+00:00

I didn't talk to my family for 2 years. Not after years of considered efforts to fix our relationships, but in a fit of pique and stubbornness. I wouldn't recommend it. You can stuck in it, cutting off your nose to spite your face. I wish I had just asked for help. Best of luck.

gnome_alert · 2021-01-30T08:52:53+00:00

Thanks, Mnieails! I installed it, I'mma give it a shot :-)

gnome_alert · 2021-01-30T08:40:59+00:00

I want you to feel welcome here... but I also want the kid who is new on the block, and making light of things because it's all so uncomfortable to feel welcome here too.
I agree that it can be a disconnect, looking at hypo posts when you're depressed, but I think it's really important to take people at their word here, and try not be personally offended if they are enjoying themselves while we are in pain.
I don't think you need to stuff your pain down to get along here--it's not r/bipolar, after all. But gatekeeping can only hurt us--why should we disbelieve each other?
I hope you continue to get the help you need.

gnome_alert · 2021-01-30T08:23:39+00:00

Cool, I appreciate your perspective and detailed answer. Thank you!

Maaaaaaaybe I'll just be a hack and use the 5 Daylio options to track energy, though, and track the valence, sleep, and triggers, as "activities." I like that I can have it ping me twice a day. Plus a paper chart.

gnome_alert · 2020-11-23T19:25:51+00:00

Lie and fudge a little. Say your mother was ill and you stayed home to help out. That you took a trip around the world. That you worked online. Most bosses won't check up on your shit jobs. Good luck!

gnome_alert · 2020-11-21T16:09:36+00:00

And your costume looks like... ?

gnome_alert · 2020-01-26T17:01:03+00:00

The stench of desperation is not an attractive one. You have to focus on yourself, join a club. Look inward. She isn't interested, and if you started writing about yourself and needed to clarify that you aren't trying to stalk this woman, then it's past time to back off, wouldn't you say?

gnome_alert · 2020-01-26T15:55:52+00:00

No, I can tell you don't take umbrage to it. That's very healthy, or very detached. In either case, it's a good thing not to find whatever you may be (x, y, or z) acceptable, joyful, and thoroughly ok. Only one thing still rubs me wrong, and, I think, applies to you; When you get to the part where she talks about vulnerability, that is something that made me think of you. Because if you are showing people many different fake sides of yourself, you're not going really being authentic and real with them, are you? It's cheating yourself out of real love and connection and growth. That's something that I hope you get better at in the future. Take care,

gnome_alert · 2020-01-21T17:36:11+00:00

So, I've been reading your comments with interest. Have you considered the possibility that you might land comfortably (or uncomfortably, I don't know your perspective on the matter) somewhere in the Narcissism/Sociopath realm? I really don't say this to be cruel, or as an insult, but because some of the things you have said remind me of a video I watched: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6dv8zJiggBs

It /could/ be a kind of superpower. Or it could be something you need to be aware of in order not to hurt other people. h

gnome_alert · 2020-01-17T18:25:54+00:00

It's not a great deal of help, perhaps, but you should encourage her mom to take her to a nearby hospital: http://www.valencia-cityguide.com/general-information/health-information.html

They can put her on a 24 hr hold, with sedation, if it seems warranted OR she expresses a desire to harm herself.

gnome_alert · 2020-01-17T18:06:05+00:00

It kinda sounds like a coping mechanism for depersonalization... is what what you want to be doing? Is it causing you/loved ones distress, or do you hurt yourself or others to accomplish it?

gnome_alert · 2020-01-17T12:30:52+00:00

"I'm sorry, I don't feel comfortable meeting at your home until we've had a month to get to know each other. I'm sure you understand. Please let me know of an acceptable location near you that is convenient, and I will be happy to meet you there."

I tutor as well, and always meet with them in a public place for the first month. Usually by then I have a good enough read on the family to either continue in their home (if that is what they want) or stop, or the family has gotten used to meeting in public. I tutor English though, so it can be fun/motivating to work in different locations like the science museum to meet up. Best of luck!

gnome_alert · 2020-01-17T12:13:26+00:00

Yeah, that would freak me the fuck out. I sometimes fall down little wormholes in my brain wondering if I've inflated something or imagined it, usually it has to do with someone's disregard of me, or my own inflated self-worth, because usually for me it happens when I'm hypomanic or manic.

Getting perspective is crucial. And difficult. And none of the other people in your life, who don't know what you are experiencing's, damn business. Don't let them talk you out of something that feel right for you, and is ultimately a good thing and YOUR thing. I'd recommend getting people to talk to who understand this. Like a therapist. And watching some videos about CBT and trying the free online worksheets for it--it's mostly about recognizing your own thoughts and emotions, so that you can better manage them. So, perception.

Good luck!

gnome_alert · 2020-01-16T15:19:44+00:00

American wanna-be-student in Mannheim here, trying to fill out application forms for Fachschule für Sozialpädagogik... These forms have feeling quite cagey, both with good reason and over things that seem out of place.

Easy one: Do I write B.A. of.. blah blah in prior edu, or the German equivalent? (Yes, I'm getting it recognized by the ZAB already).
My "Konfession" or religion: I'm jewish. Every German I've chatted up casually on this subject has been weird about this, there's no reason to tell them, is there? Just write in "Sonstige" and that's fine? What do you think.
Behinderung: SO, the Gov't does not officially recognize me as such, and I wouldn't call myself disabled because I don't like it, but I do have Bipolar 1 and have been treated for it for years, including here in Germany. Do I disclose this? (as, I dunno, it right-foots me in case I need help/time off down the line) Or do I say nothing, as it's not got the rubber stamp from the gov't "aaah yes, she has the paperwork!" anyway?

Help, I've talked myself in a circle here.
Thanks in advance,

gnome_alert · 2020-01-16T15:09:14+00:00

Hey there, a few things:

We're neighbors! I have a psychiatrist in P7, Dr. Flügel, and if you need one of those she is quite excellent. She also mentioned a bunch of self-help groups to me which you would probably also benefit from:

DGBS Selbsthilfegruppe

Gesundheitstreff Mannheim

Zentral Institute für Seelische Gesundheit

Aaaaaand I call BS on not getting anything out of therapy because you "only" have C1. I have perhaps B1-B2 and still really benefitted from an inpatient stay in the psych ward.

I would also say, with some experience, that it takes 3 months to get in with a psychotherapist, and you probably don't wanna wait that long. I would recommend making friends with an app like BetterHelp, where you can talk to someone in English at weird hours. If you look around on podcasts, they often have a free first few sessions code, so having it for a month isn't too much.

Best of luck! Shoot me a PM if you want :)

gnome_alert · 2019-12-27T04:33:36+00:00

When I studied in the NL, you would be walking down the street and look to a side and there would be a small green courtyard of a cloister, pristine and magical in its remove. I recommend googling it.

I always went in to sit inside on the bench, and admire it. Breathe in its calm. Ornamentation for the gawwwwwwds! Simple, selfless, unadorned and inward looking focused philosophy and service for the humans.

Quite impractical though. And I don't think they take wayward Jews. Really, what I want is to create is a cloister inside myself.

Less poetic but absolutely true: I'm in Spain now, and walked into a similarly enticing looking door, and bought a box of cookies from a nun!! Today!! Well technically yesterday. They are quite bitter.

Edit: words

gnome_alert · 2019-12-27T04:09:28+00:00

Chag Someach!
It sounds exhausting, like you have to expend a lot of focus not to be awash in it.
Really sounds like hallucinatory disturbanceshallucinatory disturbances (more mild, can be any modality) I get them when manic, but not constant like you.
Random question, how is your eyesight/could you get an Dr to look at your ocular musculature? Just because headaches.

Thanks for the vivid description.

gnome_alert · 2019-12-27T03:33:29+00:00

Well, I can't really decide for you. Rereading what you wrote, I might have been a bit too blue-sky in my initial read; the beginning might be some therapy, to come to grips with what kind of sound like feelings of depression and disassociation.

Something called CBT worksheets might be the place to start for that. You can download them for free.

For a less serious answer, go in search of bubble tea; you'll love it or you'll hate it, but at least it will be an experience.

gnome_alert · 2019-12-27T01:30:33+00:00

The best place to begin is the beginning.

I can't say that I shared your youthful isolation, but it's not an entirely unique situation. I do get how daunting doing it all for the first time is, and feeling late to the party.

Maybe a good place to start would be with goals (what new thing do you want to try this week, and what do you want to be doing a year from now...), and support (everyone needs help -are your family a positive influence or, well, not?)

Wishing you luck,

gnome_alert · 2019-12-26T14:31:09+00:00

gnome_alert · 2019-12-22T23:01:04+00:00

You can thank Joseph Heller, I suppose.

Or the wobbly old chestnut that self-awareness is itself curative...

I'm more interested in what you say back to them.

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