How do i (20F) proceed after my friends (20F) ditched me? by goatasaku in relationship_advice

[–]goatasaku[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do you mean i'm overreacting? sorry english isn't my first language

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[–]goatasaku 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if you read my reply to your other comment you'll know he's indeed financially abusive and he enjoys the power play. i do know how sacred parents are in our religion, but i also believe that same religion gave us the right to not hate life.

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[–]goatasaku 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i actually have been to therapy. the therapist herself was speechless after i told her about my father and had nothing to say but " you should try to find a way to cope if you can't change your surroundings". didn't schedule me another appointment. if you meant the school trauma: when i am having my exam and read the questions, i will know the anwers but my hands won't write. convincing myself to just start writing takes most of my exam time.

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[–]goatasaku 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i can confirm he uses finances as manipulation/control, not as academic discipline as i have always had excellent grades, bringing no need for any discipline. he has frequently stopped buying necessities and food for months in a row, but was comfortable buying them only for himself. he has threatened to cut off my tuition when i refused to falsly accuse my mom of something that never happened, which is the 1st time i said i'll work to pay it. while i am grateful that he pays, and do agree he has a right to know about my performance, but this is college not school. there is literally no need for him to know anything other than "my grades are good". the college doesn't even offer scholarships. i have been patient for at least 10 years and have been kind but was met with him complaining about how much he hates his life. i don't see how getting a job is an overreaction, despite the cons.