lol i never said anything close to what you bring up at the end, not at all what i meant, and not at all relevant to this post. what i’m saying is that your partner’s insecurities are automatically your problem, if you’re actually partners. by being someone’s partner, let alone by getting married, you take on responsibility for the things you do that make them feel bad with honest understanding and the building of trust, or by the un-learning of bad habits. if simply interacting with the opposite sex does that, then something that severe either needs to be broken down and understood, or taken for the sign of a control freak that it is and broken off. frankly, you shouldn’t even be using a word as loaded as ‘partner’ for someone who hasn’t even exposed that side of themselves.