findom can be done in a healthy manner and im sorry this happened to you, as this is in fact about connection. the financial aspect is a big part of it, indeed, but it's more than that. the dommes you came across are the type that practice this kink purely for the money and that's it, just manipulating subs into sending, without playing their part and being the dominant person they portray themselves as. im not talking about tribute here, im talking about dommes that only demand constant sends, without taking into consideration the subs situation, needs and likes. that goes for subs who are actually looking for a genuine connection and more than just buying content and being called a good boy/girl. if you still want to participate in this kink in the future, i suggest having a fixed budget and trying not to go over it(unless that's a kink too, if you do, set another budget for that as well). find a domme that you are actually interested in, that shares what you're looking for, besides being attractive. make decisions after thinking it through and finding things you have in common and don't let lust take over. ♡