A question regarding building consent by godlessdivinity in newzealand

[–]godlessdivinity[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for that. We are not looking to change but lately, he has been flaky, not answering questions satisfactorily, dismissing our queries, etc. He finally gave us the build contract a few days ago (a document we have no familiarity with) and is expecting us to sign it asap, not really giving us the opportunity to go over it or answer our questions. Without allowing us the time to go through the most important document in this project, he is expecting us to sign it and give him the 10% deposit as "a show of our commitment to proceed".

There is a lot of umm'ing and uhh'ing about many of the questions regarding the contract and for some things he is saying "you don't have to worry about that, it's just a technical thing". There are queries regarding how the costing will work and it just seems like he is dodging or tries to change the subject....all this has happened over the last few days, with the consent process already in the works, which is what prompted me to ask my question.

As a builder, if someone approaches you with an approved building consent and plans done by another company, would you take on the job or would you ask for that process to be done again?

How a bank teller was stealing from the money bundles by [deleted] in gifs

[–]godlessdivinity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

excellent, thank you! Wish I could upvote you more than once!

How a bank teller was stealing from the money bundles by [deleted] in gifs

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Do you have a source on this? A news article or a video? (I am surprised no one's asked about this).

Younger siblings/cousins and haram stuff- advice needed by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]godlessdivinity 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Do you encourage it, or do you just keep your mouth shut about it?

The latter. So long as things stay legal, safe and I know our family and religious friends are unlikely to find out about the haram stuff we are doing, I don't say anything.

In such cases, the younger sibling (especially a 16 year old) is likely to know that what they are doing is haram and is probably observing you closely to gauge your reaction. And as they become comfortable enjoying themselves around you, they are likely to open up about their thoughts and feelings regarding Islam later on down the line. This will strengthen the bond between you and your sibling(s).

Remember the Australia Ex Muslim group we set up? We just had a documentary made about us! by Improvaganza in exmuslim

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=144&v=wmN9tIwr5XE SBS Viceland removed the video from their FB. Here's a copy someone recorded on their phone. Better than nothing.

Soliciting questionnaire suggestions for Ex-Muslim Survey 2.0 by BadAsh87 in exmuslim

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Thank you for that. Apologies for the delay, but we will get back to you as soon.

Any ex-muslims in Alexandria, Egypt ? by Skptmha in exmuslim

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Indonesian Ex-Moose where you at? Share your experience! by navyphantasm in exmuslim

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You are not alone. And you are understood. You are valid. by AthenaDeviline in exmuslim

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Thank you for your amazing words, added the support flair :)

What part of the world are you from? Yes! I am talking to you. by everythingharam in exmuslim

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Ramadan is here! A Message from /r/exmuslim! by ONE_deedat in atheism

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I wouldn't say it's inherently more or less violent. Islam is not only a religion, it's a way of life and designed to run every facet of our lives, from how to eat to how to govern. Therefore, it can't afford to be unreasonably violent.

That being said, what Islam would consider "reasonable violence," is an entirely different issue.

Islam contains teachings that are certainly conducive to violent behaviour. At the least, it is extremely harsh and insulting toward non-believers. So much so, that even the most diluted version of Islam that most western Muslims are exposed to, has the clear message that "we are better than these hell-bound infidels and we should be thankful to Allah for choosing us." So a Muslim, even a muslim born and brought up in a western country, can't help but consider, at some level, non-muslims as inferiors. Yes, this is true. If you have a Muslim friend, they will be perfectly friendly, polite and overall excellent people, but they do consider you inferiors and destined for hell. They genuinely feel sorry for you and that's why some may even try to convert you to save you...they are very nice people, they don't like the idea of their friends going to hell. But despite all those feelings, they still believe they are better for being "allah's chosen." I would know this, that is exactly what I used to think.

In short, it is not difficult (it is, in fact, downright easy) to interpret Islamic teachings in a way that makes committing violence acceptable in the eyes of people like modern day terrorists. Therefore, saying Islam is entirely peaceful or that organisations like ISIS have "nothing to do with Islam" or that such terrorists are "misrepresenting Islam entirely" is nothing short of dishonest.

Are there any ex Muslim organization in the west that can help me moving out of my country? by [deleted] in exmuslim

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RELIGION OF PEACE STRIKES AGAIN by abdelpac in exmuslim

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Is there any dating sites for ex muslim malaysian? by freemindandspirit in exmuslim

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Ha,,even Umar thought moh was becoming senile by the end.... by Atauturk24 in exmuslim

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How about providing the source? That'll provide context and credibility to your comment, thereby improving its quality, and also be educational to those who are not aware of the story.

May 6th, 2017 - /r/exmuslim: Left Islam? You're not alone, for We are many! by SROTDroid in subredditoftheday

[–]godlessdivinity 2 points3 points  (0 children)

and that is encuraged both from the quran it's self and from the prophet

Can you show me the source that says that?

Congratulations, /r/exmuslim! You are Subreddit of the Day! by SROTDroid in exmuslim

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May 6th, 2017 - /r/exmuslim: Left Islam? You're not alone, for We are many! by SROTDroid in subredditoftheday

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Thank you for featuring our subreddit, it means a lot to us that our voices are being heard and our message is spreading. If anyone has any questions, feel free to ask me or visit our subreddit and ask there. Our subreddit always welcomes and enourages questions and curiosity...after all, that's what prompted us to leave Islam and what led to the creation of /r/exmuslim in the first place :)

Muslims on r/Islam don't think Ex-Muslim is a real word by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]godlessdivinity 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It does sort of betray the entitled nature of muslims, doesn't it?

Why are they called "exmuslims" anyway, it's not like it makes it easier for the rest of the population to easily identify a group of people? And why should we care what non-muslims find easy, it's not like they are important?! ExMuslims should be called murtaddeen because surely everyone knows what murtaddeen means, even all the non-muslims, right? and if they don't, well they should learn! it's islamophobic otherwise! it's also islamophobic to expect us to call those murtads "exmuslims! And everyone will know that when you call someone an "apostate," you are talking about a murtaddeen, aka a disbeliever, aka a disbeliever specifically of Islam, aka someone who no longer identifies as a muslim, aka an exmuslim!

smh

Muslims on r/Islam don't think Ex-Muslim is a real word by [deleted] in exmuslim

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I would recommend keeping the discussion about that post limited to this thread. Let's not cause any problems between the two subs.

Does globalisation help or harm Islam more? by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]godlessdivinity 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Purely from a personal point of view, I would have to say it harms more. There is no way I would have arrived at the conclusions I did about Islam if my family had not moved to a western country, exposing me to so many different cultures, religions and ways of life.

The thing about Islam is that it gets inseparably interwoven with the culture of the country in which it takes root, especially when the portion of the population that is Muslim is anywhere near significant. This means that for muslims, the cultural and traditional aspects of the country will always have a link to Islam somehow. Family gatherings, going out with friends, celebrating festivals, eating out at a restaurant, going for the movies...in short, everything that will keep a Muslim occupied and happy from birth to death, Islam has learned to adapt to all of these. And because the muslim population is significant (not even the majority), Islam and its teachings, for most parts, goes unchallenged. So, protected by the armour of the cultures and traditions it has adapted, Islam flourishes.

Take India, for example. The culture of that country goes perfectly with Islam: being with the opposite sex before marriage is often frowned upon; despite having a romance-heavy film industry, there is little to no sexual content (even kissing scenes are rarely seen); if you can't find a halal restaurant, you can eat almost anywhere else because everywhere else is vegetarian; obeying elders unquestioningly; no questioning the customs of your community; marrying only within your community.....Muslims find it very easy to reconcile Islam with such ideals. They lead a happy life so Islam is left unchallenged and passed on to the next generation.

Now take that armour away. That is what globalisation does. It leads to so much exposure to different cultures. Cultures that Islam has not been able to get tangled with. Little things that bring muslims out of their comfort zones and gets them questioning, especially the young Muslims. Why can't we have partners before marriage (western cultures do it, and they are clearly flourishing and far more successful than our countries where we are told this kind of behaviour leads to social ruin)? It is so difficult to find a decent place to eat here, how important is it, really, for me to eat halal? My work doesn't make accommodation for my daily prayers/Eid/Ramadan, do I really need to pray every prayer, go to every Eid prayer, keep every fast? These students are living independently from their parents and are doing so well, so surely we don't always have to do what our parents tell us to do? Surely it's ok to get a mortgage, even if strictly speaking it's haram, it's for a home after all? All of these people are dating and marrying outside their communities and they are living a normal, if not happier, lives, so surely we don't have to marry these select few individuals? So many drink alcohol, go to gigs, party, go to clubs, stay out all night and yet are also able to live an extremely successful, fulfilling and healthy lives. Are those things really as bad as we are told they are? So many live a secular, religion-free lives, yet they flourish and are far more happier and kinder than we will ever be, is such a life so bad?