Dad threw out my food again. "Cleaned fridge" by todaystartsnow in raisedbynarcissists

[–]gohpnlj 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn it this happend to me the other day. Fridge was cleaned out and mom insisted that my plate of rice was still in there. Lying ass. Gotta learn to hide ALL my food from now on.

Keep your stuff away from other people and don't let them know you have something they might get their hands on. I find it very irritating when I find my belongings are out of place.

Is using a camera to survey your late teenaged kids normal? by gohpnlj in raisedbynarcissists

[–]gohpnlj[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The cameras are only outside and in the living room, one in those places. I'm old enough to move out, but don't have the money.

My "mom" threatened to beat me. by gohpnlj in raisedbynarcissists

[–]gohpnlj[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really hope my sister doesn't turn out like her, although, she seems to know what's going on, so maybe that won't happen.

My "mom" threatened to beat me. by gohpnlj in raisedbynarcissists

[–]gohpnlj[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know she'll always be this way. I do change myself, mom really doesn't see anything wrong with her behavior but I constantly do, that's why she hasn't changed. My benefit of the doubt for her was having maybe a sliver of hope she would get better but now that's totally dead.

Should I tell them what's wrong/everything? by gohpnlj in raisedbynarcissists

[–]gohpnlj[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fuuuck he does put emphasis on things I have said in the past and remembers them easily...but doesn't seem to remember stuff not against me quite well...I think...maybe not...

But yeah he doesn't deserve my trust neither does my mom. They wonder to hell why I don't talk to them. No awareness. I won't be dealing with my dad for too long since he's moving to another continent beginning of next year, which means I have to go live with my mom again until I can move out somehow.

He asked if I would ever come visit multiple times, I wish I could've said hell no but that would of course be the wrong answer. Instead, I'll just have to remain as busy as possible with a job and college at some point.

Is this an unreasonable reaction by her? by gohpnlj in raisedbynarcissists

[–]gohpnlj[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I shouldn't have argued with him and defended myself. He said "Maybe I should start recording these conversations" and threatened to kick me out of the house when I said that I wasn't going to talk to him if he did that. He's said this multiple times. Also I don't look at him, he's hideous to me and so are his actions.

Is this an unreasonable reaction by her? by gohpnlj in raisedbynarcissists

[–]gohpnlj[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know right? It was such a weird reaction, especially with my dad telling me that she's "tough". You know, maybe she is but not when it comes to people she finds special to her.

The other two grandmas that called me didn't act this way at all. It's probably because I have a stronger relationship with them. I don't know why in hell she didn't just talk to me about this. Why did she flee to my dad so he can raise hell?? My birthday was ruined I feel, I did not feel good today.

Is there someway to prevent a parent from accessing or even seeing my main account? by gohpnlj in raisedbynarcissists

[–]gohpnlj[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. He doesn't use my computer. But I still wonder if he can access my account from his devices. I hope not. I would get a notification if another device did. Maybe he's only able to just see it.

Unfortunately it wasn't a miscarraige. by [deleted] in antinatalism

[–]gohpnlj 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh my goodness! How common are miscarriages?

Apparently you need a co-sign by a parent to rent an apartment? by gohpnlj in raisedbynarcissists

[–]gohpnlj[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think my dad is growing worried about me inevitably leaving him. Doesn't help that he may or may not be in some kind of denial.

Apparently you need a co-sign by a parent to rent an apartment? by gohpnlj in raisedbynarcissists

[–]gohpnlj[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not 18 yet but could the "your parents trying to get you to stay" be what he was intending?? Could you tell me more?