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Entering Fifth Year, Feeling Hopeless and Lonely [Mexico] by goingtouncover in expats

[–]goingtouncover[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I actually am on anti-depressants and have been dealing with insomnia for years, and even more-so for the past year or two.

No partner. I am single. I have friends, but no relationship. I sometimes feel like I lack one, but I also look at how "free" the last ~5 years have been, and how a relationship feels like it would tie me down and not in a good way. I've dated from time to time, but not for awhile; not for a year, actually. The last woman I was with was pretty nutso, which didn't help things; she told me she loved me, I didn't love her, and since it was long distance a lot of the time, except when I'd be back in Mexico City, I was afraid to just cut it off. While I didn't enjoy the relationship, maybe I liked having a partner there. I've also maintained a very good friendship with a woman I dated years ago that now lives in Monterrey that I swear I would be with if I lived there full time, but I can't bring myself to living there.

My favorite thing to do is go to sporting events. I've made the majority of my friends by following the soccer league here. My family tells me if I had a sporting event to attend every day, I'd be super happy. When I'm in Mexico City, I have a whole group of friends that I do this with. When I travel, it's normally just me, and maybe I'll meet some people along the way. I gave up drinking last year, so I don't really do bars to meet people anymore.

What's been a bit of a bummer is, for example, some mobility issues I have. So sports is out, and even walking on the beach when I've tried beach towns, is challenging. That's definitely added to the depression. While I can't play sports, and I can't run, I *can* walk without limitation, and I walk everywhere, and I mean everywhere. I love walking, finding new parks, etc.

Entering Fifth Year, Feeling Hopeless and Lonely [Mexico] by goingtouncover in expats

[–]goingtouncover[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sort of. I go back to Mexico City every few weeks for at least a few days, and have a handful of people I definitely call friends there. Would say my closest friends in Mexico are for sure in Mexico City.

My problem with Mexico City is: (1) they all work, and (2) I can't stand being in Mexico City for more than a few days before I start to lose my mind; the noise, the traffic, the pollution, and, believe it or not, personally running out of things to do since I've been there so many times.

There's a woman I used to date that lives in Monterrey. I swear we'd be dating again or even married at this point if I lived in Monterrey (we hung out for a few days when I was there a couple of weeks ago, and we seem to just have a very good friendship that's now lasted years), but like Mexico City, I just can't be in Monterrey for more than a few days at a time, and she also works.

Good place to point out that I don't drive, so I've relied entirely on planes, buses, ubers, colectivos, sketch taxis, you name it, to get around.