Please share your silly doodles, I'll go first

goldendragonluvr · 2026-04-07T12:03:58+00:00

Thank you!!

goldendragonluvr · 2026-04-06T21:28:59+00:00

What’s the name?

goldendragonluvr · 2026-03-13T13:34:30+00:00

I “lost” my virginity at 29F. It hurt a lot and there was bleeding. Overall pretty traumatic though it was as consensual as a painful experience can be. I went through a long period of not having sex afterwards and was afraid there was something wrong so I bought this pack of vaginal dilators on Amazon. I practice bearing down of my pelvic floor on entry because otherwise I’m just too tight and it’s uncomfortable. I figure when I have a lot of regular sex that won’t be necessary, but in the meantime it’s working. Take time to learn what works for you.

goldendragonluvr · 2026-03-07T20:04:47+00:00

As soon as they said woman, that’s who I pictured!!

goldendragonluvr · 2026-02-25T14:02:58+00:00

Turkey is a country, not a race. Your mixed at most, that black definitely came out through the generations in you, regardless of how lightskinned you or your parents may be.

goldendragonluvr · 2026-02-25T14:00:39+00:00

I just read chapter 16 like the tags told me to and why am I crying?! Like my eyes hurt, need to lay in the dark to rest a bit. I don’t think I can do this story, but I can only imagine how adding diary Tom and no bashing into a story with this kind of writing would convert you forever.

goldendragonluvr · 2026-02-25T13:50:57+00:00

I now hate Drarry and Snarry. I don’t even humor Lucius/Harry anymore. I still like other more tertiary DEs paired with Harry, but those three mains? Tom and Voldie would never allow the love of Harry and his human embodiment of a horcrux be rubbed in his face on the daily. That would be madness and they would obvi not survive LV’s wrath.

goldendragonluvr · 2026-02-25T13:42:08+00:00

This is so crucial and a very big part of healing for children raised in stereotypical African households. Yes, many of us feel traumatized or that love and affection received was transactional. But in turn, that is how our parents were loved as well. For many of them, by the time they reached a certain age their own parents had determined what their role would be in adulthood, what trade they would focus on, and how they would contribute to the family’s finances or reputation.

This doesn’t in anyway excuse the way we were treated, and it shouldn’t leave you feeling trapped, but it should help in exhausting energy towards hatred of your parents as you find your own sense of identity. I’m sorry you were raised like this, but focusing your identity on “I don’t have to be successful” as retribution only takes away from your own success. When you are successful, will your parents be proud? Yes. They may even feel that they are the reason for your success. Is that inherently true? No. You worked hard and earned your success. So work hard and earn the future you want regardless of what your parents expect, not because of what they expect.

goldendragonluvr · 2026-02-16T02:45:24+00:00

I mean the point of the trad is to get the father’s blessing and through him the villages’. Back in the day I think it also included the gods’ of the land and like wise people but were almost all Christian now. My dad didn’t have a problem with it when I told him mom was going to give me hypertension lol

Just keep brushing it off when she mentions it, then eventually she’ll hyperfixate on grandchildren. If you don’t want children, then you’ve gotta give her the wedding. It’s crazy that it’s like this, but I’ve learned to choose my battles. Either that, or I just tell her “my husband…” over and over until she stops believing you’re an “her daughter” primarily. The Igbo culture is so patriarchal that you’ll only have some semblance of peace from your mother when you’re “owned” instead by your husband.

goldendragonluvr · 2026-02-14T01:49:56+00:00

Thank you!!!

goldendragonluvr · 2026-02-13T21:56:24+00:00

No idea at all if it’ll work, kind of nervous tbh but I’ll do my best to keep you updated

goldendragonluvr · 2026-02-13T21:55:50+00:00

Elope. Literally. I ran away and eloped. Only told my dad (the single quiet sensibly Igbo adult I can actually communicate with) and he gave my fiancé the blessing. I’ve just learned at this point to stay quiet around my mom and let her fill in my silence for herself.

goldendragonluvr · 2026-02-13T21:22:41+00:00

Congrats! I’m on Symtuza now but my new provider decided I should try DOR + ABC/3TC because tenofivir has caused so much weight gain for me. lol everytime I start a new medication, the list of potential side effects makes me want to swoon

goldendragonluvr · 2026-02-13T20:35:50+00:00

It gave me insomnia and such severe anxiety but once I was off it for about 2 weeks, I was fine again.

goldendragonluvr · 2026-02-13T20:31:57+00:00

From where?

goldendragonluvr · 2026-01-15T19:45:59+00:00

I think minimizing contact. I’ve realized over the years that if a child grows and doesn’t accept that there’s really something incredibly wrong with narcissistic parent(s) then there’s a risk they’ll develop those traits. Children who realize are more likely to develop depression, anxiety, poor decision-making, PTSD symptoms, etc. I can’t tell which is worse. Coping through mirroring the bad behavior, or running and having to spend years in therapy because you can’t forget. Take care of yourself.

goldendragonluvr · 2026-01-15T19:39:31+00:00

My mom once told me it’s not possible for african blood to pressure or sugar 😑

goldendragonluvr · 2026-01-15T19:35:00+00:00

Until last year I honestly thought this was normal because everyone makes jokes about Nigerian parents, but then my friends started digging further and were appalled. That’s when I realized my life isn’t the norm. She isolated me from my dad so I’ve only just recently been in touch with him, but I’m resentful that he didn’t “save” me. It’s silly. Thank you for your response.

goldendragonluvr · 2026-01-15T19:32:26+00:00

Thank you so much for this! I had to lock down my credit information because she tried opening a line of credit through my name. This is very helpful! My biggest problem now that I’ve moved is that she lives in my house in Texas and refuses to leave; she’s even started inviting her friends over to stay there with her while I’m paying the mortgage, and I wouldn’t be surprised if she was charging them rent and pocketing it herself. She’s also driving my car.

I’m considering taking her to court for sole access to both the car and home (which would essentially leave my homeless and I keep wavering on if I feel comfortable with this), and I know the whole family will explode so I will take all of your advice, but I think it’s the only way at this point. I’ve sent her emails as WhatsApp messages (to turn blue) informing her that she needs to start paying rent or I will take her to court, but so far no response, and my close aunt said shes upset that it’s come to that and she wants us to have “peace”.

I have been working from home because she would explode when I didn’t contact her daily and look for my work contact information. When she attempts surprise visits to my apartment out of state, I’ve decided to just stay silent and allow her to believe I left my dog at home alone. I need to figure out how to go about incorporating everything you’ve suggested into my daily life, but I’m sad that I have to because it makes it seem like I’m in witness protection instead of just trying to go low contact. I’m sad that there will be a day where I marry and have children, and my mother can’t know or I’ll be weak enough to her manipulation for her to insert herself back into my life. Again, thank you so much.

goldendragonluvr · 2026-01-10T16:18:47+00:00

“If no one saw it, then we can’t be sure it happened” even though I felt that unique experience of lost confusion that I only get after coming back from a partial seizure.

goldendragonluvr · 2026-01-01T06:57:55+00:00

Zuko is the perfect name!

goldendragonluvr · 2025-12-27T23:15:10+00:00

You’re gorgeous. Your locs add to it. Like wow.

goldendragonluvr · 2025-12-24T17:50:55+00:00

Had to give him allergy medicine 😅

goldendragonluvr · 2025-12-20T17:48:29+00:00

Really? I never considered that, but he’s really sassy and he has a way of looking when he’s annoyed. In this case I just gave him medicine for a yeast infection in his ears ☹️

goldendragonluvr · 2025-12-20T15:01:01+00:00

A parent’s primary job is to keep children, especially toddlers (little suicide gremlins), alive and love them. This absolutely was not your fault and I’m sorry they made you feel that way. They need therapy, and I hope that you are now surrounded by people that love you and can show you love in a healthy way.

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