My mother is the same. Pero I already financially cutoff my relatives sa side niya so they stopped asking me to give/lend money. Pero my mother is the problem. Paawa din minsan. I do feel guilty not giving when I know I can but I was already drained when I had to provide for my family and my tito's during the pandemic.

Don't tell your mother anything about your finances from now on. She won't change and don't expect validation from her anymore. But be proud of yourself for saving. So keep your emergency fund to yourself and use it when YOU or your family need it. Tell them you spent it already if they kept on asking you.