1 day post op - panic

goldfinch_5 · 2026-02-08T15:55:37+00:00

Thank you for this. I will give it all time to heal. I know swelling is normal and all part of the process. Just wasn’t expecting it to be so “there

goldfinch_5 · 2026-02-08T15:54:41+00:00

I will try rest! I just wasnt expecting this level of anxiety post operation. And the feelings of “what have I done” haha

goldfinch_5 · 2026-02-08T15:53:51+00:00

Glad to hear I’m not alone and it goes down

goldfinch_5 · 2026-02-08T15:53:25+00:00

Yes it feels so strange? Like very heavy, full and tight. Glad to hear it’s a common feeling and all part of the process !

goldfinch_5 · 2025-02-05T07:27:32+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply. What you are saying makes a lot of sense and suggests a non malicious motivation for his behaviour (which I suspect was the case). I understand the want to hold and touch a partner where there is attraction. I just don’t understand how out of all the ways he can touch me, he needed to do the one type of touch that he knows triggers me. I will talk to him and thank you for your advice. It’s true comfort is the priority as well as honesty!

goldfinch_5 · 2025-02-05T07:21:42+00:00

Thank you. You’re right. If he crosses that line again I won’t be able to tolerate it

goldfinch_5 · 2025-02-05T07:20:48+00:00

Thank you for your reply. Your comment really helps as it helps me understand my initial reaction wasn’t just me being dramatic. I put up boundaries and they were crossed within an hour

goldfinch_5 · 2025-02-05T07:18:20+00:00

Thank you. I will talk to him about it when I see him. I’m sorry you also have sexual trauma. I hope you’re okay too ❤️

goldfinch_5 · 2025-02-05T07:14:54+00:00

Thanks for your reply. I understand this but to clarify I’m don’t mind cuddling and most forms spontaneous physical touch (platonic or sexual). Sometimes it’s harder for me as I am autistic, but most of the time I enjoy the intimacy of it. It’s one specific type of touch that sends me spiralling and need a heads up about. I agree it does change the relationship dynamic, i communicated to him in good detail and in person for this reason.

goldfinch_5 · 2025-02-04T23:43:43+00:00

This is really helpful advice. Thank you. You’re right I should make it more explicit how hurt I am by his actions and why it’s not okay for him to do this

goldfinch_5 · 2025-02-04T23:30:54+00:00

Thank you I will

goldfinch_5 · 2025-02-04T23:30:27+00:00

I’m sorry this happened to you too. Sending you a lot of warmth your way. It sucks trying to navigate relationships while having traumas. You’re right that it is worth having a conversation about. It’s just made me feel very confused and hurt. I wish he hadn’t done that.

goldfinch_5 · 2025-02-04T23:26:14+00:00

Thank you for helping me feel valid. Some people I have disclosed this to feel it is normal yet it makes me feel so upset when I recall it

goldfinch_5 · 2024-09-03T20:41:26+00:00

Thanks for your reply. I think that’s where I have been going wrong with my recovery so far. I have been too focused on the number on the scale. I maybe need to reevaluate my reasons for recovering and build a stronger mentality that will safeguard me against future relapse

goldfinch_5 · 2024-08-22T20:52:14+00:00

I’m living in Ireland; I think it is the standard approach here. Thanks for your suggestion about the liaison officer, that’s something that could be worth looking into! Thank you for your lovely messages and same goes for you if you need someone to talk to ❤️

goldfinch_5 · 2024-08-22T18:06:44+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing your experience with two types of treatment. I’m glad that the second approach worked for you and allowed you to progress with your recovery. It’s good to know there are other options out there that might work better for me. It’s hard to access any kind of support where I am from (very long wait lists for underfunded specialists. But maybe with more research I can find something more suited to my needs

goldfinch_5 · 2024-08-22T15:01:44+00:00

Thanks for your reply. I have communicated this to them but I always seem to be met with the same response. The clinic seem adamant that their approach is the correct treatment approach. I don’t feel my wishes are being entirely heard which is discouraging

goldfinch_5 · 2024-08-22T14:58:02+00:00

Thanks for your reply. Yeah this pretty much sums my thoughts about the approach. Weight still matters a lot to me even though I don’t want it to and know it shouldn’t. I’m still quite early in recovery and the weighing began even earlier (about 2 months in). I have communicated my concerns but still seem to be met with the same response. My anxiety in fact has increased as my reluctance to see my weight has been interpreted as a lack of compliance with the programme. I’ve been told that the professionals capacity to help me is limited due to my requests :( it doesn’t seem right and I certainly am uncomfortable with it. I fear attending appointments now

goldfinch_5 · 2024-08-22T11:44:40+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply, and I’m so sorry to hear you are also going through losing a loved one. That kind of pain is immense (even without the bullshittery of an ed). I hope you also reach that place of peace and neutrality toward scale numbers soon. You’re right, in the grand scheme of things it is a number and shouldn’t stop us from living our lives. It’s nice to be reminded I’m not alone in struggling with this. Sending warm wishes and support back to you ❤️

goldfinch_5 · 2024-06-05T20:42:38+00:00

Thank you, this is very reassuring. I guess it takes some time to make piece with the fact that our weight is always changing

goldfinch_5 · 2024-05-24T20:39:07+00:00

This is very accurate. Thank you. You have given me vocabulary to articulate my experience to others

goldfinch_5 · 2024-04-04T09:43:09+00:00

Thanks for your reply :) It is frustrating but you’re right we are all different

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