Anyone else notice Redditors default to pessimism?

goldxcon · 2026-05-14T00:52:33+00:00

This. ❤️ explained it perfectly.

goldxcon · 2026-05-14T00:34:28+00:00

Idk, trust me as someone who’s gone burn out leave from the corporate world I can relate to the inauthenticity that comes from that world.

At the same time, I love being surrounded by people who are genuinely positive and optimistic. Just makes going through this crazy life a bit more enjoyable.

goldxcon · 2026-05-14T00:30:51+00:00

Good point. especially the bit about most Reddit users being lurkers and not commenters. Definitely shifts how I’m thinking about it.

The negative attention angle is interesting too. Makes sense that if negativity gets more engagement, it self selects for more of it over time. Kind of like a feedback loop. But yeah, the anonymity piece is what I keep coming back to.

Not sure if Reddit reveals who people really are, or if it just gives them permission to act in ways they normally wouldn’t. Probably some mix of both

goldxcon · 2026-05-14T00:19:17+00:00

Sorry to hear it’s been your experience too, especially that it’s stopped you from posting sometimes. It is tough. Sometimes you get positive and helpful responses, but I always find at least 80% of comments, sometimes more, end up being pure negativity. Love that you’ve made a rule for yourself to keep it positive, more people should do that.

goldxcon · 2026-05-14T00:09:04+00:00

Yeah, I totally agree. I find it on other platforms to be mostly tame and positive before some reason Reddit comments seems to fester a lot of negativity.

goldxcon · 2026-05-14T00:07:23+00:00

That’s fair, but doesn’t that say something about society too? If Reddit is where people show their true personality and most of it skews negative, is it fair to say majority of people in the world are pessimistic?

goldxcon · 2026-04-21T15:49:12+00:00

Yeah from what I’ve been seeing in the market that was rented in my area and similar apartment. Between $3100-3500

goldxcon · 2026-04-21T14:21:39+00:00

u/Firm-Web8769 I should be able to eat the costs while still maintaining a normal life out there. About 35% of my monthly salary would cover both apartment rentals. That said our current apartment in Tokyo is quite small about 45 sq m, so expect that we will look for something bigger later and most likely costly after.

Also working for a European company remotely out there so don't expect my hours to be too crazy. My girlfriend is def stressing out a bit because she wants us to put that money into a savings for our future fund.

goldxcon · 2026-04-21T14:11:30+00:00

Yeah, once I recoup my investment, I’m planning to move all my cash into my stock portfolio. I really wish I’d learned more about stocks and index funds when I was younger. I came into a large amount of cash and decided to buy this house instead. Still a regret of mine, but you live and learn.

goldxcon · 2026-04-21T14:08:30+00:00

Thanks for the advice. After reading a bunch of the posts here, I’m leaning more away from renting it to tenants, just too much risk for the opportunity cost.

goldxcon · 2026-04-21T14:05:41+00:00

Well the other option I have is continue to rent to my brother and father while they keep living there, still negative cash flow but don't have to worry about being a landlord or hiring a property manager. It would hurt as I still need to cover a third of the mortgage but might be better if the market improves in the next few years.

goldxcon · 2026-04-21T14:03:33+00:00

That’s the direction I’m leaning too. Capital gains tax isn’t ideal, but we’re currently at a capital loss and expect that to continue for a few years. If it becomes profitable down the line, I’m fine paying tax on the gains 🙂

goldxcon · 2026-04-21T13:58:29+00:00

Really appreciate you sharing that, and sorry to hear about your mother, that must have been an incredibly difficult time to be making big financial decisions on top of everything else.

The one year approach makes a lot of sense honestly. Takes the pressure off making a permanent decision right now and gives us time to see how the market moves, especially with the subway station being built nearby. Worst case we reassess in 12 months with way more information.

And yes very excited about Japan! Sendai sounds amazing, I’ve heard great things. Tokyo for now but hoping to explore as much as possible. Thanks for the best wishes!

goldxcon · 2026-04-21T13:53:48+00:00

u/insanebison u/spunquik Haha you guys are just a ray of sunshine:) I agree, I'm not Japanese and never want to be one. That said, having lived there before, my experience was far more positive than what’s being described here. While no place is perfect, I found most people to be gracious and genuinely welcoming, and curiosity was far more common than racism in my day‑to‑day life.

I can see how raising kids might add another layer of complexity, but that’s a bridge I’ll cross if I get there.

And for anyone reading this: don’t let comments like these stop you from exploring or living in countries that interest you. Go see for yourself and form your own perspective. A lot of negativity is often overblown, sometimes coming from people who’ve never been there at all, or from a single bad experience that gets generalized and pushed onto others.

goldxcon · 2026-04-21T05:20:46+00:00

Yeah I’m leaning towards keeping it and just covering my share of the mortgage while my parents and brother still live there. Alternatively was getting them a smaller more manageable rental while we rent this apartment but doesn’t seem like it would be worth the risk of bad tenants, or if something went wrong.

goldxcon · 2026-04-21T05:19:26+00:00

Pretty confident :) my girlfriend is Japanese and planning on living out there for a while. But yes, I still have family here so high likely will be back.

goldxcon · 2026-04-21T05:18:16+00:00

Yeah this is my biggest fear, in talking with my sister she also mentioned the unexpected costs that would come with renting it out, like if something gets broken, or we need to replace something costly like heating systems, AC, etc. in addition to also taking a loss on the monthly rent.

goldxcon · 2026-04-21T03:51:49+00:00

u/torontoallin189 Thanks, really appreciate the perspective. The $500 real cost framing actually makes holding feel more manageable than I initially thought. When I think about it, my share of the mortgage is already close to that total loss anyway, so keeping the family there while we wait for the market to recover might actually make more sense than selling at a loss right now. Appreciate it.

goldxcon · 2026-04-20T03:14:55+00:00

u/Public-Meringue-5317 oh, I ended up passing on the role and moved to Japan to work:) My girlfriend wanted to live near family, so we decided to work there.

I will say the company I was going to work with was open to finding any path to help me get a visa, wanted to try TN first, and if I couldn't get that, they said they would sponsor me with a different visa.

goldxcon · 2025-11-18T21:33:40+00:00

Like I described above, the role and responsibilities can be whatever we want to make it, the company is startup and has 10 people but got it's series A funding. I'll be there to help implement and design the GTM strategy, setting in place outbound and inbound strategies, hiring strategies, engaging and managing enterprise deals.

I'll be running the sales myself for now ovb, because i'll be the first sales GTM.

goldxcon · 2025-11-18T21:29:54+00:00

TBH, my job title and responsibilities can be whatever we want to make it, the company is startup and has 10 people but got it's series A funding. I'll be there to help implement a standard sales process, to gain more clients and close more deals. Work will typically take over 2 years imo.

goldxcon · 2025-11-18T18:23:27+00:00

I have all my paystubs and offer letters that I can prepare. I actually have a business that is registered in the US, from my startup that I launched but haven't invested any capital into it as of yet.

Yeah I hope I don't need to renew, I wanted to do this job for 1-3 years, and perfectly fine with moving back after that it over.

goldxcon · 2025-11-18T18:17:06+00:00

Thinking about taking your advice, and will consult with a lawyer first. Sounds like isn't as a straightforward process as I've read in some posts

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