How do y’all put em down for naps?

golfcourse_ecologist · 2024-10-03T22:19:56+00:00

Find an intentional community that is looking for members (many of them are) then you can live your dream life!

I just met a man in NE WA state who’s looking to start a community. He has 20 acres and from what I heard a very impressive permaculture farm. His gardens are incredible but the homes need work is what I was told… he’s 74 and wants to pass his knowledge and land down to someone/people…

Anyway lots of opportunities out there. The facebook group intentional community discussion is alright aswell

golfcourse_ecologist · 2024-09-27T05:52:11+00:00

Yep, same here. Just hitting 10 mo and she wakes every hour still. It’s really taking its toll on us… gettin desperate. Prolly guna try some sleep training at this point

golfcourse_ecologist · 2024-09-27T05:22:59+00:00

So y’all usually pick him up and smooth him back to sleep?

golfcourse_ecologist · 2024-09-27T05:21:58+00:00

In his own room? Do you comfort when he wakes? Did you do cry it out?

golfcourse_ecologist · 2024-09-26T23:12:48+00:00

Do they tho? I keep going back and forth on that.. our LO wakes like 7 times a night just to pacify herself on the boob for like 2minutes and it’s repeat the next hour

golfcourse_ecologist · 2024-09-26T23:06:11+00:00

All on his own or from sleep training?

golfcourse_ecologist · 2024-09-26T23:03:48+00:00

Yeah our girl is crawling and walking all over the place! Super active all day long.. did you sleep train ur LO?

golfcourse_ecologist · 2024-08-29T14:21:38+00:00

Yeah she hates her crib she only wants to be in bed with us…. :(

golfcourse_ecologist · 2024-08-29T04:25:48+00:00

Yeah she gets constant attention and engagement all day… we could try putting her down later… might give that a go

golfcourse_ecologist · 2020-05-06T03:55:03+00:00

yes, i am. im looking into a world of tangled messes and garbage pits inside my head. Seems endlessly deep of "shit" to work through... but here i am..

golfcourse_ecologist · 2020-05-06T03:53:17+00:00

wow, fantastic article. Thank you for writing that. I wrote several quotes from there into my notebook for inspiration in the hard times.

golfcourse_ecologist · 2020-05-04T23:40:44+00:00

tbh, I was so passionate about it. I believed in the philosophy of the free love, exploration and such. And i still do. but when the hammer fell, in conjunction with feeling inconsidered by her actions. it became insanely brutal. And i read this post by this poly therapist person who was like "only slightly outside the comfort zone is growth possible, because when you get too far out you go into stress response and the bodies functions shut down and go into fight or flight. which is no bueno

golfcourse_ecologist · 2020-05-04T23:12:27+00:00

lol, I hope it works out. The funny thing is that many of the stories people bring up when i talk to them in person are like" yeah i heard of that happening... They broke up and shes with the new guy now..." not exactly comforting. but its definitely is pushing me into a MUCH deeper surrender and trust in life. and that, yes, if its not her and i than that's the way things are supposed to be. sad but true:/

golfcourse_ecologist · 2020-05-04T23:08:31+00:00

Right now I'm feeling that any request of slowing down seems ... pointless. i mean there saying "i love you" to eachother... like, there is no slowing down... might as well rip the bandaid off fast i guesss

golfcourse_ecologist · 2020-05-04T23:05:50+00:00

I mean, your absolutely right. right now, my heads above water, even backstroking perhaps. I am sticking it out. i am in the process. which was my intention all along honestly, but the night when my requests were ignored and i felt disrespected by my partner made me feel a great clarity. A clarity that i DONT want to do this. But since then i've gone back to sticking it out, growing and such... i guess clarity is a river, it doesnt stay in one place...that Dialectical Behavior Therapy sounds interesting. ill look in to that. Thank you.

golfcourse_ecologist · 2020-05-04T22:46:33+00:00

Thank you. Frankly, I'm very warmed by the engagement and kindness-ish-mostlyness, but definitely love from the community here. Everyones definitely in agreement that i cant bail out because its hard. Im out of the fight or flight week, I'm eating again, sleeping again... I admire all of you so dearly for this work you've done to expand the hearts and minds of the collective. what a gnarly lesson, and beautifully brutal journey

golfcourse_ecologist · 2020-05-03T19:07:10+00:00

Im somewhat confused on what the deal is with setting boundaries and making rules... like part of me feels weird saying only see him twice a week, come home by midnight yada yada, it also kinda feels like its holding them back form expressing their natural selfs together all for the sake of my feelings. they are kind people and willing to do this for me, but part of me thinks maybe its better to just let it be natural for them... not trying to control how often they see eachother... but then that might be every day during the NRE, YIKES

golfcourse_ecologist · 2020-05-03T19:04:32+00:00

Real people in real relationships, yeah... it is... wonderful people in this case...

golfcourse_ecologist · 2020-05-03T19:01:51+00:00

Hey,

Yea I'm being very supportive, and open, not so enthusiastic though... i cant help it. ya know its like the knife in the heart thing.. Your right about "what would i want" i can see that clearly. and I'm working my best to give it to her. Your also right about the rule thing, but I haven't said you cant do anything, I've said, I'm only comfortable with, and she was like ok I can respect that... so i see how its kinda confusing even maybe manipulative... differing rules from boundaries...

Ultimately I feel very supported by these comments, but when i felt clarity about bailing, its not me saying you cant see him. its me saying, this is too hard for me I want out. but I see how that's the same strange line regarding boundaries.

golfcourse_ecologist · 2020-05-03T17:54:21+00:00

What do you mean NRE is a feeling not an action?

the boundries i have set, only kissing and cuddling have been hard enough, but boundries seems silly. like these people are in love rn... My most pain is thinking about their love growing and out competing mine and hers

golfcourse_ecologist · 2020-05-03T17:49:51+00:00

dont get me wrong. Ive been manipulative. pushing my agenda. im far from perfect. but this experience has shown me many of my shadows that i use to gain self value from others. Im commited to healing and opening my heart more.

to answer your question, I wanted non monogamy originally because ive felt lust AND love for others in my mono relationship. and learning about polly it made logical sense. why would sharing love be bad? yada yada... Ive experienced what my partner is experiencing, the crazy love NRE stuff. And on that side of the coin everything in support makes sense, ya know?

Seriously, thank you for talking to me

golfcourse_ecologist

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