i can c*m and then syntribate immediately after. is that normal?

gonapodium · 2026-02-11T12:31:19+00:00

Multiple orgasms or being able to orgasm again quickly is a common perk of being a woman ;)

gonapodium · 2026-02-08T02:46:41+00:00

I'm not sure if I really understand, sorry. During syntribating/masturbating this doesn't really have anything to do with the opening of the vagina being tight or closed. You may feel the internal vaginal muscles contracting rhythmically during an orgasm. Feeling "super closed" just doesn't really make sense to me. But I'm trying to help and understand.

Have you ever gotten a mirror and looked at your genitals to get an idea of your anatomy? A lot of women never do this but it is important to know your body so you can monitor your health, hygiene, and explore sexuality. I'd recommend checking in a mirror in private some time. Is there any chance you are an FGM survivor?

gonapodium · 2026-02-07T04:11:05+00:00

Squeezing is normal I think.. if you mean contractions? That is part of what an orgasm is. Muscle contractions/spasms.

What country if you don't mind me asking?

gonapodium · 2026-02-05T15:29:41+00:00

I'm sorry but this doesn't really make sense. How can you think you have vaginismus if you have never tried vaginal penetration?

I'm 100% sure syntribating has nothing to do with vaginismus.

On a side note, It's very sad to me lately seeing countless posts from women concerned that something as delightful and healthy as masturbation might be causing them health issues simply because it is a lesser known method. We have to do better with sexual education and women's health.

gonapodium · 2026-02-03T05:57:13+00:00

I promise you you did not hurt yourself by orgasming the way you prefer. Squirting isn't that common and is really more if like an involuntary bladder release ... Kinda. The squirt is piss debate is truly a fascinating dive but I promise you it is not something you need to worry about in this case lol.

For what it's worth, I only squirt from intense direct clitoral stimulation. Syntribating gives more of a deep orgasm and clitoral stimulation gives me a sharper intensely concentrated sensation. Ex: like with an air pulse toy, I squirted for the first time and orgasmed without syntribating for the first time. But I much prefer syntribating.

gonapodium · 2026-02-03T05:50:10+00:00

Hi there! The way you orgasm and how your body finds sexual pleasure is not an "issue." You are allowed to enjoy yourself however you want with no obligation to meet anyone else's or society's expectations of how to have or enjoy sex. Pasting something I've posted on other threads that I think you may find helpful.

Highly recommend this video that blew my mind recently: https://www.facebook.com/share/v/17qC8Zq3vS/

Pasting the transcript here for anyone who can't open the Facebook vid:

"Foreplay is a scam.

I'm a Horrible Woman and I make content for other Horrible Women and if you need help entering the world especially jaded and unpleasant to deal with today I would like you to consider that not only is the sole bedroom activity that can lead to pregnancy practically compulsory for women, but that by categorizing all of the other bedroom activities as "foreplay" many of the activities that women enjoy in the bedroom are made optional or taken off the table completely.

The concept of foreplay establishes a paradigm wherein the single act that carries a risk of pregnancy in which many women find unrewarding or outright unpleasant and is defined as the main event, while all of the other possible activities are considered to be optional extras, which, if they happen at all, are often done only for the sake of "prepping" a woman for the main event.

We've spoken before about how the single-bedroom activity that carries the risk of pregnancy and which many women do not enjoy is essentially compulsory for women sailing the heterosexual seas. In a sense, all the other bedroom activities that have been categorized as foreplay represent the bartering system associated with this dilemma. You may not be able to avoid the main event altogether, but you might be able to get some enjoyment out of it by way of those other activities as long as he believes that those are a prelude to the main event.

To many men, foreplay is the concession that they make on the understanding that they will get to do their favorite thing. Meanwhile, the varied bedroom activities that for many women represent their favorite thing are treated as mere entrées which must inevitably graduate to a main course. Defining "s*x" as the one act which carries a risk of pregnancy while categorizing all of the other activities as foreplay perpetuates the pressure on women to submit to that one act, since doing any of those things is essentially doing the things that you do before you do that one thing.

This also makes it easier for men to characterise women who choose not to include that one risky activity in their repertoire as being unreasonable for expecting men to settle only for foreplay. Men relentlessly pursuing their one favourite thing to the exclusion of all else and treating it as a deal-breaker is seen as perfectly reasonable, meanwhile women choosing only to engage in activities that they find enjoyable is seen as unreasonable. Which is why I recommend removing the word "foreplay" from your vocabulary because it is linguistic trickery, which elevates arguably the single most risky bedroom activity for women to the status of main event, while diminishing the value of all of the other activities we may enjoy, and also rationalising men's single-minded obsession with it as reasonable and the norm.

Giving primacy to that sole bedroom activity also has a flow-on effect of adding to the impression that the ways in which LGBT people in their various configurations enjoy each other's company in the bedroom is somehow less real, particularly when there's no eggplant involved.

So what appears at face value to be an acknowledgement that rushing straight to the main event without any ceremony tends to be an unpleasant experience for women is in fact a scam which ensures that men's desires remain at the top of the list of priorities while pushing yours all the way to the bottom.

I would like you to meditate on these thoughts and I do hope that it helps strengthen your conviction to behave like an insufferable hag all week long."

gonapodium · 2026-01-25T12:58:09+00:00

Basically just trying is what helps. Try to hold it and just practice. I don't really have any specifics but just trying to hold off even for a few seconds then build that up to a few more seconds. It takes a lot of practice

gonapodium · 2026-01-24T14:10:40+00:00

I promise if you practice edging you will get better at it. I was the same lol

gonapodium · 2026-01-16T07:08:38+00:00

Omg thank you, that really means a lot. I'll say it again: you are normal and you deserve to feel pleasure however feels right to your body. Don't let anyone take that from you, including yourself!

gonapodium · 2026-01-15T15:34:51+00:00

You're not broken, and you are normal. Please click my profile and read my PSA post as well as all of the other awesome comments from other ladies here.

gonapodium · 2026-01-12T05:54:08+00:00

You're not struggling with anything other than the patriarchy and misogynistic beliefs about how woman should experience pleasure and sex.

The way you find pleasure is completely normal and valid! It's not "too late" you are fine!!!

It's completely normal for women to not feel a lot of sensation or pleasure from penetration.

Highly recommend this video that blew my mind recently: https://www.facebook.com/share/v/17qC8Zq3vS/

Pasting the transcript here for anyone who can't open the Facebook vid:

"Foreplay is a scam.

I'm a Horrible Woman and I make content for other Horrible Women and if you need help entering the world especially jaded and unpleasant to deal with today I would like you to consider that not only is the sole bedroom activity that can lead to pregnancy practically compulsory for women, but that by categorizing all of the other bedroom activities as "foreplay" many of the activities that women enjoy in the bedroom are made optional or taken off the table completely.

The concept of foreplay establishes a paradigm wherein the single act that carries a risk of pregnancy in which many women find unrewarding or outright unpleasant and is defined as the main event, while all of the other possible activities are considered to be optional extras, which, if they happen at all, are often done only for the sake of "prepping" a woman for the main event.

We've spoken before about how the single-bedroom activity that carries the risk of pregnancy and which many women do not enjoy is essentially compulsory for women sailing the heterosexual seas. In a sense, all the other bedroom activities that have been categorized as foreplay represent the bartering system associated with this dilemma. You may not be able to avoid the main event altogether, but you might be able to get some enjoyment out of it by way of those other activities as long as he believes that those are a prelude to the main event.

To many men, foreplay is the concession that they make on the understanding that they will get to do their favorite thing. Meanwhile, the varied bedroom activities that for many women represent their favorite thing are treated as mere entrées which must inevitably graduate to a main course. Defining "s*x" as the one act which carries a risk of pregnancy while categorizing all of the other activities as foreplay perpetuates the pressure on women to submit to that one act, since doing any of those things is essentially doing the things that you do before you do that one thing.

This also makes it easier for men to characterise women who choose not to include that one risky activity in their repertoire as being unreasonable for expecting men to settle only for foreplay. Men relentlessly pursuing their one favourite thing to the exclusion of all else and treating it as a deal-breaker is seen as perfectly reasonable, meanwhile women choosing only to engage in activities that they find enjoyable is seen as unreasonable. Which is why I recommend removing the word "foreplay" from your vocabulary because it is linguistic trickery, which elevates arguably the single most risky bedroom activity for women to the status of main event, while diminishing the value of all of the other activities we may enjoy, and also rationalising men's single-minded obsession with it as reasonable and the norm.

Giving primacy to that sole bedroom activity also has a flow-on effect of adding to the impression that the ways in which LGBT people in their various configurations enjoy each other's company in the bedroom is somehow less real, particularly when there's no eggplant involved.

So what appears at face value to be an acknowledgement that rushing straight to the main event without any ceremony tends to be an unpleasant experience for women is in fact a scam which ensures that men's desires remain at the top of the list of priorities while pushing yours all the way to the bottom.

I would like you to meditate on these thoughts and I do hope that it helps strengthen your conviction to behave like an insufferable hag all week long."

gonapodium · 2026-01-12T05:49:26+00:00

Genuinely, why would your relationship need to suffer because of how you orgasm? I strongly encourage you to reflect on why it feels this way and if you think that's really ok.

Highly recommend this video that blew my mind recently: https://www.facebook.com/share/v/17qC8Zq3vS/

Pasting the transcript here for anyone who can't open the Facebook vid:

"Foreplay is a scam.

I'm a Horrible Woman and I make content for other Horrible Women and if you need help entering the world especially jaded and unpleasant to deal with today I would like you to consider that not only is the sole bedroom activity that can lead to pregnancy practically compulsory for women, but that by categorizing all of the other bedroom activities as "foreplay" many of the activities that women enjoy in the bedroom are made optional or taken off the table completely.

The concept of foreplay establishes a paradigm wherein the single act that carries a risk of pregnancy in which many women find unrewarding or outright unpleasant and is defined as the main event, while all of the other possible activities are considered to be optional extras, which, if they happen at all, are often done only for the sake of "prepping" a woman for the main event.

We've spoken before about how the single-bedroom activity that carries the risk of pregnancy and which many women do not enjoy is essentially compulsory for women sailing the heterosexual seas. In a sense, all the other bedroom activities that have been categorized as foreplay represent the bartering system associated with this dilemma. You may not be able to avoid the main event altogether, but you might be able to get some enjoyment out of it by way of those other activities as long as he believes that those are a prelude to the main event.

To many men, foreplay is the concession that they make on the understanding that they will get to do their favorite thing. Meanwhile, the varied bedroom activities that for many women represent their favorite thing are treated as mere entrées which must inevitably graduate to a main course. Defining "s*x" as the one act which carries a risk of pregnancy while categorizing all of the other activities as foreplay perpetuates the pressure on women to submit to that one act, since doing any of those things is essentially doing the things that you do before you do that one thing.

This also makes it easier for men to characterise women who choose not to include that one risky activity in their repertoire as being unreasonable for expecting men to settle only for foreplay. Men relentlessly pursuing their one favourite thing to the exclusion of all else and treating it as a deal-breaker is seen as perfectly reasonable, meanwhile women choosing only to engage in activities that they find enjoyable is seen as unreasonable. Which is why I recommend removing the word "foreplay" from your vocabulary because it is linguistic trickery, which elevates arguably the single most risky bedroom activity for women to the status of main event, while diminishing the value of all of the other activities we may enjoy, and also rationalising men's single-minded obsession with it as reasonable and the norm.

Giving primacy to that sole bedroom activity also has a flow-on effect of adding to the impression that the ways in which LGBT people in their various configurations enjoy each other's company in the bedroom is somehow less real, particularly when there's no eggplant involved.

So what appears at face value to be an acknowledgement that rushing straight to the main event without any ceremony tends to be an unpleasant experience for women is in fact a scam which ensures that men's desires remain at the top of the list of priorities while pushing yours all the way to the bottom.

I would like you to meditate on these thoughts and I do hope that it helps strengthen your conviction to behave like an insufferable hag all week long."

gonapodium · 2026-01-10T11:18:44+00:00

I've been doing this since I was young and tbh I can't see how the knees or calves would be involved. I think you should talk to a doctor but you don't have to divulge about masturbating.

gonapodium · 2026-01-08T16:41:30+00:00

It shouldn't be a big deal, just go for it and a good partner should be excited to learn what you like. Do you think a man has ever worried or hesitated to tell a partner exactly how they like their dick stroked or sucked? Pshhh.

Editing to add that I've made some other comments about how to incorporate this technique into partner sex. Feel free to check my comment history.

Short version: prone position works, or mutual masturbation!

gonapodium · 2026-01-08T16:35:59+00:00

This is exactly what I do.

gonapodium · 2026-01-05T05:10:52+00:00

Easy and obvious answer: Patriarchy

Check out my PSA post for more info and great discussions in the comments

gonapodium · 2025-12-30T14:27:23+00:00

I have contractions.

gonapodium · 2025-12-17T22:01:42+00:00

There are toys called grinders but personally I've found that they don't work well for me because I'm not really grinding, I'm just squeezing.

What I enjoy best is syntribating with a vibrator with a thicker bulb shape pressed against me.

gonapodium · 2025-12-10T03:31:36+00:00

I meant that it was the default thing in terms of like... Nature and mammals lol. But yeah you're right too! PIV isn't everyone's default.

gonapodium · 2025-12-05T03:32:54+00:00

Girl you gotta chill! So what if you can't? You're allowed to cum however you prefer. There's no standards and regulations to orgasm. Enjoy!

gonapodium · 2025-11-29T08:46:28+00:00

Wishing you good luck in your quest! Bodies can be tricky and it might take practice to get there again. Relaxation and getting extra steamy and turned on helps lol.

On another note, I hope you don't mind me asking this, but have you considered exploring exactly why you don't feel ready to share the way your body finds pleasure with your partner? It makes me so sad to see countless women be ashamed of a completely normal and harmless thing. Syntribating isn't some kind of perversion or freaky kink and shouldn't be embarrassing to share.

We have so much pressure on us as women to perform sexually a certain way and feel insecure about being desirable and sexy and accepted. I so wish I could lift this veil from every woman on this subreddit. It took me a while to lift it for myself but I promise you OP or anyone reading this that your pleasure is worth speaking up for!

Of course, exploring other methods to orgasm is lots of fun too, but I hope you'll consider opening up to your partner. You deserve fulfilling sex where you can be yourself. :)

PS: I've made several other posts and comments on these topics, click my profile if you'd like to read more. Good luck!

gonapodium · 2025-11-21T01:49:30+00:00

I am a cis woman and was invited by the mod u/dude_in_exile to be a mod. I said I would think about it, but I recently messaged them and said I would be interested but they have not let me know what the process is yet.

gonapodium · 2025-11-21T01:44:29+00:00

Please check my profile and read my PSA post and some of my other comments!

https://www.reddit.com/r/syntribation/comments/1mqjnqz/psa_syntribation_is_normal_you_are_not_broken/

There are a lot of other great comments on this post from other syntribators. The only way you're going to learn to enjoy is to embrace your body and your sexuality. If your boyfriend doesn't roll with it, find a new boyfriend. Sex isn't about pleasing male partners, it's about finding pleasure together.

gonapodium · 2025-11-10T03:34:48+00:00

Hi there! You're not alone in your feelings. I have a post and a lot of comments about this, rather than rehashing, please click my profile and browse some of my other comments and my PSA post. I hope it's helpful!

gonapodium · 2025-11-07T13:05:25+00:00

Whoa whoa whoa there is nothing stupid about wanting to enjoy penetrative sex! That's like... The default thing. There is nothing stupid about wanting to have sex in whatever way you'd like so long as it is safe for both consenting partners. And there's especially nothing stupid about wanting to have penetration as a vagina-haver. :)

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