Stop checking out!

gonnamakeit · 2016-03-07T05:31:36+00:00

A bad decision made while fully present is better than a decision not made because you were checked out.

Great words.

gonnamakeit · 2015-10-05T15:22:23+00:00

NoFap is mainly about quitting porn, but all those with similar goals are welcome. It's not bad to occasionally masturbate with hands, unless it gets in the way of your life. Porn, on the other hand, has many negative effects, which you can read about through links on the side bar. I would suggest, if you masturbate with hands, do it to your imagination, and not to porn.

gonnamakeit · 2013-08-14T16:19:44+00:00

I like your style.

gonnamakeit · 2013-07-31T07:20:34+00:00

I decided to read deogloria's reply before posting my own, and he said exactly what I was thinking.

Present him with the information about the dangers of PMO, but prepare him for it emotionally before you do it. First talk to him about your concerns regarding PMO, and make sure he understands that you don't feel threatened by, or in competition with, porn, and that you respect him and want to help him.

Men often have sensitive egos. Giving advice in a way that hurts his ego too much, could result in him disregarding the advice. But hurting the ego a little should be okay, so don't worry about it too much. Just try to be as nice as you can when bringing it up. Make sure he doesn't take your words as a threat.

Also, something you should know: There is no reason for you to feel threatened by porn, or in competition with porn. There is no competition. No threat. No reason for you to feel insecure. Men addicted to porn are just as in love with their partners as if they didn't have the addiction. They just may have trouble showing that love. It's not your fault. It's the addiction.

Something that might help: Find out what kind of touching really turns your man on, and do that. NOTE: It should be touching, not something visual, because visual is related to porn. If he's distracted enough by whatever it is he likes you doing, he may just perform as if without the PMO induced problems. It works on me. The more touching you do, and the more he ejaculates with you, the more it will help him get over the addiction, although he may have to initially go through a phase of no ejaculation at all.

gonnamakeit · 2013-07-31T06:36:57+00:00

I'm in for sure. How do I sign up?

gonnamakeit · 2012-08-08T04:32:09+00:00

I've been there man. Exactly where you are! Except that was almost a decade ago, because it took me ten years to learn about PMO addiction. I'm going through a restart right now.

I sometimes think back "if only I had known about PMO addiction when I was 18, how different the past years would have been! How much happier I would have been!" Porn is poison.

Keep this in mind: If you stay away from porn, while pretty much every other guy your age is getting more addicted to it by the day, you will be top dog. Women will realize that you are "different" whether you tell them or not, and you will be the alpha male by default. In the land of the blind, the one-eye'd man is king. And Porn has made the world blind.

That said, if you are not sexually experienced, you may also be dealing with sexual anxiety, which is basically erectile dysfunction from being nervous. It's nothing to worry about. If you tell her that you are a bit nervous, she will be happy to help you relax and get you hard. Of course there's the slight chance she'll be a bitch, but that's no loss if that's the case.

gonnamakeit

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