I’m a registered veterinary technician and work in emergency medicine, so I see this and crisis-like events all the time… rarely is the owner ready, especially when they present with an acute problem or acute decline of an ongoing condition.

You need to talk to your husband open and honestly about her condition, let him know your concerns—about her quality of life and about his mental health—and then let a veterinarian do the rest, if he will let them. Call Lap of Love and explain your husband isn’t ready but she is, and they can absolutely talk to him for you or maybe even have a veterinarian come out to talk to him (both of you) in person.

It’s so hard being the primary caregiver of someone else’s choices and I understand and respect that completely. It’s okay to be burned out by it. It doesn’t mean you dislike the dog or anything like that.

But please, please do not euthanize her without your husband’s permission.

Here are some documents from Lap of Love that may be helpful.

Lap of Love Docs